"All brass and no class" my Gran would have called that.Agreed!!! I had a “good friend” who had the snobbiest upbringing imaginable. She was wealthy and felt entitled to everything under the sun including wedding gifts. Instead of writing thank you cards she gave the bridesmaids canvas totes with the date of her wedding on it
I'm not married and haven't really given it much thought, but I think if I were to ask for money, it would be because there will always be people who give gifts regardless and I rather have money than some more wine glasses or another toaster, etc.Serious question and not getting at anyone, if the couple getting married have everything they need, so don’t want actual gifts, why would they ask for *money?
*assuming they haven’t said it’s towards a honeymoon.
Some friends of ours got married, they too said they had everything they needed and instead said if anyone really wanted to give them something then please would they donate that amount to a charity. I thought that was lovely.
I was exactly like that - we’ve lived together for years - got everything we need . we had a honeymoon poem that asked if people would like to get us something , then something towards a honeymoon meal or a honeymoon event would be appreciatedI’ve asked for money as I have everything for a house that I could possibly need and I hate mismatch items. My wedding has cost under £2,500 for around 30 guests - we could have gone for a higher budget but thought what’s the point. All paid in full no borrowing money etc. If people have a problem with giving money just give us a card better than some tat we wouldn’t use
Yeah on average €100 per person, because its seen to be covering your meal cost plus an added gift. When I was maid of honour, myself and my partner gave €350. I know different places have different traditions though.A large sum is expected at Irish weddings isn't it? My brother's wife is Irish and I've been to a few weddings over there and from what I've seen it looks like €150-€200 is the sort of standard amount.
That is sad. Similar happened to me at my brother's wedding. I did the brides makeup and gifted them money for their honeymoon, I didn't get a thank you for either and regardless of it being family I definitely regret gifting what I did, there's just no excuse for it.I went to a family members wedding in May I gave £50 and I also took a card with money inside from my mum. She never got a thank you and I regret giving £50 now.
A large sum is expected at Irish weddings isn't it? My brother's wife is Irish and I've been to a few weddings over there and from what I've seen it looks like €150-€200 is the sort of standard amount.Money is a standard thing to give with irish events. Id give £50 max.
You really don't need friends who look down on you.I think I’m going to go with £100… she is my oldest friend but a huge snob (I say that only partially with love ) and does have a bit of a tendency to think she’s above me (gets it from her mother and trying to impress her well off fiancé!) I know in my heart of hearts that whatever I give probably won’t be enough, she does seem to look down on me and will assume my amount is tight no matter what it is glad the common consensus seems to be that will be enough! We are paying to travel to the destination, and myself and another bridesmaid split the cost of her hen do between us (was just us 3, was super small as in raging COVID times)
thank you so much for the advice! I’ll jump back on and let you know how she reacts…