Me too! I would have initially had some kind of contact thru the years even if my son didn’t. Send something for holidays, bday, etc. i would want an amicable relationship with the mother so I could see my grandchild.I've thought about this too - for a grandparent (and especially Asa's parent), I'd think that they would need to allow the granddaughter to initiate. I've tried to put myself in the place of a grandparent and it would drive me bonkers if I knew I had a grandchild that I didn't know.