It definitely is narcissism, selfishness and stupidity.You guys are overthinking this. You don't need music to dance. But she wasn't dancing, she was stimming.
I agree with those of you who have said that some of her stimming is getting completely out of control and needs to stop. The head banging either needs to stop or they need to have her wear a helmet. I've seen her within inches of bashing her head on their precious marble counter tops and others have seen the same elsewhere. If that were my (relatively neurotypical) daughter I would be freaking the eff out and would never allow her to sit at that counter top. But we know they will never make her wear a helmet because they are too invested in creating an image that their daughter is like anybody else's daughter, and they will never not allow her to sit at a stone counter top. Plus, if she bashes her head in, honestly it will probably get them a lot of views.
I actually like the Maass family, but I do think that at this point they see everything in terms of views. I think they appreciated the scandal about his other chlid for this reason. I think they are willing to risk Coronavirus because again--more views. They would probably all survive Coronavirus and make some significant money from documenting their experience with it. I think it's also possible that they don't care about Abbie hurting herself because honestly, brain damage would actually make her easier to manage. I know that sounds really callous, but that is the reality. She is currently brian damaged (for lack of better words, I know we don't know the specific cause of her issues) and yet she is extremely mobile. She requires fairly constant supervision lest she hurt herself, destroy things, kill the dogs, drown, and so forth. But maybe I'm just a huge jerk for thinking like this.
And as for her "dancing" with that lady, of course she was not dancing and we were not shown any of them handling that situation in any sort of way showing respect for others or a desire to teach their daughter appropriate behavior. He actually really coddled her afterward. He should have said, "No. Do not grab strangers." Instead he acted like the lady's behavior was abnormal, strange, and somewhat pitiful. "She's not used to dancing in aquariums." Nobody fucking is, and if your daughter can understand the words you record yourself telling her to explain this woman's behavior, then she is capable of understanding the words you should have used to instruct her not to behave like that--ever.
There's lots of websites which talk about stimming, here is one of them. It discusses how it should be curtailed when it becomes disruptive and dangerous. Abbie's head-banging is dangerous and disruptive, and her grabbing strangers is both as well. The website I linked also talks about how stimming can be used as a coping mechanism for adjusting to overstimulation or unfamiliar situations. I do think they go too far dragging her everywhere when such stimming is going to be a very predictable occurrence--and then they just act like it's all beyond their control and everybody should just deal with it. I know most of you chalk this up to what you perceive as their extreme narcissism, selfishness, stupidity, etc., and maybe you are right. I'm starting to think they are taking some kind of drugs which cloud their judgment (legal drugs, I'm referring to, such as psychotropics.)
And...
You could be right too.
However...
IF they are on psychotropics, their dose is wayyyy too high!!!
In addition...
They have zero business out in real life on that high of a dose. Much less being caregivers to a severely IDD kid!
A combination of these things results in pretty much what we witness on their vlogs.
IMO.
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