I'm in a social group for LGBT people interested in LGBT cinema. I haven't met any of the other members offline yet (I met them through an app designed for making friends and we started up in May last year - so we've been in "lockdown" for most of that time.) "Officially", we have several women and four men. In reality we have two men, and several women including two transmen. I have nothing against the trans members - I don't know them that well, though they seem like nice enough people. But, although I know everyone in the group is very much "we hate TERFs", I know that the gay men in the group wouldn't date a transman/the lesbians wouldn't date a transwoman. One of the trans members of the group likes to talk a lot about her opinions "as a gay man", do people really feel no dissonance hearing this from someone who is so clearly a straight woman? It just gives me such a weird feeling sometimes