For me, I wouldn't be willing to sleep with a transwoman who had reassignment surgery. Despite being a vagina fetishist 
I'm attracted to 'female-people' as a whole person - though it's unlikely I'd be interested if they went the full way - I'd be more willing to sleep with a transman who had surgery than a transwoman who had surgery because the transman is female.
I think I find it easier to brush off accusations of transphobia because it took me so long to come to terms with my sexuality. I'm from a homophobic family and I didn't come out until my 30s so I spent two decades naval gazing and trying to convince myself that I could like males if I just tried/prayed/wished hard enough. So I know that it just isn't possible for me and I know that my limits are 100% fixed on this matter.
I think that a lot of straight women haven't thought about their sexuality so in-depth so it would be harder to them to ignore accusations of transphobia.
I think that a lot of women who want to consider themselves woke might also feel guilty about being straight (despite it obviously not being something anyone should ever feel guilty about) and wouldn't want to say no in case they make themselves look like one of these 'evil cishets' that people throw around as an insult.
I can't think of anything worse than going up to a straight woman I find attractive and saying "oi, if you don't have sex with me you're a homophobe and I'll tell all your friends you're homophobic and I'll tweet your manager and tell them you're homophobic and I'll put your name online and get all my friends to tell everyone they know that you're homophobic. So, your place or mine?" - it's ridiculous! I wouldn't dream of putting someone in a position where they felt unhappy and I also wouldn't want pity/fear sex from them. It would be rubbish for both of us.
I'm attracted to 'female-people' as a whole person - though it's unlikely I'd be interested if they went the full way - I'd be more willing to sleep with a transman who had surgery than a transwoman who had surgery because the transman is female.I think I find it easier to brush off accusations of transphobia because it took me so long to come to terms with my sexuality. I'm from a homophobic family and I didn't come out until my 30s so I spent two decades naval gazing and trying to convince myself that I could like males if I just tried/prayed/wished hard enough. So I know that it just isn't possible for me and I know that my limits are 100% fixed on this matter.
I think that a lot of straight women haven't thought about their sexuality so in-depth so it would be harder to them to ignore accusations of transphobia.
I think that a lot of women who want to consider themselves woke might also feel guilty about being straight (despite it obviously not being something anyone should ever feel guilty about) and wouldn't want to say no in case they make themselves look like one of these 'evil cishets' that people throw around as an insult.
For me consent is the most important thing in the world regarding sex - 97% (I think that's the statistic, might be slightly off) of women have zero interest in me from the get go and of the 3% who theoretically could be interested there will be loads of people who aren't interested because of my physical appearance or personality or the simple fact that they're happily partnered up already.
I can't think of anything worse than going up to a straight woman I find attractive and saying "oi, if you don't have sex with me you're a homophobe and I'll tell all your friends you're homophobic and I'll tweet your manager and tell them you're homophobic and I'll put your name online and get all my friends to tell everyone they know that you're homophobic. So, your place or mine?" - it's ridiculous! I wouldn't dream of putting someone in a position where they felt unhappy and I also wouldn't want pity/fear sex from them. It would be rubbish for both of us.
