Dw I see what you're getting at, I think in a way the gay community is already really appearanced based (tall,fit,dick size, etc..) and so it's already tough for basic men so the trans agenda isn't as easy to enforce (they are starting to try though) Also, TM seem to be less forcefull in their advances perhaps.
I've been lurking on LGBdroptheT reddit and well indeed other groups including straights rarely get it in comparison. I can't believe that in 10 years we went from it's ok to be attracted to the same sex to accept the dick lesbians. It's really sad