come back on here and tell us when you’ve messaged them xThank you both so much for the encouragement. I’m a single mum to 3 young children, I’m going to finish doing their bedtime and then see if I can get me head straight enough to message them. A part of why I dont want to is the fear of how I’ll feel afterwards.
the first time someone said this to me I was so shocked. But it is a huge and helpful thing indeed xThat old adage ‘it’s good to talk’ really is true. Having someone say- you’ve had a lot going on, it’s no wonder you feel the way you feel, can really help!
An extra special hug for you Dolls, you’ve been so supportive to so many over the last couple of weeks xxI haven’t read properly in here yet but I just opened the thread and yours was the first post I saw.
I’ve been there, 4 years ago. It’s hard and relentless but believe me, if I can survive it so can you
tag me any time you need a chat or if you have a question xx
I don’t have very much support around me and that just touched my heart, thank youcome back on here and tell us when you’ve messaged them x
however you feel afterwards is okay. You might feel relieved, scared, or nothing at all and it might feel a huge anticlimax. There’s no right way to feel. We can hold your hand from here!
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Please don’t just keep going alone if you feel you have PND. Please please book an appointment with your GP as soon as you can. You can usually do an econsult on their website so you can put it all on there at a time you feel able and then it’s easier when they speak to you because you don’t have to say it all.Hey all,
I came here from another thread which has since closed. I didn’t say much on the last thread just comments here and there. I know tattle gets a bad name but literally the group of women in that were so so lovely (most of them) I’m a new mum but def think I’m suffering with PND. I’m so glad this thread has been set up
Thank youAn extra special hug for you Dolls, you’ve been so supportive to so many over the last couple of weeks xx
CongratulationsThinking of you allsingle mum with a newborn baby, it’s difficult.
I’m so sorry for what you’ve been through.Hi all new to this thread was directed from another where alot of people seemed kind hearted on there bless you all. Sorry for everyone struggling right now you are not alone. I have been struggling alot recently, my childhood friend was tragically murdered on Xmas eve, thankfully I wasn't there but it's affected me massively. The GP put in a referral to a counselling service as I've suffered cptsd in the past and I was afraid this would trigger it. They said I can have one to one talks with my go fortnightly so they can keep an eye on me but that was in December and they haven't called me once to check if I am ok and I'm not really okay most nights I struggle to sleep it's alot to take in and with kids I can't find time space to grieve or process what has happened part of me doesn't want to process it for sure not really sure how to deal with it I try and stay positive most days but it's hard. I really am sorry to anyone struggling right now xx
I'm sorry you're struggling. As mentioned before, please seek help for postpartum mental health. Your GP will be happy you called. Thinking of youHey all,
I came here from another thread which has since closed. I didn’t say much on the last thread just comments here and there. I know tattle gets a bad name but literally the group of women in that were so so lovely (most of them) I’m a new mum but def think I’m suffering with PND. I’m so glad this thread has been set up
It's so heartbreaking when you find the strength from somewhere to reach out for professional help and then in one way or another you get let you down i don' think GPs fully understand how much it sets people back,Hi all new to this thread was directed from another where alot of people seemed kind hearted on there bless you all. Sorry for everyone struggling right now you are not alone. I have been struggling alot recently, my childhood friend was tragically murdered on Xmas eve, thankfully I wasn't there but it's affected me massively. The GP put in a referral to a counselling service as I've suffered cptsd in the past and I was afraid this would trigger it. They said I can have one to one talks with my go fortnightly so they can keep an eye on me but that was in December and they haven't called me once to check if I am ok and I'm not really okay most nights I struggle to sleep it's alot to take in and with kids I can't find time space to grieve or process what has happened part of me doesn't want to process it for sure not really sure how to deal with it I try and stay positive most days but it's hard. I really am sorry to anyone struggling right now xx
I suffered with PND so I can really empathise. Saying it ‘out loud’ to us is a really brave stepHey all,
I came here from another thread which has since closed. I didn’t say much on the last thread just comments here and there. I know tattle gets a bad name but literally the group of women in that were so so lovely (most of them) I’m a new mum but def think I’m suffering with PND. I’m so glad this thread has been set up
I‘m so sorry for the loss of your childhood friend and under such horrific circumstances.Hi all new to this thread was directed from another where alot of people seemed kind hearted on there bless you all. Sorry for everyone struggling right now you are not alone. I have been struggling alot recently, my childhood friend was tragically murdered on Xmas eve, thankfully I wasn't there but it's affected me massively. The GP put in a referral to a counselling service as I've suffered cptsd in the past and I was afraid this would trigger it. They said I can have one to one talks with my go fortnightly so they can keep an eye on me but that was in December and they haven't called me once to check if I am ok and I'm not really okay most nights I struggle to sleep it's alot to take in and with kids I can't find time space to grieve or process what has happened part of me doesn't want to process it for sure not really sure how to deal with it I try and stay positive most days but it's hard. I really am sorry to anyone struggling right now xx
Hi Lolly. I’ve been a single mum since my daughter was born. I look back now and wonder how I coped but you will. Do you have anyone that can help at all ?Thinking of you allsingle mum with a newborn baby, it’s difficult.
It’s one of these things that may or may not affect you. I posted in the NB group about having just gone through it ( I still am really). Some people sail through it , just like the lucky ladies who sail through pregnancy with no sickness or whatever. Others might have a hot flush, and others can be absolutely floored with it.Thank you for this thread, it’s a great idea
Personally I’m absolutely terrified of going through the menopause after reading some of the comments in the NB thread. I’m in my late thirties so it’s probably on the horizon and I’m so scared that it’s going to be awful!
HiI’m really sorry to use this thread for this as people really do have it so much worse - I KNOW that’s not how it works but I do feel guilty having read what I have. You’re all marvellous and brave people.
I felt I wanted to talk about this since reading about Nicola and all the threads about her but didn’t want to put it in her thread. It’s not even a huge thing really.
I was adopted as a baby and over the last couple of years I’ve been on a journey of reuniting with birth family and gaining access to my adoption records. It has been difficult and emotional but led to some very positive relationships with my grandmother, an aunt and an uncle.
I found out that my birth mother passed away in 2006 after being desperate to reunite with me (difficult for me to find peace with this). She loved me immensely but had struggles including struggles with alcohol. It’s why I find it hard to see a woman painted as “just” an alcoholic or “just” anything. The media, and some people, have such a blinkered view.
some of the harsh realities I have learned include the fact that she would leave me as a baby to go and drink and would be gone for days at a time. When she was sober and feeling well she couldn’t bear to be parted from me. So it was not straightforward but obviously the ultimate decision was made to keep me safe which I understand, and I was taken from her against her wishes.
I feel so much love and sadness and compassion for her especially because I think it’s such a complex illness.
someone said in a previous post there’s no such thing as a perfect mother, we are all just imperfect humans with struggles doing the best we can at the time.
There actually is no point to this at all, I have just felt this bubbling inside me for a few days and needed this space to let it out. Nobody needs to reply but I thank you for listening to me
The main thing with PND (I had it terribly many years ago now) is to remember it doesn't make you a bad mum and you should feel no guilt at all about it (hopefully you don't). But the IG perfect image of motherhood is not universal by any means - the 'I'm so in love with my baby and feel so fulfilled' declarations, when you just feel hollow and sad, can make you feel you are doing it wrong. Be kind to yourself. You're probably doing a great job.Hey all,
I came here from another thread which has since closed. I didn’t say much on the last thread just comments here and there. I know tattle gets a bad name but literally the group of women in that were so so lovely (most of them) I’m a new mum but def think I’m suffering with PND. I’m so glad this thread has been set up
Congratulations on becoming a mum. It's definitely not easy, PND can be really hard I was first mis diagnosed as PND was actually PTSD but still I can understand why they thought it. I haven't personally suffered PND but I can emphasize I have a friend and she had a really traumatic birth and that trigger her PND her child is almost 4 and she's still suffering depression but she's alot better now. I think the hardest thing she said was being scared to admit she had it and asking for the help so you have done absolutely amazing recognise it and ask for the support. We are all here for you one hundred percent. I agree with what someone else said Instagram and all the people making out motherhood is so easy and they are sailing through it it's all bs if you ask me because no mum with so little sleep is so fucking happy I'm not having it lol. All your beautiful little Baba needs is love and care and I don't know you but I can tell you love and care so much already for your little one. Try and also take some time for YOU, some quiet time, a walk, the gym, getting your nails done whatever makes you feel good, don't forget about yourself mummy you are important. If not already definitely reach out to a helpline and also I haven't been on FB years but when I was I was in alot of lovely private parents advice groups and feeding groups ect I felt like all those people I didn't even know where my real friends lol had so much much needed advice (and laughs) from those pages definitely try and join a parents group if you can online xxHey all,
I came here from another thread which has since closed. I didn’t say much on the last thread just comments here and there. I know tattle gets a bad name but literally the group of women in that were so so lovely (most of them) I’m a new mum but def think I’m suffering with PND. I’m so glad this thread has been set up
Phallus (!) I'm so sorry about your friend, when we loose friends to extreme circumstances it can make life feel very scary and very surreal. Have a look online for 'low income counselling' or 'low cost counselling' in your area. We have a service that accepts donations and no need to prove income. Do you have any friends/fam you can chat with that could maybe have the kids for an overnighter? I know how hard it can be to get a little time for a good wail and sometimes that's just what we need. I'd also recommend having a look at youtube vids or podcasts with Gabor Mate. He is the leading expert in CPTSD/PTSD and has a wonderful honest way about him. Please try and find time for self care, even if it's just a big bubbly bath with the kids stuck in front of the tv with treats for a wee while. It's a shocking thing to loose a friend in the way you have, please don't forget to take care of you even on a tiny level each day. Holler/tag me if you need a chatHi all new to this thread was directed from another where alot of people seemed kind hearted on there bless you all. Sorry for everyone struggling right now you are not alone. I have been struggling alot recently, my childhood friend was tragically murdered on Xmas eve, thankfully I wasn't there but it's affected me massively. The GP put in a referral to a counselling service as I've suffered cptsd in the past and I was afraid this would trigger it. They said I can have one to one talks with my go fortnightly so they can keep an eye on me but that was in December and they haven't called me once to check if I am ok and I'm not really okay most nights I struggle to sleep it's alot to take in and with kids I can't find time space to grieve or process what has happened part of me doesn't want to process it for sure not really sure how to deal with it I try and stay positive most days but it's hard. I really am sorry to anyone struggling right now xx
My mother died by suicide too, it’s hardly a “ditto!!” moment, but it’s always strangely comforting to know I’m not the only one. I wouldn’t wish it on anyone, yet conversely I’m glad I’m not alone (and neither are you.)Hi all, I was missing you all. The other thread finished so quickly and with the turn of events at the end I wanted to come by and say hello as the story started to get rather close to home on a personal level for me. As some will know already, my Mum died by suicide some years ago. I also have a friend who went missing and was murdered and one of my besties died young #fuckcancer just before crimbo too.
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