There are a few videos on YouTube, I like the reading by Tom O’Bedlam. There is also a reading by Richard Burton but he sounds a bit too aggressiveTheres a recording of a guy speaking the words. It was often played on the radio when I was a kid.
Can't remember who did the voiceover though.
There are a few videos on YouTube, I like the reading by Tom O’Bedlam. There is also a reading by Richard Burton but he sounds a bit too aggressive
I just knew it was that.Thank you just found the poem it is Desiderata posted by cassandra333 post 387 if anyone else would like to have a look. I just love this poem I’m so happy it was posted on here. There’s so much good advice in the words, some life lessons I’ve already learnt through a few hardships and some words that I hope will help me to view life and it’s many ups and downs in a less anxious, calmer way.
Try 'Advantage', much better than 'Frontline' in my experienceHaving a really low day today. Just heard I was outbid on a house I wanted, still feel heartbroken and like I miss my ex and to top it off my kittens have fleas. I know relatively it’s all small stuff, Just feel like I can’t catch a break and everything is on top of me at the moment.
Oh darling, you are so much not a waste of life - you're here and we love you. Depression is a terrible disease - makes you hate yourself so much; but then, think about how strong you've been when faced with adversity in life xJust waiting to die really. Shouldn't have even been born I think. Just a waste of space and deserve nothing in life.
I'm a very kind caring and loving person but been destroyed mentally on the inside.
I smile laugh and help others.
I feel I'm a waste of a life.
Like others have mentioned on this thread about having cancer and the poor people in Kabul. I'd gladly give you's my life.
I'm exhausted all the time from very little. So that makes me feel even more useless.
Even doing the littlest thing is exhausting for me. Haven't showered in a few days can't be bothered, just the thought of the effort of washing myself is tiring.
I have been keeping myself clean and I don't smell, just not fully showering.
I always just smile and then cry sometimes when I'm alone
@Chita , I am in a similar position so I'll try and give some advice on the subject. My mother died 9 years ago this Xmas . My father was 81 and had been waited hand and foot by mum so he really was struggling. He has mobility problems but isn't one to try and help himself. I retired from working in the NHS for 32 years to look after him. Like your friend, I have a brother who doesn't live far from him but it's always me that does the running around. It's fair to say that my own health suffered as a result, my dad would phone at 2 in the morning cos he thinks he's out of bread. I decided 4 years ago I'd had enough and dad's agreed to have carers in 4 times a day and a lovely young girl goes into him x2 a week do do his shopping and cleaning as I was working in a new job full time. During the 2nd lockdown dad's health deteriorated and this time he has a social worker and he has a careline button for if he falls. I still get ridiculous phone calls but not in the middle of the night. I've had to be strong to preserve my health and marriage. My father wasn't happy when I told him I could no longer be his carer but he knew my brother wouldn't step up and he could see how I'll I'd become. I would also suggest speak to age UK, they have excellent tips . I also joine a carers group and they gave invaluable advice such as , try and persuade the relative to join a lunch club, buy a diary and write down the days you'll visit, phone before visiting to check if anything needs buying in. I discovered a lot of my dad's behaviour was his way of controlling me like he had my mum. I always make sure I'm in control of visiting so if he starts to get pissy with me I just walk out. Does your friend's sibling have any idea how difficult things are? I often find if one member of the family seems to take charge then others step back, so maybe a bit of a family pow wow maybe required with a bit of a rota drawn up. Bit off topic my dad is 90 next month, god knows how we're gonna celebrate it as nobody actually likes him....think Father Jack in Father Ted, luckily his niece who is like a sister to me has agreed to pop in on the day with a card and for tea and cake cos apart from us no-one else will bother with him . Families eh ?. Lastly I think your friend will probably have to gently tell her mother and sister that maybe there's a 2 hour window everyday where she won't be available ? This time could be used to maybe read a book , listen to music, pre covid I would treat my self to a cinema visit on my own and it honestly gave me respite from the daily angst. I wish your friend all the best cos it's truly a difficult position to be in
Hello first time in this thread. Just had a massive ugly cry in front of my 4yo because the baby was sick all over me for the second time this morning. I'm averaging 5 hours of sleep a night when I know I need 8 to function. OH is almost running on empty too due to work so can't lean on him too much. MIL is coming over after lunch and whilst she is a nice person, she'll just sit and expect to be waited on. She does offer to help but in that half hearted "I hope you don't say yes" way.
I currently see no way out of the children treadmill. Baby turns 1 soon and I have no job to come back to. I signed up for a free online course in an area I'm interested in and haven't even started Day 1.
I've turned into the nightmare I had when I was in my teens. A woman with no identity except looking after her kids.
I'm going to stop here as I have a very good life. But I just would like more sleep and time to do something just for me that isn't exercise or catching up on chores (which is what usually happens with any child free time).
You must be completely exhausted. With the MIL situation- is there any possibility you can ask her not to come over so you can hopefully have some chill time? Or if she does come over then take her up on her offers to help- even if it sounds half hearted. You deserve help and she shouldn’t offer if she’s not okay with the outcome that you say yes.Hello first time in this thread. Just had a massive ugly cry in front of my 4yo because the baby was sick all over me for the second time this morning. I'm averaging 5 hours of sleep a night when I know I need 8 to function. OH is almost running on empty too due to work so can't lean on him too much. MIL is coming over after lunch and whilst she is a nice person, she'll just sit and expect to be waited on. She does offer to help but in that half hearted "I hope you don't say yes" way.
I currently see no way out of the children treadmill. Baby turns 1 soon and I have no job to come back to. I signed up for a free online course in an area I'm interested in and haven't even started Day 1.
I've turned into the nightmare I had when I was in my teens. A woman with no identity except looking after her kids.
I'm going to stop here as I have a very good life. But I just would like more sleep and time to do something just for me that isn't exercise or catching up on chores (which is what usually happens with any child free time).
Ask mum in law if she'd like to take the kids to the park for you when she next visits. Have baby looking gorgeous and put all the necessities into the pram bag, including a few wee treats for the 4 year old. Big the excursion up to the 4 yr old, use her/him for an enthusiastic "HI GRANNY, when we go to the park I'm bringing my ball/dolly and we can all play together. I'm so excited". Granny should melt and be up for it in the face of a cute 4 yr old so excited. Even if she only takes an hour, just a stroll around and/or a visit to the ice cream shop. Ask her, maybe her half hearted offer of help is made that way because she doesn't want to offend you in case you throw a wobbler and think "She fucken thinks I can't cope! THE OLD BITCH!" She's a mum, she'll remember how precious "me time" was. You might be surprised. You can use the hour or two for your online course (fuck the housework).Hello first time in this thread. Just had a massive ugly cry in front of my 4yo because the baby was sick all over me for the second time this morning. I'm averaging 5 hours of sleep a night when I know I need 8 to function. OH is almost running on empty too due to work so can't lean on him too much. MIL is coming over after lunch and whilst she is a nice person, she'll just sit and expect to be waited on. She does offer to help but in that half hearted "I hope you don't say yes" way.
I currently see no way out of the children treadmill. Baby turns 1 soon and I have no job to come back to. I signed up for a free online course in an area I'm interested in and haven't even started Day 1.
I've turned into the nightmare I had when I was in my teens. A woman with no identity except looking after her kids.
I'm going to stop here as I have a very good life. But I just would like more sleep and time to do something just for me that isn't exercise or catching up on chores (which is what usually happens with any child free time).
This is such a lovely post and thank you for writing it. Unfortunately I know this will not work with my PIL. For the past four weeks they've said they'll take the kids to the park when they come up on their weekly visit. But there's always an excuse - it's raining or *might* rain/it's too hot/MIL forgot her walking shoes/they're tired today. I can't bear the disappointment or fall out from my 4yo so I simply don't tell him anymore. I'm also a whimp when it comes to MIL's (rare) strops, which are partly enhanced due to her mental health. They've taken him to the park once alone in 4 years and that was partly because we begged them as it was during a house move. I got a phone call an hour after they left asking when I was coming to collect himAsk mum in law if she'd like to take the kids to the park for you when she next visits. Have baby looking gorgeous and put all the necessities into the pram bag, including a few wee treats for the 4 year old. Big the excursion up to the 4 yr old, use her/him for an enthusiastic "HI GRANNY, when we go to the park I'm bringing my ball/dolly and we can all play together. I'm so excited". Granny should melt and be up for it in the face of a cute 4 yr old so excited. Even if she only takes an hour, just a stroll around and/or a visit to the ice cream shop. Ask her, maybe her half hearted offer of help is made that way because she doesn't want to offend you in case you throw a wobbler and think "She fucken thinks I can't cope! THE OLD BITCH!" She's a mum, she'll remember how precious "me time" was. You might be surprised. You can use the hour or two for your online course (fuck the housework).
This is such a lovely post and thank you for writing it. Unfortunately I know this will not work with my PIL. For the past four weeks they've said they'll take the kids to the park when they come up on their weekly visit. But there's always an excuse - it's raining or *might* rain/it's too hot/MIL forgot her walking shoes/they're tired today. I can't bear the disappointment or fall out from my 4yo so I simply don't tell him anymore. I'm also a whimp when it comes to MIL's (rare) strops, which are partly enhanced due to her mental health. They've taken him to the park once alone in 4 years and that was partly because we begged them as it was during a house move. I got a phone call an hour after they left asking when I was coming to collect him
But there's a thread for MIL rantsHad a nice lunch and Mr B bought me some new Tango to try tonight. Feeling a bit better but think I'll be going to bed at the same time as the kids tonight 🥱
Thank you xx My own parents are really good with the kids but they already do a lot with them that I feel I can't ask them to do anymore.You must be completely exhausted. With the MIL situation- is there any possibility you can ask her not to come over so you can hopefully have some chill time? Or if she does come over then take her up on her offers to help- even if it sounds half hearted. You deserve help and she shouldn’t offer if she’s not okay with the outcome that you say yes.
You 100% have an identity outside your kids, it’s just hard to see when you’re exhausted and need a break- you’re signed up to a course and I’m sure a job you want will come around when you’re ready.
Nobody is repulsive and everyone is worthy of love unless they are a child beater or serial killer.I am having such a bad day, I hope you don't mind me talking here, the thing is I can have whatever treatment or diagnosis of the way I feel about myself but clearly I am repulsive and unworthy of love, my friends are single for 2 months and find a new guy, I’ve been single for 10 years and nothing!! I really give up on life because its never going to happen for me and I will always be unhappy I am so done. Sorry that's so morbid, I'm just so sad
Ah crap. She really is a bit of a loser. What is the point of her visiting then? Silly sod.This is such a lovely post and thank you for writing it. Unfortunately I know this will not work with my PIL. For the past four weeks they've said they'll take the kids to the park when they come up on their weekly visit. But there's always an excuse - it's raining or *might* rain/it's too hot/MIL forgot her walking shoes/they're tired today. I can't bear the disappointment or fall out from my 4yo so I simply don't tell him anymore. I'm also a whimp when it comes to MIL's (rare) strops, which are partly enhanced due to her mental health. They've taken him to the park once alone in 4 years and that was partly because we begged them as it was during a house move. I got a phone call an hour after they left asking when I was coming to collect him
But there's a thread for MIL rantsHad a nice lunch and Mr B bought me some new Tango to try tonight. Feeling a bit better but think I'll be going to bed at the same time as the kids tonight 🥱
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