VIDEO SUMMARY:
How to get over feeling low & Unmotivated (In real time)
[Description: Here's my guide on how I like to get out of a slump from a day where I felt NOT OKAY.]
Gotta have that clickbait thumbnail!!!
She welcomes us all cheery and wants to talk to us about MOAT-TEA-VAY-SHUN
She feels that this is SUCH a common thing at the moment
"a lot of people are feeling like they can't be arse eh-eh-eh, ESPECIALLY in this current climate"
Her eyes go from squinty to wide-eyed as she says that we've all just had enough of the current climate
She says she always gets asked how to stay motivated and how to keep going when you're self-employed. She says she's not going to sit here and say "oh! I'm moe-teh-vay-ted all the time! There's no fucking stoppin' me!!"
She says she has times and days and weeks where she feels so shit and she doesn't want to do anything, can't be arsed to do anything.
"Hate my life haha! Everything sucks!"
But she still manages at some point what she sets out to do.
Says that it's harder for self-employed people to be motivated as opposed to employed people because you don't have anyone telling you off for not doing your work.
We're now going to pass to past Helga who had a shit day, this is what happened:
She says this vlog wasn't planned but she wanted to pick up the camera to document the fact that she was in a massive "funk" today.
"I just feel like shit, like I can't be bothered, feeling unmotivated, I just want to sit down and cry and just do nothing"
She says that on her last video "a day in the life of an INFLUENCER" she did a QnA and got a lot of Q's about motivation
"To which my answer was... oh you just gotta get up and do it and set routines and stuff.... which is ABSOLUTELY 100% TRUE! And that IS the answer and I know that I got shit to do today and I've got to get certain stuff done... but I'm not really feeling it at all. So today I thought I'd film myself getting out of a funk, so you can see what I do"
(lol at the sad music playing in the background of this segment for extra poor Helen vibes)
She says she woke up at 7am and Fiwl brought her a cup of tea (fuck me she really has got him on a leash!)
she was supposed to get up at 8am to do exercise or a dog walk, she said she laid in bed till 9am
she got up at 9am, had a shower, did her skin routine
And she managed to make the bed.
She came downstairs
(Her eyes suddenly widen)
Then she sat on her iPad for a bit, sat on WhatsApp for a bit, and now it's 11:30am.
She's beating herself up for sitting on her phone, scrolling away ALL MORNING.
She's hidden her phone now.
She says the house is a "bloody tip" and that's playing on her mind and is annoying her so she's going to get stuff done to clear her mind a bit.
She can't explain what she's feeling, something in her gut that's making her feel a bit sad and low, but she can feel the force in her trying to pull her up.
She's going to get her headphones on and play some music and tidy up. Cue cleaning montage. Yep, it wouldn't be a Quirkerz video if she isn't cleaning up her sty... yet again...
We see her dancing around her living room.
She says that she's now released some stress and tension
She says that she feels trapped and smothered by the mess
"I can't explain it, but tidying and cleaning make me feel betta, coz the activity of actually doing it is good like.... ahhh!"
She's making herself a green tea.
"I don't want to sound like...uh... cliche.... or cringe.... but I'm just sitting here thinking about all the things that I'm looking forward to... and I'm finking about Fiwl and how happy he makes me..."
"...and I'm finkin' about the summer and I'm finkin' about me plants n I'm just finkin' bout all the gud fings in me life"
She says she knows how hard it is when people say just think about all the good things, but she says that if you do things in your day to loosen that tension and that "flatness" it becomes easier to think about the positive things!
Today she has to edit something for the band and she wanted to put up a reel, she feels like on days like this where she really can't be fucking bothered she finds that if she looks at other people's content makes her want to copy... I mean create.
She might watch some tutorials on how to use procreate or watch some skating videos or watch some really KEWL fashion reels
"I won't just MINDLESSLY scroll, I'll actively go and seek out people that I know are inspiring"
"It also helps when you don't have any ideas... It's good to take people's preexisting ideas and make them your own"
She mentions that she hasn't washed her cardigan in days, not because of her mood, she says she likes that it's dirty and looks like a "lived-in" cardigan
She now voice-notes with her friends
And she goes out for a walk with the dogs, she's looking at a house that is for sale which she REALLY likes the look of, but don't worry, she's not buying it because it's way out of her price range apparently.
She's already feeling better and motivated because tomorrow is a new day so when she gets home she's going to write down a list for tomorrow.
Fiwl and his teeny weeny man bun is with her on this walk. Helga asks him what makes him feel motivated on a down day, he likes to keep busy and talk to his mates or "do something to take your mind off what's making you feel down"
Home now, and dinner is being cooked. She's had a looooong chat with her manager and says he's picked up her mood.
"I'm not feeling low about work, I'm just in a bad mood today"
She's having a bath now and might do a face mask
"I don't want to be that BASIC BITCH who says if you're having a down day, just chuck in a barf bomb and have a bath because it cures all! Because it certainly does NOT... I think it's a nice thing to do to relax and unwind"
"I fink it's important, like wot Fiwl sed... I fink it's important to understand that there are gunna, there are sum days where you just feel a bit 'meh' and you can either try and fight it and do sumfing about it, and force yourself to be ok... or you accept it and you do small fings to uplift yer mood a little bit and just accept that I'm not gonna get much dun today n I'm not gonna feel bad about it"
She says she gets frustrated when she doesn't do the things that she thought she was going to do today
She then reenacts the battle that goes on in her head
"come on get on wiv it!"
"But I feel saaaaad and I feel flaaaaat"
"Pull yerself together and get do it!"
she's still going on...
She always tells herself that "there's always tomorrow... or there's always the day after...."
Now it's bath time "I AM GUNNA BE THAT BASIC BITCH AHAHAHA!" she says as she pulls out a bath bomb.
WHY ARE WE IN THE BATH WITH YOU HELEN?!
Now she's on the phone with her mum in the bath
Dinner has been cooked by Fiwl. She doesn't know what it is.
She's written herself a todo list for tomorrow:
Motivational video
heatless curls
at least 1 reel.
Wake up
long dog walk
go to tip & go to B&M (WHY DOES SHE NEED TO DO THIS EVERY FUCKING WEEK???)
film and edit work from home reel
film and edit motivation video
lunch
film body reel
MEETING
skate
start heatless curls video
"It's a proper get up and go day tomorrow"
Bed time and she hopes that tomorrow is a bit better.
The next day it's 8am and she's had a shower
"IM BOUNCING BACK BABY!"
She was going to go for a nice long dog walk but it's pissing it down outside
"I'll just do that lata"
She's going to get a few jobs done now and then is going to do some chores
"Nowhere's open at the moment, it's a bit too early" typical Helga, always has to go out somewhere.
Says that if you have no motivation or can't be bothered to do anything just write a todo list instead.
"Just write a todo list and JUST DO IT at the best time of the day for you!"
She's feeling pumped to just get ready and film something, so she's going to do that now
Cut to her now all ready, she's put her face on and done her hair
"I put on some perfume that makes me feel POWERFUL!!!" she chortles
This perfume reminds her of going to London, being really busy and owning her shit at a time when a lot of good things were happening in her career.
She was going to tell us the time... but changes her mind and just says that it took her 45 mins to get ready and doing shit.
She's off to have breakfast and get cracking.
She lets the dogs out from their dungeon room.
She checks the growth of her plant
Then pulls a face as she strokes Dee
"I'm just having a MOMENT Diane, by the door, just gettin' sum fresh air"
Now she's filming a reel.
Job done and now she's going to finish a few things and we're now going to have a chat.
"Now here I am, feeling A MILLION TIMES BETTER!"
"I think first of all when you're feeling unmotivated, it can just be a general thing... a general MOOOOOD, um, or something can trigger it or sometimes I'm just I wake up and I just my body can't be bothered to do anything I feel tired, I feel exhausted these are all sort of like reasonable EXCUSES or reasonable reasons to feel unmotivated and it's completely normal ....like everybody I know has these days like these writing off a day is absolutely fine"
"I've started feeling less and less guilty about needing to take it slow in a day needing to take a morning off or just really not getting much done at all in the day like taking the whole day real, really slowly"
She'll often text her mates saying that she's not feeling very good or that she's sulking.
She can guarantee that the reply that she will get is 'sounds like you just need to take it easy today'
"Now if i do sometimes wake up feeling tired unmotivated a bit sluggish i would just say, I'm going to take this morning off and then I'm gonna get x y and z done this afternoon. And i'll have that time off to do anything that makes me feel relaxed and chill to kind of recharge and then I'll see to what I need to do later on in the day and I'll do that guilt-free. Sometimes I'll be like you know what I don't really have many priorities at the moment there's nothing actually that pressing or urgent that needs to be done today I'll do it tomorrow I'll squeeze it in I'll have a wiggle around on my schedule and see if i can fit x y and z in or I'll just prioritize things"
"I ALWAYS message my best friend saying I'm having a bad day or I'm having a sulk and i don't know why and i can't be able to do anything and you know what it's really nice to hear other people go oh yeah that was me yesterday that was me last week or I feel you on this one because you don't feel so bad"
"It's good for your friends, especially friends that KNOW you, to tell YOU on an individual basis what to do to make yourself feel better"
She says that she was very much saying yes to EVERYTHING and then at the last minute would be letting people down because she actually didn't want to do it or didn't have the time or didn't have the energy to do it, instead of just saying no in the first place
"You don't owe anyone and excuse!!!!"
That's all for now! Moral of the video: JUST DO IT!