Thank you kind @freda19
Thank you kind @freda19Sometimes family are not very Walton. With 8 in my family I know who I can share problems with and who doesn't actually give a shite. With age comes wisdom.
It sounds like your sister offloaded onto her kid, painting you in a negative light, which is a bit shit of her TBH. Never mind, at least you now know not to bother her and I hope she has the decency to not bother you when trouble comes knocking on her door (as it surely will with a mouthy kid like that).
Well done! Remember, your meds are working on your brain but you need to do your bit physically as well, with just a wee nudge here and a bit of a push there. There will be days and even weeks when you just can't, but remember the little buzz you got putting the note on the mirror and get back on the horse. It's a hard row to hoe and will take time.thank you.That kindness was so very much what I needed today. I’ve stuck a note on my mirror with my goal for today, and put on a nice blouse for work. Thank you.
I folded the laundry today! I did it! Even put another load in for tomorrow to catch up. Also made a real (microwaved but actual food- rice, peas, cubed tofu) dinner. I’m writing out a new sticky note for my mirror for tomorrow. Thank you for the long distance support, all.Well done! Remember, your meds are working on your brain but you need to do your bit physically as well, with just a wee nudge here and a bit of a push there. There will be days and even weeks when you just can't, but remember the little buzz you got putting the note on the mirror and get back on the horse. It's a hard row to hoe and will take time.
Oh no Chita, did the Sally Hansen rehab not work ? Sorry I recommended a duff product for you...nail treatments are devilishly tricky aren't they ,?Well, Ive chucked all my nail strengthening products in the trash.
All have made my nails split and break worse than before I tried any.
When they grow back, I will have to put up with the few that seem bendy.
Most are usually ok, just a few grow a bit thinner than the others and bend if I let them grow too long.
Now even the usually good nails have broken.
What about just plain old clear nail polish.Well, Ive chucked all my nail strengthening products in the trash.
All have made my nails split and break worse than before I tried any.
When they grow back, I will have to put up with the few that seem bendy.
Most are usually ok, just a few grow a bit thinner than the others and bend if I let them grow too long.
Now even the usually good nails have broken.
What about just plain old clear nail polish.
No probs. I'll still talk to you. xxxOh no Chita, did the Sally Hansen rehab not work ? Sorry I recommended a duff product for you...nail treatments are devilishly tricky aren't they ,?
Phew that's a reliefI tried several and they all just peeled off, hence my appeal for suggestions for other things .
No probs. I'll still talk to you. xxx
Oh my goodness, those cats are beautiful - always liked Maine Coons, we just have a mini oneView attachment 680079View attachment 680080View attachment 680083
There you go guys, top to bottom
Pooh-Bear
Susan
Thor
They are very cuddly and honestly great company. I'd be lost without them, especially Pooh.
Hey, how are you - what are your interests? I have to say mine first, to open a conversation. I'm a 57--year old of four and forget about that, how are you?Great idea to start a thread, I've been lurking on H&M and several people I think of often on there.
I'm having a real Monday grump today. Was low over the weekend and called a couple of people to chat but left me feeling more lonely really as each person just talked about themselves and hardly even asked about me. There's a lot of talk in the UK about encouraging people to talk about how they feel/mental health but noone is educating people on how to listen. i.e. don't just say "oh I know, I'm the same. Anyway, listen to this story about me. . "
You're not heartless to think of yourself, being around people with complex needs is time-consuming and impacts upon you also.Hi, I need help. I'm not sure if I can write everything out properly as it's a public forum.
Essentially, I have a problem with a family member who is more than likely struggling with multiple undiagnosed mental illnesses.
I'm not medical, but more than likely autism (highly intelligent and educated), some kind of victim mentality - never this person's fault - but they are also superior to everyone else. They have a nasty, vindictive streak, will think nothing of taking "revenge" but also very mentally feeble, gullible and easily led by the nutters on the net (but can't see it). Maybe even some kind of psychopath?
I have been this person's victim my whole life, life at home revolved around keeping the peace with this person.
I spent some years with no contact which were happy and peaceful. Other (extended) family members admit to struggling, even over the phone. This person will call you up, then sit in silence, anything you do say will be repeated on FB but made to make them look like they are the victim (like Prince Harry but on steroids). They have no conversation besides "everyone else is stupid" no friends, no social life, nothing to chitchat about, nothing normal.
I have recently had the balls to clap back and point out this person's behaviour which did not go down well. They once again made out that it was someone else's fault.
I have no one to turn to, no way to figure out the truth. This person has a child but no one else besides me.
Do I stick around and have a fake relationship for their sake (it won't kill me to send a few messages or have awkward chats, even though that's never good enough) visits can be limited and they have never caused me physical harm, or cut all contact and live my life?
Part of me is irritated because I have suggested getting professional help, but this has been rejected (I kinda want to fix things and people all the time, probably from growing up this way). I would be more comfortable having a relationship with them if they were in therapy and helping themselves instead of listening to their bile.
Now, the question is, although it's nice to talk here, should I get some therapy for myself? Just to see how to handle the situation better (I can talk to some friends but it's very involved and I'm conscious of not boring people).
I can and will cut them out, but if they are not a psychopath, just struggling, the situation we are in would make that very heartless of me.
Bit of slap and spanx - you'll be fine. Meet you in Matthew Street!I've entered some kind of lockdown letgo! I used to wear make-up daily before last year, wouldn't be seen without it, now I barely even bother! I've let the grey hairs twinkle through and my body shape is Veruca Salt as the blueberry - little twig arms and legs with a beach ball middle!
I must start making more of an effort - I've gone from looking vaguely acceptable to a horror show. I've hardly seen any of my friends for the last 18 months and honestly, I don't think any of them would recognise me in the street!
You're not a failure honey, you are very important in so many people's lives. That's what depression does to you, makes you feel worthless - give me a smile, and know that you're beautifulHope this is allowed on this thread, it’s very personal but I thought it’d be nice to get some thoughts/advice anonymously
Basically I think I’ve got depression. I’ve felt it for a while, like there’s something just not quite right in my head. I have off days so does everyone but for me, it’s more than that. The tiniest thing is enormous to me. I cry because there’s plates that need cleaning, my brain can’t cope with more than one thing, even something like booking a dentist appointment along side booking a doctor app, it’s too much for me to handle mentally. I feel like a failure, a failure in life and to my family, every day just feels like a massive struggle to me and I very much have a ‘what’s the point’ mindset. My mood swings are horrific too. That’s just a small part of what I feel. It’s not every day, some days I’m really happy, but most days I’m not. I reached out to a doctor last week for the first time and it took a lot. I haven’t yet plucked up the courage to call the phone numbers they gave me (Mind etc)
sorry it’s a bit of a ramble and possibly a bit off topicbut it’s nice to get some things off my chest as I haven’t got many close girl friends x
Eeyore is a great way to describe bipolar disorder to children. "Some days I'm like Tigger, Some days I'm like Eeyore"That sounds good Cass.
When I have what I call an Eeyore day I try to sleep until he's gone.
I allow myself to feel like Eeyore for no longer than 2 days. After that I kick my own arse and make myself do something.
Basically we all have to do what works for us.
Ive been reading, these nail hardeners can damage the nail so its better to use products to nourish the cuticles and nail bed, ie, oils and balms.Phew that's a relief.
Ooh thanks for that Chita, I've got some cuticle oil so will look into the Burt's bees balmIve been reading, these nail hardeners can damage the nail so its better to use products to nourish the cuticles and nail bed, ie, oils and balms.
So ive got some Burt's bees cuticle balm and some nail oil.
Ive filed down the 6 nails that didnt break from the Naill hardener varnishes. They are really short now.
The 4 broken ones look a right mess but hopefully they will grow quick.
Wish I'd never tried the hardeners and just put up with the 4 bendy ones.
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