I'm probably unusual as I'm a male on here. stumbled across this page when searching google for another topic, I came on and started reading a few forums and great entertainment.
However, this is a serious post. GET OUT....GET OUT WHILE YOU CAN for God's sake. Cut all ties and exit hell by the nearest door.
I was a victim of gaslighting for years, and became so convinced I was wrong that I lost everything.
Even now that I am going through divorce it is still happening. You think you can please them by giving them what they want, and when you do, the goalposts move. It's chasing the dragon trying to make them happy, and you will be told, "I don't expect much, just you to show you love me and respect me", respect then becomes doing as they say, walking on eggshells, justifying even being at work or going to the gym. All the while, you are the abusive one, and god help you if you do stand up or question, because you will be told "that's not what I meant" or you are so sensitive.
Now that I finally got the guts to lave my god is she playing the victim. And very convincingly, but thank God people who doubted me are now seeing. It's control, and people who crave control crave chaos. Narcissists. Everything is disrespectful to them. I hardly have a relationship with my children, and the narcissist doesn't care who is caught in the crossfire as long as they control you.
If you want to have any semblance of self worth this time next year please do not let a person like this space in your mind.