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Unbelievable.. they go to 2 restaurants in one day? I'm still pretty much stay at home and occasional .. maybe once a week pick up take out.. wow.
Especially Abbie because she touches everything, puts her hands on her face, in her mouth, up her nose, yells. There is just no need to take her out like that.
I agree with the post that said she should be disciplined and get a peanut butter sandwich instead of bringing their meal home and let her eat it there.. they always bring home the restaurant food and let her eat it at home...
It's also an ABA- like response...denying a child their favourite things (that may be self soothing or whatever) until they learn to "behave/communicate properly", except that a) the autistic person is just going to get even more frustrated b) It's only a band-aid solution, it doesn't actually address the root cause of the behaviour (which ABA is known for not being helpful with - addressing the main issues) and c) It doesn't actually ever address anything to do with learning how to express feelings and how to work together to create a solution for future reference (for anyone of any ability, maybe this would be a bit difficult with Abbie) It only teaches the kid to behave for the reward and puts pressure on them to 'perform well' IMO, rather than giving them the tools, communication devices etc in the first place...
i do feel bad for them because life with Abbie is never going to get easier. and it sucks for all of them that this is life from now on.
He made such a production about her I pad in her book bag and putting it in the trunk!It's also an ABA- like response...denying a child their favourite things (that may be self soothing or whatever) until they learn to "behave/communicate properly", except that a) the autistic person is just going to get even more frustrated b) It's only a band-aid solution, it doesn't actually address the root cause of the behaviour (which ABA is known for not being helpful with - addressing the main issues) and c) It doesn't actually ever address anything to do with learning how to express feelings and how to work together to create a solution for future reference (for anyone of any ability, maybe this would be a bit difficult with Abbie) It only teaches the kid to behave for the reward and puts pressure on them to 'perform well' IMO, rather than giving them the tools, communication devices etc in the first place...
Did their lazy asses with their 'typical teenager' take it into the restaurant patio with them?
I'll bet hell no.
I do not feel bad for them at all.
They raised her to be violent.
She's been attacking
for many many years.It's their own doing.
The public school professionals said Abbie is unreachable.
They were right and the way she is at age 15 with no improvements just regression, is additional proof.
IMO.
This comment was left a few days ago....now today they are showing a different side of Abbie. Yes this is speculation but I think at some point they have to be a little real with how Abbie behaves. Yes I know they have shown videos in the past of her being aggressive but as of lately we don’t hear about it as much.
She sounds pretty much on par with Abbie.. but Abbie is way lower then age 10. Sounds like they think of Abbie as a little princess.This comment was left a few days ago....now today they are showing a different side of Abbie. Yes this is speculation but I think at some point they have to be a little real with how Abbie behaves. Yes I know they have shown videos in the past of her being aggressive but as of lately we don’t hear about it as much.
And you know, Abbie has basically been home for at least 6 weeks, doing nothing more than a ride to DD in the cart or a walk down their street. Did they not think that maybe ripping and running and going to so many places in one day might have overstimulated her? Why not ease back into to things instead of going full throttle??
I had a question about school once Ass said they had a bathroom in each classroom. Are students required to be potty trained at school or does she wear a pull-up that needs to be changed by her teacher? Anyone have an experience as a parent or aide/teacher?
Came back to answer my own question, lol. Food. Its all about frkn food. They just HAVE to eat out. Get it to go all the time and get over it.
She wears a pull-up to school and keeps a change of clothing in her backpack.
Asa is probably excited about that bathroom because he is hoping the school will finally finish toilet training her. Sad.
Aww look
Like pseudo mother like pseudo daughter
They know she’ll never be able to make friends, so it’s all about the land of make believe. They should know better that in order to make Abbie move & not manipulate, that it takes a firm & stand your ground personality.
I wonder if it is hard for A and P to see the channels with younger kids beginning to speak. I didn't see the video, but someone said that the Wee girl was verbally naming colors now. All the while Abbie just stays Abbie. Asa very briefly mentioned Abbie's developmental delay...she is probably more affected by the IDD than the others.
I myself would like them to share their frustrations about Ab's anger and violence because it is something we deal with in my family, and I'm sure other special needs families could relate as well. You are right (whoever said it)...it doesn't matter if Abbie will never match colors. How she behaves and treats others is more important. Begin with modeling behavior by stopping the rough housing.
I myself would like them to share their frustrations about Ab's anger and violence because it is something we deal with in my family, and I'm sure other special needs families could relate as well. You are right (whoever said it)...it doesn't matter if Abbie will never match colors. How she behaves and treats others is more important. Begin with modeling behavior by stopping the rough housing.
I think she probably does pretty good with the bathroom at school since they have her on a schedule.
Amen to everything you said! I too wondered why the sudden showing of her taking her ipad and backpack...I don't think they normally take either with them when they go out...or maybe I've missed that? Abbie seemed confused as to why she had it too. She dumped it in the garage and then he made a big deal about putting it in the trunk, as if Abbie was supposed to know. Strange! Anyway...I have to wonder if they didn't get to the restaurant and start the "what do you want sweet girl, how about this, what about that?" Ganging up on her and flooding her brain with 50 questions at once like they always do to her...knowing full well she can't tell them what she wants! I would have decked P too!He made such a production about her I pad in her book bag and putting it in the trunk!
Did their lazy asses with their 'typical teenager' take it into the restaurant patio with them?
I'll bet hell no.
I do not feel bad for them at all.
They raised her to be violent.
She's been attacking
It's their own doing.
The public school professionals said Abbie is unreachable.
They were right and the way she is at age 15 with no improvements just regression, is additional proof.
IMO.
She
She DID say motherhood was not her jam. Asshole changed it. I remember thinking what a poor excuse for a mother she is.
Actually this is well put.
Big shedding dogs, a cat, dirt, dust & flowers galore! They are stupid to have all those things w/ a non-verbal child w/ allergies. They need to get her allergy tested. It’s neglectful of them if they don’t manage her allergies better. And I do believe in childhood exposure to allergens, but it’s over the top w/ them. Assa is surely waiting for some air purifier freebies.
" As she wades through the buildings towards the center of town ... go, go Priscilla"
In a way they are approaching Abbie’s discipline Ike she’s neurotypical. By the time they got home, Abbie probably forgot she was in trouble.
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