She might take to it very well though, it's a lot easier to prepare a child who understands what's happening, than a 2 year old for example. And maybe she is excited to be involved in tasks etc. Of course it will be a huge adjustment, but honestly River is old enough to maybe not be so put outI wonder how River reacted to having a brother now. It's so different with each child. One of my friends already had a 2 y/o and when they had their second child last month their 2 y/o just started crying and screaming and didn't even want to look at her and their baby, just wanted to stay with her husband. Now it's all good he's getting used to it, but she said it was really difficult for him because he was afraid of the baby. Of course River is much older, but it's still a big change for those kids. I hope all goes well for all of them. I'm sure Fleur will only say she's immediately a wonderful big sister though.
Yeah I truly hope all goes well. In that regard it's better that she's much older because they understand things better. For a 2 year old I can understand a baby can look a bit scary with the eyes closed and crying for example.She might take to it very well though, it's a lot easier to prepare a child who understands what's happening, than a 2 year old for example. And maybe she is excited to be involved in tasks etc. Of course it will be a huge adjustment, but honestly River is old enough to maybe not be so put out
Ok reading back after my post I may not be alone hereI don’t care if my mom was getting married, I’m not bringing a brand new baby to a wedding around that many people.
She probably got decent pain relief, unlike with the NHS who slings you a couple of paracetamol and sends you on your merry way!She must've had a very good recovery. I couldn't even walk properly for a couple of weeks after my c-section!
It’s an individual choice and there is no right or wrong. You think you won’t feel up to going and that’s fine, Fleur felt like she could attend and that’s also fine. It’s completely personal. No two circumstances are the sameI feel kinda bad after seeing her post at her friend's wedding. I'm due 3 days after my mum's wedding and I've told her if he comes say a week or two early I won't be there, as I don't want such a young baby at a wedding. Now I'm wondering if I'm being a knob or if she's setting some unrealistic ideals about postpartum/newborns
Ok reading back after my post I may not be alone here
I had a c section on 7-7 and was in the hospital for 2.5 days. Morphine for the first 24 hours or so and then paracetamol after that. I think I took it for 1 to 1.5 weeks after that, 4x a day. I didn’t have much pain, tbh.She probably got decent pain relief, unlike with the NHS who slings you a couple of paracetamol and sends you on your merry way!
Yea I imagine that is probably going to be the biggest adjustment, but hopefully fleur and Mike have put thought into ensuring she doesn't feel left out! Although with all the best intentions in the world they can't control her feelings!Yeah I truly hope all goes well. In that regard it's better that she's much older because they understand things better. For a 2 year old I can understand a baby can look a bit scary with the eyes closed and crying for example.
I hope River will be able to adjust well to not having all the attention for herself anymore, I'm not saying that in a way that I mean she's spoiled but it'll be pretty different when you parents suddenly have someone else to give attention to as well. Like I said, hope all goes well and that Fleur is having a good recovery as well.
I agree! I felt amazing 1 week post partum and could have gone anywhere. 6 weeks later, not a hope!It’s an individual choice and there is no right or wrong. You think you won’t feel up to going and that’s fine, Fleur felt like she could attend and that’s also fine. It’s completely personal. No two circumstances are the same
She must have because after my section I was sent home less than 24hrs later with no pain relief, and only took paracetamol and ibuprofen at home. And I can honestly say I had no pain what so ever, which I was really pleasantly shocked about! Moments of uncomfortableness or itching etc yes, but no pain at all. Thought ‘oh this is great’ and got husband to drive to the park with baby and my 2 year old for a walk round the park 9 days postpartum. After about 10 mins I was hobbling and feeling it… came straight back home way too soon still. How she can be arsed with a wedding I don’t know!She probably got decent pain relief, unlike with the NHS who slings you a couple of paracetamol and sends you on your merry way!
I feel kinda bad after seeing her post at her friend's wedding. I'm due 3 days after my mum's wedding and I've told her if he comes say a week or two early I won't be there, as I don't want such a young baby at a wedding. Now I'm wondering if I'm being a knob or if she's setting some unrealistic ideals about postpartum/newborns
Ok reading back after my post I may not be alone here
Edit to add after reading through people's opinions on this. I don't think taking or not taking a newborn to a wedding defines whether you're a good or bad parent. I had a hard recovery with my daughter, as did she so in that situation again a wedding is the last thing I'd want to go to. I also have a lot of anxiety around pregnancy loss and newborn illness/death so perhaps why I'd not want to attend.
She might not have been there for all of it, maybe she just went for the ceremony and hung around a bit afterwards rather than dance till late. And newborns generally still have protection via their mother’s immune system.
I do wonder what influence her best friend’s wedding had on her choice of section date though, as in “if I have it a couple of days earlier I’ll be more likely to go.”
It of course depends on the individual child and how mature they are etc, but at 4.5 I would imagine she’s been absolutely fine adjusting, and is probably excited to have a sibling/real life dollI wonder how River reacted to having a brother now. It's so different with each child. One of my friends already had a 2 y/o and when they had their second child last month their 2 y/o just started crying and screaming and didn't even want to look at her and their baby, just wanted to stay with her husband. Now it's all good he's getting used to it, but she said it was really difficult for him because he was afraid of the baby. Of course River is much older, but it's still a big change for those kids. I hope all goes well for all of them. I'm sure Fleur will only say she's immediately a wonderful big sister though.
39 weeks is standard for a scheduled section. I also don’t believe she chose the date herself, as I don’t find it likely she would have chose the day before her birthday tbh!She didn't have it early for a planned section though. 39 weeks exactly (as Felur was) is standard in a lot of NHS hospitals.
There may also be certain days of the week they do it on. The private hospital I knew of only did Sundays and I know NHS hospitals do set days too.
It could just have been a medical decision made by her doctor. If I remember correctly you have a last check up before you are due (at least when you go private) and if they think earlier is better they will push the c-section date forward. They sometimes choose to do so when there is not enough amniotic fluid for example.Following on from my earlier post though she did. say River was 10 days early. I wonder why she was an extra 2/3 before 39? Avaliability maybe?
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