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I was watching the vlog "Home From The Hospital" and I found this scene taken from when Cilla was home and Asa's mom was in the bedroom talking to CIlla. In walks Abbie. Asa says "Oh look everybody's here". Look at the expressions on his mother's face. She looks surprised then shocked and finally disgusted with Abbie. Wonder what that's all about?

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I'm confused, what does that mean?
Basically a fan said she was watching the Ellen show, saw his notification and stopped watching Ellen. So he had to tag Ellen saying basically sorry Ellen (my fan likes me more than watching you) and added the hashtags Fathering Autism vs The Ellen show with the boxing gloves. He probably was hoping someone from her channel would think it was funny and contact him so he could go on. Of course he'd tell his story to Ellen and she'd give him and Cilla a check for 450 million dollars. Because he thinks he's all the things.
 
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Currently I'm working out a mess with my brother. The stress of the lockdown and losing the routine he had with me, my husband and his caretaker boiled over yesterday and he became agitated. A concerned neighbor heard the yelling and called the police. He lives in a different county than us so I've been over that way until now.
It is pretty much what we've talked about here. He had the kind of tantrum he used to have as a child. Only now he is not a child.
He wasn't arrested. He also wasn't allowed to stay in his home.
I had a chance to really look at his home and he's not been taking care of things. Garbage (paper and recycling) was stuffed in cabinets and there was a plumbing issue he failed to mention (he's been flushing the toilet with a bucket of water for a couple of days).
So to get him back home we would have to up the number of times we check in and be more stringent in what we check. And talk with people where he lives because while he has kind neighbors, this really got everyone's attention.
 
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Morning everyone. Another sleep in today 8.20 I can’t believe how busy you have all been, I better get reading.
 
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Currently I'm working out a mess with my brother. The stress of the lockdown and losing the routine he had with me, my husband and his caretaker boiled over yesterday and he became agitated. A concerned neighbor heard the yelling and called the police. He lives in a different county than us so I've been over that way until now.
It is pretty much what we've talked about here. He had the kind of tantrum he used to have as a child. Only now he is not a child.
He wasn't arrested. He also wasn't allowed to stay in his home.
I had a chance to really look at his home and he's not been taking care of things. Garbage (paper and recycling) was stuffed in cabinets and there was a plumbing issue he failed to mention (he's been flushing the toilet with a bucket of water for a couple of days).
So to get him back home we would have to up the number of times we check in and be more stringent in what we check. And talk with people where he lives because while he has kind neighbors, this really got everyone's attention.
I’m so sorry.. Is he on a Medicaid waiver for services? I am asking because there is ways to get that more going for him, if he needs it. There is a lot of crisis going on and more people needing support (and lots of funding has been pushed into these programs) to help people that have disabilities due to this virus...
Again, I am so sorry he is going through this and your family is too.. I know it is rough just on mine and they are smaller and don’t have independent living environments to keep up or jobs to worry about..

Morning everyone. Another sleep in today 8.20 I can’t believe how busy you have all been, I better get reading.
Morning! It is 3:24am here in the states (EST).. I am hoping to get to sleep in soon and that Hubby lets me sleep in..
 
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Some leghumpers are not happy with the lack of training Sandy is receiving. I agree. That dog was all over the place on the walk. I couldn't deal with that.
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I love the bit where it says some dog owners let their dogs behave like spoiled children, they should be reprimanded. Remind you of something else ?
 
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She probably bought some herself. What I don’t understand with this scheme is how at some point you just won’t have more people you can ask to join you. If you are recruiting your friends and family surely you are then in competition with them for sales as you all know pretty much the same group of people. Is it me, I just don’t get it.

I think you’re all toooooo nit picky sometimes. This pup isn’t more than 5 months old. Have you ever had a puppy? 🥴

Que the, “actually yes I’ve had 19 puppies in my life and they all were well behaved by 21 weeks old. Oh and my dad trains puppies” bullshit comments.

I always come here hoping to come across some decent debate/conversation but it’s always so shallow.
Couple of new members I notice .hmm
 
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I’m so sorry.. Is he on a Medicaid waiver for services? I am asking because there is ways to get that more going for him, if he needs it. There is a lot of crisis going on and more people needing support (and lots of funding has been pushed into these programs) to help people that have disabilities due to this virus...
Again, I am so sorry he is going through this and your family is too.. I know it is rough just on mine and they are smaller and don’t have independent living environments to keep up or jobs to worry about..
He is and I did speak to his caseworker yesterday about possibilities and it looks like there is more that could be done. She's very nice and actually asked how I was doing. I almost cried. Right now it is more about him not being a threat to others and then moving forward. And of course, nothing will happen this weekend.
 
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She makes at least 35% commission on her own sales plus 6% on her downline plus bonuses
No wonder Arsewipe is trying to jump on the bandwagon.

Exactly! If A&P had given her the proper care and attention starting from day one, I think she would have been a different child. All the OT, PT, ST, etc. in the world wouldn't have changed the fact that she's severely IDD and (to a lesser extent, imo) autistic. But I genuinely think that if they had participated more in the development (and MAINTENANCE!) of some basic skills (hygiene, not stealing food, not hitting/pinching, etc.) and actually paid attention to her and her needs (instead of "working" all day - get of your effing phone, P!) everyone, including Abbie, would have been so much more content.
I think this is the best she will be. They just haven’t got what it takes to help her improve.
 
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He is and I did speak to his caseworker yesterday about possibilities and it looks like there is more that could be done. She's very nice and actually asked how I was doing. I almost cried. Right now it is more about him not being a threat to others and then moving forward. And of course, nothing will happen this weekend.
I hear you and yes, the best way is to start at his case worker. They should be able to apply Monday morning for him some emergency funds and help too...
Hang in there and remember, it could have turned out a lot worse... Thankfully, someone called before it did... I know we don’t always like the police but sometimes they can be helpful..
 
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Morning! It is 3:24am here in the states (EST).. I am hoping to get to sleep in soon and that Hubby lets me sleep in..
Morning! I'm a night owl so this is my natural habitat. I'm watching Alton Brown on DVR and eating comfort food. Not the kind Cilla makes, but not healthy either.
 
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And she did it only because of the YT channel, which is where they exploit Abbie.
I do not think she has what it takes to do that much volume on her own.
Hell, she's admitted she has very few friends.
So woooo hoooo to her for scamming enough people to hit that mark.
She should be ashamed of herself.
IMO.
Can you imagine if she was selling beauty products in a department store, jeez you would just walk straight past. That is not a look to aspire to.

I don’t think so. I don’t think they should own dogs. Just my opinion.
Yes, we are all sooo shallow. Close the door on the way out
 
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I love the bit where it says some dog owners let their dogs behave like spoiled children, they should be reprimanded. Remind you of something else ?
My neck can't bend that way. I can put my head down but not my neck at a 45 degree angle from my shoulders. How does she do that?
 
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Summer said she almost bit her! Watch out Summer. She has drawn blood several times before. I noticed Abbie takes a bite from someone like a newborn frantically roots for the nipple. She should be taught smaller bites, but all they ever do is laugh at her.
It’s disgusting. I have a thing about table manners and they just let her carry on stuffing her face. They really need to wake up .
 
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No, in each state, the state has to allocate so much funding. It isn’t cheap either. As living in a state worse than Florida, we have one of the lowest allocated funding, at $135k a year, when a spot is opened.. Usually the state is setting aside 100 new spots a year, over top of the already open spots that happen when someone dies (which is really rare).. There are more people on the waitlist (over 3k individuals) than currently receive them in my state..
They also go by county, on how many spots get opened. Like our county, got 10 spots last year. There is over 200 on the waitlist.. My county has a 7-10 year wait. The county next door, has a 13.8 year wait...
The only way to have the list shortened, is for our state government to push millions into the health systems. This happened many, many years ago, and cleared the wait lists in many states. The problem, as soon as they closed it, within the next year, they had waitlists years long again..
The worst part, if you move states, it doesn’t move.. You have to start again..
There are some states, a very short handful, that do not have waitlists but they are mostly in higher than average, cost of living too (ie NY and NJ)..

Now, there is 2 ways to get your child or adult moved up the waiver list. In a child, that have to be deemed a danger to themselves and others in their community.This takes police, fire or EMT reports, showing that they need more help than a parent can give.Example: when my son decided since I was to busy to help him cook frozen cinnamonbread sticks, he decided to get his sister to help. Together, they read the wrong directions. Instead of microwaving them for 1min 15secs, they cooked them for 4mins and right when the buzzer went off, the plate was on fire, shatter and smoke came out of my mircowave. I was told that I should have called the fire Dept, had a report done and they would have taken that as a need to move them up on the list.. Lord forbid that I needed 10 minutes to go over lab results with a specialist..)
Okay, anyways, the only other way, is to apply for an emergency slot for services. The only way our state allows for an emergency slot, is 1, a medical fragile/ill child is aging out of their medical waiver and needs to move to this waiver (our medical fragile/ill doesn’t go past 20 years of age) OR the individual that is reaponsible for the individual, is no longer able to care for them.. Sadly, in our area, they are seeing this more and more. We have a lot of 40-50-60 year olds that are applying for emergency slots because their elderly parents, that are 60-70-80-90 years old, are needing to be placed in nurisng homes and can no longer take care of them. Most of these individuals have never been to school, nor can function but they have to go somewhere.. Doctors are having to wait to place the elderly into nursing homes, until they can get them emergency slots. Our state usually only gives 25 slots for the whole state too.. It creates a mess, when the elderly person dies and the IDD/Autism individual is still waiting for an emergency slot..
Wow..that's crazy.

Now, not to get too political (don't worry, I'm not going to get into specific politicians/parties/political plans) , but given that most "first world" countries (like NZ, Australia, Canada, UK, Italy, France, the Nordic countries, etc) all have universal healthcare, and given the health/lack of financial burden of these countries, would it not be safe to say that America - especially disabled Americans and those with chronic health needs - would benefit from universal healthcare?
Because then - to my understanding - this would then mean that there would be more (equal) money/funding/more access to the services (that the waitlists are providing), therefore less burdens of families, etc. I mean, you said here that "The only way to have the list shortened, is for our state government to push millions into the health systems. This happened many, many years ago, and cleared the wait lists in many states. " So if the US had logical healthcare, or at least, not hyperinflated healthcare costs (yah, know, like the rest of the world) then there would be near-equal funding across the states? So then the waitlist problem would be a non-issue?

Please forgive me if I have some incorrect guesses, lol. I'm not really familiar with the US health system (or lack of!) and I am a kind of utopian/optimistic person...so I'm aware people could say this is unrealistic! I guess I'm just hopeful :)
 
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