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Sam-I-Am

Agree.. Which is why I stated “The problem is, by what I can tell, none of these would allow Abbie to work and live in them. They require that the person go through VR services and be able to handle some independent direction without complete oversight constantly...”

There is no way, at Abbie’s current state, she would qualify for what JSA has long term plans for.. They would not be able to supply constant 1-on-1 care, which Abbie needs. Sadly, she probably is almost up to 2-on-1 care, which is really sad, when you think about it..
I have been to Autism camps, our State has a few and my kids attended them. They have set requirements and I still dont think Abbie could have attended,with her severe IDD..They can handle a lot too but gosh, Abbie takes the cake (literally and figuratively)... They do a lot of 1-on-1 care for each camper but by what I can tell on the vlogs, Abbie has to have either someone that can respond quickly to her or have two people on her, to keep her out of trouble and safe..
 
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Kermy

Someone was saying earlier (sorry can't remember who) that A&P probably have 30 to 40 years left in them but accidents and things happen. Say one of them falls off those dumbass scooters or slams their head getting thrown into the pool and ends up needing long term care . Cancer, heart attacks, diabetes can hit anyone.
Do they even have health insurance on themselves and Isaiah or do they play russian roulette.
The leghumpers would probably start a go fund me and the lives on YT and FB would ramp up with the appropriate sad faces, fake tears and porn voice.
 
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Appalled watcher from Eng

If Asa is so bored, why doesn't he go and volunteer. People here are volunteering to work in supermarkets where staff are off ill or in isolation, delivering food etc etc. He has forgotten what real work is.
 
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Pink Marshmallow

That leghumper honestly thinks standing or floating around in the pool constitutes swimming?? None of them are swimming laps or going from one end to the other and back. Staying stationary in the pool does not equal being active and exercising. Shit, if it were that easy, I'll buy a gym membership and just stand around in the gym.
 
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Pink Marshmallow

You know Almighty Asa would have a rage fit when JSA tries to tell them that Abbie can't be in that program. I can just hear him shouting: "It's a program for autistic people!!! She has autism - where is the problem??!"
I don't know what it's like in the US but I saw a documentary on YT about a young man in Australia (or maybe New Zealand) with severe autism and IDD who had to be taken out of the home due to his very bad temper and physical violence and appeared to be at least moderately IDD as well. He was placed in a care home where he had someone with him pretty much round the clock and it seemed to work pretty well. Not that things went perfectly, but there were no major incidents. Obviously I know that every individual is different but I think something like that could work for Abbie.
I still feel that a lot of what is holding her back is A&P and how they handle or fail to handle her. I think if she were in an environment with people who actually knew what they were doing, were patient and firm, were consistent and followed through, didn't give in to tantrums, and knew how to work with Abbie, get her on a schedule & routine and keep it like that - she could definitely improve.
I don't think Abbie is a lost cause with no hope. Yes there is a lot that is stacked against her, but I still don't think she should be given up on.
 
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Kermy

Abbies biggest issue is A&P. They are lazy, narcissistic, moneygrubbing, gimme gimme gimme garbage people. This is something I think we all pretty much agree on.
I don't think they even see her as a daughter anymore, just a loud $ whose their mealticket.
Does anyone know if a group home works the same as a nursing home in terms of assets and payment?
 
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Baymaus

Stripe69 said:
Really active. The only body parts of miss that get regular exercise are
her fingers and thumbs
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I'm an Olympic athlete compared to them. And A is a fool about excersize the same way he is about everything else. We are starting Florida summer. Hot, humid and miserable. It is like a wet sauna. Running outside when your in poor condition in this weather is not advisable. Treadmill indoors, a brisk walk to get your heart rate up, bike rides. And not in the afternoon. The sun is brutal then. Seriously. How do they live in Florida and not know these things?

Kermy said:
Does anyone know if a group home works the same as a nursing home in terms of assets and payment?
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In my experience it depends on how each is funded. There are group homes and nursing homes that accept what government assistance someone is getting. My brother was in a group home like that years ago. There are others where the family chips in. Those tend to be a bit more pleasant. My Dad is in a nursing home that would bankrupt us if we had to pay ourselves. Since he is there because of a military related disability, we don't pay out of pocket.

Even in the footage of the school or with Brandi, there have been subtle things said about things they want Abbie to work on. Like grabbing food or pulling on people. No way would they say outright to the lawsuit happy A&P that these things would be a problem in their village, but the fact that the school keeps pointing it out is significant.
 
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derr1117

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Does this commenter not know he has a daughter he has never even tried to meet or support???
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that Tonia Kind person will defend FA constantly and make nasty comments back to me when I’d point out something not right. It’s like a sick cult
 
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PhartBlossom

Good morning... I am in love with Leg Wanus ( wink wink nudge nudge )

So yesterdays video at about 8:07 Summer hugging Abbie in the pool....so weird...so fucking odd. She has her eyes closed like she is in love or some shit. At 14:40 at the dinner table...Summer does the nose thing exactly like P does! I mean exactly! She is going to get the "allergic salute" of the horizontal nasal crease too.

Why does Asa make a video about him making coffee then Isaiah comes in with DD? Those people are beyond being full of shit.

I absolutely hate seeing them throw Abbie in the pool. Once school starts back, they staff is going to have such a hard time with her. They are teaching her horrible things and ,"no Asa...she does not know the difference between home and out and family and strangers" How can you teach any kid to keep their hands to themselves when they can't do it themselves?

Asa complaining seems to be starting to get to some of the fans. Maybe the Corona virus will be the downfall of FA, the virus killed the channel!!!
 
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NotYourMama

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She is constantly rubbing her eyes when her hair is down in her face. They should use hair clips or bobby pins to keep it pulled back and out of her eyes.
 
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ABAPQueen1995

I agree. Abbie is nothing more than a "circus performing act" to them. No wonder why she gets frustrated and overwhelmed easily.
 
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PhartBlossom

NotYourMama said:
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She is constantly rubbing her eyes when her hair is down in her face. They should use hair clips or bobby pins to keep it pulled back and out of her eyes.
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She would pull them out and eat them...that would never work. Cutting her stringy hair is really the only option to keep it out of her face
 
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