Feng shui

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I'm so sorry I was not there for you @Miscanthus ... But your response was 100% on point, you brought tears to my eyes. I am sending you virtual hugs for making such a brave brave post

You are such a supportive rock to all of us @Namima . You are a .

As soon as I saw @Miscanthus ‘s post I went to look but it was a few hours too late. She has spoken her truth and dealt with it well. I really feel for her too. As ever @Milking Keynes saw it as it was happening and went in with exactly the right post giving reassurance about how everything went back to normal quickly for her. Then it kicked off again...I read so much sadness and heartbreak there last night . My heart really went out to those who so bravely posted. I do agree with scrolling past as @Miscanthus says (I used to scroll past the dehumanising posts about women’s anatomy because I learned to know who was most likely to make them) but sometimes you have read the post you wish you’d scrolled past and the damage has been done. It’s a hard one. I think it’s so comforting that we support each other though .

 

[Rubythefirebat]

You are such a supportive rock to all of us @Namima . You are a .

As soon as I saw @Miscanthus ‘s post I went to look but it was a few hours too late. She has spoken her truth and dealt with it well. I really feel for her too. As ever @Milking Keynes saw it as it was happening and went in with exactly the right post giving reassurance about how everything went back to normal quickly for her. Then it kicked off again...I read so much sadness and heartbreak there last night . My heart really went out to those who so bravely posted. I do agree with scrolling past as @Miscanthus says (I used to scroll past the dehumanising posts about women’s anatomy because I learned to know who was most likely to make them) but sometimes you have read the post you wish you’d scrolled past and the damage has been done. It’s a hard one. I think it’s so comforting that we support each other though .

I have no idea what is going on on that thread. Some bad karma is there for a while.
And last night was such a sesitive subject. IMO the poster got offended, and while giving voice for it, posted such an offensive post it was hard to ignore.
The thread has fear all over it. Fear of posting and get banned or loosing other members.
Sending love to everybody! Life is an absolute challenge, and everybody is a hero on their own to deal with it!

 

[Milking Keynes]

On Lidl thread. Please send help.....

I am SO sorry if I did the wrong thing - I was trying to bring balance - I maybe failed miserably. I could feel the spiral and I wanted to hold a finger to the dam post haste - I was a bit annoyed she brought Nicky into it but I could feel her fear wasn’t necessarily about the weight so much as where she’s at at the pregnancy and is a nervous wreck about what she’s facing.

I think your response was perfect, though, as always, You are amazing.

 

[Miscanthus]

You are such a supportive rock to all of us @Namima . You are a .

As soon as I saw @Miscanthus ‘s post I went to look but it was a few hours too late. She has spoken her truth and dealt with it well. I really feel for her too. As ever @Milking Keynes saw it as it was happening and went in with exactly the right post giving reassurance about how everything went back to normal quickly for her. Then it kicked off again...I read so much sadness and heartbreak there last night . My heart really went out to those who so bravely posted. I do agree with scrolling past as @Miscanthus says (I used to scroll past the dehumanising posts about women’s anatomy because I learned to know who was most likely to make them) but sometimes you have read the post you wish you’d scrolled past and the damage has been done. It’s a hard one. I think it’s so comforting that we support each other though .

I went to bed feeling sad last night but was so happy to see my girls' responses this morning. Feeling the love, thank you
The last week has been really hard with all these changes on the forum and I automatically reached out to this thread for help.

I am SO sorry if I did the wrong thing - I was trying to bring balance - I maybe failed miserably. I could feel the spiral and I wanted to hold a finger to the dam post haste - I was a bit annoyed she brought Nicky into it but I could feel her fear wasn’t necessarily about the weight so much as where she’s at at the pregnancy and is a nervous wreck about what she’s facing.

I think your response was perfect, though, as always, You are amazing.

Noooo, don't say that. I love your presence and comments. You are so compassionate
I could see what was happening too and I knew it must be hormonal but I'm weary of generation whatever and super sensitivity to comments. There is rough and tumble but it's never personal.
There is a real need for some sage wafting and cleansing on that thread but I'm not going to allow it to defeat me.
Thank you everybody. You are amazing
I will be back later to seek advice on something else.

 

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I am SO sorry if I did the wrong thing - I was trying to bring balance - I maybe failed miserably. I could feel the spiral and I wanted to hold a finger to the dam post haste - I was a bit annoyed she brought Nicky into it but I could feel her fear wasn’t necessarily about the weight so much as where she’s at at the pregnancy and is a nervous wreck about what she’s facing.

I think your response was perfect, though, as always, You are amazing.

When I read it @Milking Keynes I saw it as you trying to pour oil on troubled water not the other way round! You were the complete voice of reason and comfort IMHO EDIT. (As you always are, have been and will be - there I’ve said it).

 

[Miscanthus]

When I read it @Milking Keynes I saw it as you trying to pour oil on troubled water not the other way round! You were the complete voice of reason and comfort IMHO

I agree...nothing to apologise for

I'm so sorry I was not there for you @Miscanthus ... But your response was 100% on point, you brought tears to my eyes. I am sending you virtual hugs for making such a brave brave post

Thank you so much . Hugs welcome

 

[Oops...]

I have no idea what is going on on that thread. Some bad karma is there for a while.
And last night was such a sesitive subject. IMO the poster got offended, and while giving voice for it, posted such an offensive post it was hard to ignore.
The thread has fear all over it. Fear of posting and get banned or loosing other members.
Sending love to everybody! Life is an absolute challenge, and everybody is a hero on their own to deal with it!

I tend to think it might be the energy I was trying to suggest should be avoided when I tried to ask for a certain word to be considered a no-no...for the good of all. Rather like the removal of the kitchen door so you could see straight through from the front to the back because then trouble just whooshes through. Look what happened there - 4 ‘gates’ in quick succession. If there was an emoji for a deep sigh this is where I would put it.

 

[Milking Keynes]

When I read it @Milking Keynes I saw it as you trying to pour oil on troubled water not the other way round! You were the complete voice of reason and comfort IMHO EDIT. (As you always are, have been and will be - there I’ve said it).

Oh thank you - it means the world - last thing I want to do is make matters worse for Miscanthus right now - things are off-key just as you predicted, and you second guess. I think everyone is coming from the right place, actually, it’s the energy that’s off so there are misunderstandings and then mistrust. It’s 100% as you said it would be.

We have eachother’s core support so if we keep sprinkling good intention can we halt the bad energy do you think?

Eta Twice I tried to bring the subject back, in fairness, once by referencing her mother and secondly by referencing the chickens!! To no avail though...

 

[Oops...]

Oh thank you - it means the world - last thing I want to do is make matters worse for Miscanthus right now - things are off-key just as you predicted, and you second guess. I think everyone is coming from the right place, actually, it’s the energy that’s off so there are misunderstandings and then mistrust. It’s 100% as you said it would be.

We have eachother’s core support so if we keep sprinkling good intention can we halt the bad energy do you think?

Unequivocally yes! It can be diverted by good intent and steadfastness. What’s happened there possibly is a portal got opened and the bad energy whooshed in. So jointly you can ’put the door back up’. This should stop it happening (If you get my drift...)

EDIT. No-one needs to see the rear garden from the front door (It looks like I’ve started talking in parables )

 

[Milking Keynes]

Unequivocally yes! It can be diverted by good intent and steadfastness. What’s happened there possibly is a portal got opened and the bad energy whooshed in. So jointly you can ’put the door back up’. This should stop it happening (If you get my drift...)

Yay!! What a relief... and there’s a few of us, so hopefully we can grab it by it’s door furniture and slam it shut. Thank God we have you, @Oops

 

[Oops...]

Yay!! What a relief... and there’s a few of us, so hopefully we can grab it by it’s door furniture and slam it shut. Thank God we have you, @Oops

I think you know of a very good Archery student who is good at carpentry don’t you? Stick a few photos of him up and see what happens

 

[Geranium]

I am so sorry, I wanted to step in but feared I’d make things worse. There does seem to be some very bad energy around that thread.

 

[Milking Keynes]

I agree...nothing to apologise for


Thank you so much . Hugs welcome

Just to add, @Miscanthus, that I didn’t come over to this thread last night so I missed your post here. I was on the other one only otherwise I would have responded.

The next matter that will arise is - where is @Oops - the Downtonbury issue, etc questions will appear. Should we relate to @Miscanthus how it should handled? Should your new thread be mentioned and/or that you’re taking a breather from Lids thread?

 

[Libbylulu]

I’m still working my way through this interesting thread. You all seem like such lovely people, I’m so glad I found you. Please excuse me if these questions have been asked before.... what is Lydia’s Thread and if I wanted to improve my health can you suggest something to put in my health area? I’m suffering dreadfully with the menopause, it’s beating me sideways, so any help would so appreciated. Also, financially we take three steps forward and two back and it’s been like this for years

 

[Milking Keynes]

I’m still working my way through this interesting thread. You all seem like such lovely people, I’m so glad I found you. Please excuse me if these questions have been asked before.... what is Lydia’s Thread and if I wanted to improve my health can you suggest something to put in my health area? I’m suffering dreadfully with the menopause, it’s beating me sideways, so any help would so appreciated. Also, financially we take three steps forward and two back and it’s been like this for years

If you press search forum and type in menopause on Tattle - you will find it very interesting re feedback from Tattlers going through the challenges of menopause and products they recommend. I always find people’s experiences helpful rather than, for example, celeb endorsements. I went through it a lot earlier than my friends so I can say, hand on heart, it gets much easier. I had about five years of palpitations, hot flashes, skin issues and weight gain, and I don’t suffer from any of them any more. A friend recently went on HRT for mood swings specifically and it helped greatly. If weight gain is a concern, intermittent fasting is very effective. My concern was having to replace my existing wardrobe of clothes so IF to the rescue! Hope this helps

 

[1001 others]

I’m still working my way through this interesting thread. You all seem like such lovely people, I’m so glad I found you. Please excuse me if these questions have been asked before.... what is Lydia’s Thread and if I wanted to improve my health can you suggest something to put in my health area? I’m suffering dreadfully with the menopause, it’s beating me sideways, so any help would so appreciated. Also, financially we take three steps forward and two back and it’s been like this for years

Have you had a panel (of bloods) done? If not, it might be worthwhile doing to understand if you're lacking in anything.

For menopause, I'm finding collagen and spirulina very helpful. I take both in powder form - the collagen is chocolate flavoured so I make a smoothie with banana and oat, soy or lactose-free milk, put a couple of tablespoons of the collagen in, and then a teaspoon of the spirulina. The colour is something else but the flavour is palatable. I find this concoction helps with my memory issues and I apparently look well-rested (even though I'm not). It was working well for joint pain too but today has been particularly cold in my part of the world and the arthritis has taken over.

I think I may have responded to you in the saging thread ... one of the keys for abundance is a clear, clean, space ... wealth and abundance is attracted to cleanliness. Declutter and minimalise as much as you're able to which will also give you a psychological shift. I personally believe stagnant energy attracts itself to old papers - books, magazines, bills, etc. If you must keep all that stuff, put it in folders in a box. Otherwise, take a photo to remember it by and get rid of it. Then start looking to what crystals and other tools can be of help. As a starting point, get a couple of money trees / jade plants and pot them in green ceramic pots either just outside, or inside, your front door. If you can't find jade plants, bay leaf plants also work well. And, if you can, paint your front door either red or green. I would tend to go to red as a signal to the universe that you want to welcome the money in; but I have heard others benefit greatly from green as a way of inviting new opportunities. Do what feels right to you.

 

[Milking Keynes]

Have you had a panel (of bloods) done? If not, it might be worthwhile doing to understand if you're lacking in anything.

For menopause, I'm finding collagen and spirulina very helpful. I take both in powder form - the collagen is chocolate flavoured so I make a smoothie with banana and oat, soy or lactose-free milk, put a couple of tablespoons of the collagen in, and then a teaspoon of the spirulina. The colour is something else but the flavour is palatable. I find this concoction helps with my memory issues and I apparently look well-rested (even though I'm not). It was working well for joint pain too but today has been particularly cold in my part of the world and the arthritis has taken over.

I think I may have responded to you in the saging thread ... one of the keys for abundance is a clear, clean, space ... wealth and abundance is attracted to cleanliness. Declutter and minimalise as much as you're able to which will also give you a psychological shift. I personally believe stagnant energy attracts itself to old papers - books, magazines, bills, etc. If you must keep all that stuff, put it in folders in a box. Otherwise, take a photo to remember it by and get rid of it. Then start looking to what crystals and other tools can be of help. As a starting point, get a couple of money trees / jade plants and pot them in green ceramic pots either just outside, or inside, your front door. If you can't find jade plants, bay leaf plants also work well. And, if you can, paint your front door either red or green. I would tend to go to red as a signal to the universe that you want to welcome the money in; but I have heard others benefit greatly from green as a way of inviting new opportunities. Do what feels right to you.

Great points. I hadn’t known much, if anything, about Feng Shui before this thread - but the psychological effects of decluttering is amazing. I intermittently declutter and it is so freeing. My front door is black which we have discussed here is good and am always grateful for advice to keep on top of draining energy.

 

[Hi there]

Wow! Feeling so much frustration after reading the other thread, yet so helpless. I understand the poster being heavily pregnant must be going through some heavy hormonal changes but do think she went overboard with getting offended. I felt so sorry for our french lady, I genuinely believe she was speaking of her own experience and nothing else.
My heart broke after reading @Miscanthus message. I haven’t been through it myself, but I know I will not be able to have kids. My boyfriend has been through a life changing trauma and has lost complete faith in him to start a family, physically and mentally. Wouldn’t even try/think going IVF route and I know we aren’t married so if I want kids I should just end things now but it is so so hard to do that. Going through very difficult self reflection to decide what I want moving forward in my life and reading that thread last night left me speechless. I knew speaking up will just bring more chaos.
I find so much comfort in knowing all you ladies are here and are so much help and supportive xx

 

[Milking Keynes]

Wow! Feeling so much frustration after reading the other thread, yet so helpless. I understand the poster being heavily pregnant must be going through some heavy hormonal changes but do think she went overboard with getting offended. I felt so sorry for our french lady, I genuinely believe she was speaking of her own experience and nothing else.
My heart broke after reading @Miscanthus message. I haven’t been through it myself, but I know I will not be able to have kids. My boyfriend has been through a life changing trauma and has lost complete faith in him to start a family, physically and mentally. Wouldn’t even try/think going IVF route and I know we aren’t married so if I want kids I should just end things now but it is so so hard to do that. Going through very difficult self reflection to decide what I want moving forward in my life and reading that thread last night left me speechless. I knew speaking up will just bring more chaos.
I find so much comfort in knowing all you ladies are here and are so much help and supportive xx

What an incredibly difficult time for you. Have faith in yourself, though, you will make the right decisions for you. What an emotional, divisive and difficult subject at the best of times - I remember at one point not being able to put on the tv in case of baby ads and happy Mums and Dads. By the grace of God, and many years trying, it came right for me but I still feel the heartache acutely like so many on our threads. Noone was wrong or right last night, in particular, but there is definitely a problem currently with the energy as @Oops explained and we have to accept it will take time. I wish you love and luck in your decisions and please feel our support.

 

[Yel]

Fear of posting and get banned

To be fair only one person has been given a temp ban over on that thread because they've already been warned about violent posts and they ignored this and carried on posting them. We have no option in this case as messages like that could be seen to incite violence and could shut down the whole site.

No one gets banned easily, you'd have to have had several warnings and insist on keeping breaking the rules. Rules are boring, but they only exist for everyone's sake and aren't there to zap the fun or anything.

If mods delete the offtopic arguments then people having a pop at us for deleting messages, even though we only do so for everyone's sake to make the threads run well. If we leave them up then the thread becomes a mess. Really can't win on this one.

End of the day, it's a gossip forum. There's always going to be certain topics that people are sensitive to, we can't possibly stop all discussion of all topics that people could take to heart.

What would be best if people stop having a pop at each other, keep scrolling rather than starting arguments and post about what they want to talk about. Be the change you want to see and all that