I get so mad at them for what they do. My daughter is 3 and we have never left her over night, with anyone. We havent had a date since she was born because we are very content spending our evenings together at home, talking and planning our next trip or place to visit with her.
She runs us both in circles, shes very busy and always upto something, but sheis also very well mannered and can be taken anywhere but we both shes to much to expect pensioner grandparents to have to deal with. We attended a weddjng and children weren't invited so we planned the whole attendance around her. She went to her cousins to play for the afternoon then my mum picked her up for tea and put her to bed at our house. Ella n Tim spout off that they need couple time and family are always prepared to take the kids. My mum is but we dont because we genuinely love each other, are happy being home together and get great joy doing bedtime for our child together. These children are probably expected to get themselves to bed. The baby is just another accesory to them.
My rule is we decided to have a child, so its our duty to care for her. I need jaw surgery and keep delaying because its at a hospital 4 hrs away and its unfair to expect my mum to have her for how ever long i am in hospital as my husband would need to work. Blows my mind how their family are just expected to pick up the pieces. Sorry rant over. X