Elon Musk’s estranged relationship with his transgender daughter exposes a dark trend of familial divide in the age of anti-trans politics (msn.com)
This is a curious article. Elon Musk's 'daughter' who was born male, objects strongly towards her fathers version of events. According to the Daughter Elon Musk has absolutely no right at all to be upset or unhappy at feeling as if he had lost his son.
Why doesnt a mother or father have any rights in this?
As a parent it must hurt to lose a child. any child. It must hurt to lose contact via divorce or similar, it must hurt to lose a child, when and if they reinvent themselves into a different gender or different identity. Musk said how much it hurt for his son to give up and change his dead name, otherwise known as his birth name.
Why do the rights of the child completely over rule the rights of the parents to have feelings and make a comment?
I know it must be tricky....and there are cases where privacy is important... but surely parents have rights as well? its not just a one way street.
This seems to be a common theme online, the only one whose feelings matter is the trans person. Here's just one example (bold is mine).
Anyway, when we get to the gathering, my wife and I walk in, my wife first, and myself close behind. As we make our way in, greeting everyone,
it's clear that a few are uncomfortable, but I don't care because I finally love myself. We get to my dad and stepmom, and I immediately ask where my grandfather is because we didn't see him.
My dad then sits me down (he's always been quite open and honesty with me), so I know it's not good. He proceeds to tell us that as soon as we walked in,
my grandfather, who was sitting on the couch,
saw me, and realized he was "not ready." This 81 year old man proceeded to bolt off the couch and escape out through the back yard, got into his truck and left, without either of us noticing. My dad then tells me that
he's been crying over my transition, as he sees me as his "first grandson." It's apparently
hard for him to accept. Initially, I was stunned. I expected push back, or negativity, or even disparagement. I never expected him to run and hide from me.
Obviously, I was hurt, especially since I never even behaved like a "grandson." After I composed myself, I began to realize that
his immature decision negatively impacted everyone there. He left his wife, my step grandmother, there, who came up to me, hugged me tight, and said, "I still love you." He abandoned his entire family before food had even been served because he can't stand to look at his granddaughter.
As my wife and I were driving home, the gravity of it all fully sank in, and
any sadness I felt turned into righteous indignation. I told my wife that
I can possibly forgive this act, but never forget. I've decided that I will not mince words when, or if, we ever speak again. What he did was insulting to everyone there, and incredibly immature. He will not get anything past a second chance.
He will know that if he cannot fully accept me, pronouns and all, then I am done with him. He'll know that if he thinks he lost his "grandson," he'll lose his granddaughter.
I also will only allow a relationship if he not only apologizes to me, but also the relevant parties his actions affected. I'm not something or someone to be "accepted" as a reality. I am as I am. If he cannot "accept" that, then he can actually grieve for me as he sits alone on Christmas, or any other holiday, as the rest of the family embraces me.
So absolutely no empathy for an elderly man who is grieving the loss of a grandson who he's expected to accept is now a crossdressing man wanting to be called "she" and probably claiming to be a
les. He tried, but when it came to the actual meeting he just couldn't do it, so left.
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