I can’t get over the fact that she takes those boys out for dinner but never seems to eat herself. Imagine growing up & thinking back to meals out where your parents didn’t eat it’s so weird & triggering. It potentially could make those boys feel once they are older that they shouldn’t eat out with friends & family. The only other possibility is they don’t eat so they can “manage” the boys with out being out of their own food. I no she shows the “highlights” but imagine those boys have meltdowns the same as any other 4 year olds