Why would her sharing her boyfriend, who has a right to privacy, make you feel conned? She's his son, his needs are 24/7, 365 days a year. What difference does her having someone in her life make to that, when her struggles are still as valid whether single or not.
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I already explained why - because she’s misrepresenting herself. To think of it another way, why does she NOT mention having a fiancé? Doesn’t need to feature him, but doesn’t need to pretend he doesn’t exist either
Call me a cynic, but the only reason I can think of it that being a single mum is an essential part of her online image, and she doesn’t want to detract from that. Her struggles ARE valid whether single or not, I agree with you there.
It just seems weird that you’d share your life, warts and all, including graphic videos of your child projectile vomiting in the back of the car, and leave out that you got engaged a while ago.
Absolutely agree with maytoseptember. Nobody is saying this woman isn’t entitled to a holiday or that she doesn’t need help with her child, she quite clearly does need assistance with him. What I take issue with is the lack of honesty about her circumstances and playing on people’s heart strings that she has absolutely nobody in her life to support and help her.
To be clear, I’m not saying she doesn’t need carers. I’m just saying she has very carefully curated a dishonest image that is of maximum benefit to her. This is what doesn’t sit well with me.
I have also noticed that in more recent pictures on her IG she has removed an engagement ring that she was quite clearly wearing before she got all the publicity. Why would she do this?
To be clear, I’m not saying she doesn’t need carers. I’m just saying she has very carefully curated a dishonest image that is of maximum benefit to her. This is what doesn’t sit well with me.
I have also noticed that in more recent pictures on her IG she has removed an engagement ring that she was quite clearly wearing before she got all the publicity. Why would she do this?
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The weird thing about that is that continuing health care who funds the carers were querying how she was able to go on holiday alone if she’s unable to care for him alone and then there’s this controversy that she wasn’t alone?
I didn’t like the way she was posting details of a nursery that wouldn’t take Jaxon. She says that his vomiting is so severe that carers have burst into tears and been unable to cope. That a carer made a mistake with his feed that put him in hospital and almost killed him. But at the same time insisting that a day nursery should take him.
She says that it’s more suitable because they fit it to the kids development but I think she’s mistaken. Age and size is a factor. He’s too big for the baby room (yes he’s underweight but his limbs are longer). He can’t go in with the walkers. He’s unfortunately in a grey area.
A lot of private nurseries are struggling financially. The money the government pay for the free hours doesn’t match their actual costs. One worker can look after 3 kids but Jaxon would need 1 on 1 care.
I don’t think it’s discrimination. I think it’d be unsafe for Jaxon and financially put a lot of stress on the nursery.
I agree I didn’t like the way she handled the nursery thing. She came across very aggressive and self entitled. She can’t have it all ways, one minute herself and the carers are struggling to look after him and the next he should be allowed to join a mainstream nursery and it’s discrimination if he’s not. It is NOT discrimination, the nursery would have done a risk assessment and concluded that it is not safe for Jaxon to be there, both for himself and other children. Mainstream nursery staff are not medically trained. As I’ve said before she is being funded by the public purse (which I have no problem with) but she cannot have everything exactly as she wants it and will at times have to accept what she’s offered. Jaxon apparently can go to a specialist nursery but Kaytee doesn’t want this. In my opinion she’s not in a position to be so fussy.
Completely agree.
I also think if you are giving yourself a title - ‘advocate’ for a very sensitive group of people, (who do not all feel that she is an accurate representation of what their idea of an advocate for their community is), then you need to very clearly display certain attributes and qualities and complete honesty about what you are sharing is one of them because her peers will see straight through her even if no one else will.
so whilst I don’t believe anyone would dispute her son needing carers, nor the fact that she is entitled not to disclose details of her relationships, NOR even the fact that she deserves a holiday ! (SEN parents should holiday more than anyone else in my opinion) she COULD be more open about the help she receives. If another SEN Mum was in fact helping her on her holiday then I don’t see why that would be something she would want to hide, unless it’s to protect the other Mums identity or because portraying the image of her being a single mum who is just her & her son against the world is the general narrative she uses and she’s got a little bit lost within it. Which in turn, is misleading.
I agree she can come across as entitled, her issues are no different to what millions of disabled people face every day. She also contradicts herself, with the CHC battle she said Jaxon can't communicate but when he was in hospital she storied him pointing at the door because he wanted to go. So he can communicate. If the decision makers watch her stories she'll never get the care funded as he is making progress in lots of areas.
To be fair she has spoken about her boyfriend, but he doesn't want to be online, and he works away so isn't a constant form of support
To be fair she has spoken about her boyfriend, but he doesn't want to be online, and he works away so isn't a constant form of support
Regarding the nurse mums engagement...
I was surprised when someone said she was engaged because although she seemed to have had a party and I knew she had a boyfriend who works away and isn’t on social media, she posted some cryptic things while she was in Dubai that made me think there were issues.
Shes just posted and mentioned “personal relationship rollercoasters”. So yeah things aren’t perfect in the relationship.
I was surprised when someone said she was engaged because although she seemed to have had a party and I knew she had a boyfriend who works away and isn’t on social media, she posted some cryptic things while she was in Dubai that made me think there were issues.
Shes just posted and mentioned “personal relationship rollercoasters”. So yeah things aren’t perfect in the relationship.
Yes I just saw that. She’s shared another two fundraisers today, it’s just too much. She can’t keep expecting her followers to donate to all these, it’s taking the pee.
Actually I’m here for this part. If she’s calling herself an advocate for that community then this is exactly the kind of thing she should be doing. Sharing peoples fights and helping others who are also in need. As up until now I personally haven’t felt like her heart is genuinely in being an advocate for the SEN community as much as it is for herself....
Her fundraiserS have almost enough in to buy a house now, i think it’s safe to say she’s set for Carers for the next 5 years and some.
Its also interesting to note she’s changed her bio & added ‘travel’ to it (I think that’s recent, could be wrong), maybe that’s the direction she wants to take her new blue tick status....
She is just a mum with a disabled little boy who is sharing with insta the struggles she faces and probably thousands of other families do, I know if it was my child I would be fighting every step of the way for his rights just as she is, she has always said travel is something she loves and what she has always done and wanted to do more of and thought she would be able to until it became apparent that Jaxon has all these issues, I think of all the fakes and stuff on insta the nurse mum should be left alone she has far too much on her plate
Not sure what to make of it all tbh. It seems very complicated.
She’s acting as an advocate by highlighting the difficulty around carers. Whether she has fundraisers or a boyfriend is irrelevant the services she’s accessing are supposed to be universal and that’s a really important principle. As for being ‘entitled’ she should be entitled to those services that’s the whole point as should anyone else in her position. I think she’s a great advocate very articulate and reasonable. The holiday has obviously got people’s backs up but she should be able to go on holiday and still access those services the two things aren’t connected. The argument she’s talking about just sounds like petty jealousy to me and it’s a shame because it detracts from what she’s saying which is important.
Jesus this is stressing me out and it’s not my bleeping life! I think it’s a miscommunication between them, that friend in Dubai would have to be a psycho to do all those nice things and then turn round and stir up trouble as soon as NurseMum is back (can’t remember her real name!) just for attention.
Where are the mums bullying her? She stated that in her stories there now?
Which account shows that they are talking about her? I find her stories all so gobble-de-gook she literally doesn’t come up for air when she is on the attack.
Which account shows that they are talking about her? I find her stories all so gobble-de-gook she literally doesn’t come up for air when she is on the attack.
It’s all very odd. Does anybody know the other lady’s version of events? She says the other lady could have easily text her to ask about the money but if I owed someone money and couldn’t pay it straight away I would call them to explain and let them know when they could expect the money. Not just radio silence.
I absolutely believe she's entitled to all the services regardless of her life. Her child has very high needs. But she needs to cop on that if you are playing the social media Game, people are gonna jump things like going to Dubai alone immediately after a go fund me and insisting she can't cope alone .
Even at the beginning she could have explained , oh I got a great deal for Dubai etc .
If you are transparent there is rarely room for speculation .
This whole other woman story sounds a bit whack. To me sounds more like Nursemum took all that for granted and didn't pay and is now insisting she was going to.
Even at the beginning she could have explained , oh I got a great deal for Dubai etc .
If you are transparent there is rarely room for speculation .
This whole other woman story sounds a bit whack. To me sounds more like Nursemum took all that for granted and didn't pay and is now insisting she was going to.
Beat me to it
Exactly my thoughts!
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