Growing up with a father who didn’t meet your needs in childhood/growing up without a father can impact women so negatively, and create so many long term issues regarding attachment, mental health, self-esteem...
I think it's really telling that Estée herself uses the word trauma in the video announcing her engagement.
To me Estée seems to have a lot in common with Niomi Smart when it comes to relationships. It looks and sounds like they desperately need to be chosen by a man to feel validated at least, and finally get the attention they've always lacked.
Joe breaking their engagement was like one more 'abandonment' for Niomi.
As for Aslan, if Estée wanted him to 'choose her' and propose, no doubt the end of their relationship must have been quite traumatic for
her...
100%, I totally agree -- that
"trauma" comment stood out to me as well. Estee and Niomi are clearly dealing with trauma and are very lost people with low self-esteem. To them,
any male attention is considered "good" attention.
And what's so disturbing about both situations is Niomi and Estee both seem to be
aware of how toxic it all is...but
they don't seem to care. Niomi knows her fiancé is a misogynist, a fraud, and (probably?) involved in a cult...but she doesn't seem to care. Estee is fully aware that she forced her fiance into proposing and that this is all directly related to her "trauma"...but she doesn't seem to care.
But at the same time, it's hard to feel bad for Estee and Niomi because they are both extremely narcissistic (fueled by their insecurities), calculative, and entitled. And what does that say about them that they don't
care about how they're impacting themselves and others? It's not good...
It's all a cycle of hurt-people-hurt-people. Just because they have been hurt, doesn't give them a free pass to cause damage elsewhere.
It's fascinating. They should do case studies on these two haha.