Personality disorder, basically.Oh definitely! I think I’ve massively had a lucky escape. Thought I’d give you the latest update. I met with him to collect the last of my things, say my peace and sort finances (tickets, holiday etc). So I turned up prepared, wrote down what I had to say and worked out what he owed me. When I read what I had to say there was 0 emotion there. Then it came to the holiday and he still wanted to go but wanted me to be out of pocket or go on holiday with him but being clear we arent a couple- separate rooms/ different hotel. A holiday alone on my bday, waving at my ex from the breakfast table? No thanks. So I tried to be firm and say I expected the full amount or close to. I wasn’t the one that broke this relationship. And I also mentioned that I’d added all the stuff we had booked in up, and it was over 1k but I was willing to settle at that to make things easier. I thought I was being organised but he thought I was being bitter. With the holiday I challenged him on what would happen if they wouldn’t give him money back and he couldn’t answer so I said if I don’t get some money back I’d have to take it to small claims. Well he blew up- never seen anything like it. Just yelling at me saying I’d threatened him. Told me “right now I’m not giving you a bleeping penny”. I was terrified. Threatened to ring my dad (it was literally the only thing I could think of) which made things even worse and he yelled and swore at me until I left his house and was told I wasn’t ever welcome back at his property. Honestly the drive home I was shocked but actually thankful I’m away from him. I’ve done nothing to deserve any of this.
The following day everything was amicable, the holiday is being cancelled with an equal split and he let me keep money from some tickets rather than divide it. Honestly it kind of floored me again. How on earth can someone go from being so lovely, to cold and rejecting, to seriously angry and then back to nice within a week?? All I’ve ever done is be kind and supporting of him, I’ve done nothing to deserve any of it. Bullet well and truly dodged.
Thank goodness you are out of that safely.
Now focus on the positive. Let your parents look after you for a bit and then have some fun looking for your own home.