A family member has wondered aloud a couple of times whether he has high functioning Aspergers.
Nah. Don't buy it. I'm not a professional so no creds in the diagnostic department. But. I've worked with many people, particularly teenagers, on the spectrum, many who have varying degrees of Aspergers Syndrome. I don't see any of those traits in Harry. Not one wee bit.
I believe he's of low IQ, immature, selfish, inconsiderate and unkind. I think it's a mistake - though increasingly prevalent - to 'pathologise' (is that a word?) unattractive behaviour into some sort of condition. It's as though you're considered judgey (sp?) and wrong to call someone out for their bad behaviour. H can't help his IQ, but the rest...well.
PS. H definitely doesn't have high-functioning Aspergers! Of the several people (adults) I know who have been formally diagnosed, one is an extraordinarily gifted veterinary clinician (
tit 'beside manner' though) and another can pick up languages and play musical insrtuments the way I pick up stuff in the middle aisle of Lidl.
If you're interested in this kind of thing I recommend Temple Grandin's books 'Animals Make Us Human' and 'Animals in Translation'. As someone who has Aspergers, she writes extraordinarily and unsentimentally about animals, and has probably done more for the welfare of animals in large scale farming than anyone else. All IMO of course! Off to Pilates Zoom class now so now time to check for typos. Toodle pip.