Ok - deep breath.
I’m so glad there is a place to talk about this.
I had major abdominal surgery a few weeks ago. Nobody in that time has contacted me, checked in on me, rang me to see how I’m doing. I’m a single parent so completely alone.
It’s tough. I’m wondering what’s wrong with me.
When I was much younger I had a small circle of friends. Over the years you lose contact, change and make new friends, but nobody stays for the long haul. Nobody.
People say to fill your cup. Don’t get me wrong, I’m happy in my own company. I can do things. I can explore, (I’ve been single a long time nearly 18 years now!). I’ve volunteered in the past. I’ve trained and re-trained in my career. I travel.
I just wish I could make solid connections with others, I just wish there was somebody looking out for me. I wish I could share these experiences with another. I just feel there is nobody genuine left.
A friend I knew had surgery. I visited her, went shopping for her, checked in on her.
I think the hardest part is there is another friend who I thought so highly of, was there over messenger whenever I needed him. Nothing. Radio silence. I haven’t reached out.
The first few weeks of recovery were tough pain wise. I couldn’t lift or bend. I was determined not to reach out first or ask for help. I stuck with it and yep nobody reached out.
I’ve been feeling quite depressed over it.
It’s lonely and isolating and I feel worthless.
I even posted on FB - nothing.
I posted a clip about can you give me eight minutes. (Basically when you are struggling you ask out can you give me 8mins because everyone has 8minutes to spare) I saw it on YouTube. Nope nothing.
Sometimes on my darkest days I think if I wasn’t here or if I didn’t make it through the surgery would anybody actually care?
It’s really tough mentally.
I’ll be back to work soon. Toughest thing is one of what I considered a good friend will be there. I don’t know how to approach it, part of me thinks just ignore and walk away but I don’t want to appear petulant or petty... I do care about this person deeply. I guess what hurts the most is they don’t feel the same way and they are different from what I thought this person was.
So yeah...
What is wrong with me? How do I move on from this? I was actually looking at other jobs and applying. I just don’t feel confident in anything anymore.