Yes, I think you're right, and excuse the poor phrasing but they could basically have become the Royal Family's envoys / representatives throughout the Commonwealth, getting the more "exotic" assignments with cooler photo ops. But that would not preclude having to do the "hard" part of spending vast parts of the day not in a Rotherham drug rehab centre, but at a Kenyan tree-growing cooperative in the middle of the bush (God bless and keep Wangaari Maathai - one of the legion of WoC of whom Harry's Wife isn't fit to lace the boots), still having to grip-and-grin with the plebs.I agree. They could have been amazing but not exactly as they dreamed it. They would have gone on all the cool tours through the Commonwealth, Africa and Wildlife, maybe even female empowerment but probably more in the scope of micro credit for women in poorer countries schemes. They might have even had a shot as the new Edward and Sophie and go to the Royal engagements on the continent. Yes, the next wedding wave is a couple of years away but I think she would have been decked out way more often than Kate in that regard. They could have perpetuated the narrative of serious, distanced and slightly boring Wiliam and Kate vs the modern, relaxed and warm H&M. If they had kept the stiff upper lip they would be out of the woodwork by now. But no, it wasn’t enough. The wanted too much and now all they have left is whining about their hard lot in life.
But they wanted to be the emissaries to Silicon Valley / Hollywood, grip-and-grin with the rich-and-powerful, whilst using those links to coin it in for themselves, and have paid the price.