Yeah 100%. My best friend is mixed race and she grew up with what she described as a heck load of identity issues because her white mom refused to even acknowledge black culture. Her mom wouldn’t talk to her about her black side & put her through some nasty hair treatments to make her hair more ‘white’, it’s seriously fucked up.
It’s so true that there are so many white women that fetishise black men specifically to have cute biracial children but hate black women. it’s wild and the pure definition of a racial fetish. If you’re only dating someone because they’re black, your preference is racist, plain and simple.
I’m no way innocent in this topic tho, as pretty much half of my life i fetishised black men under the guise of ‘ bc i’m not attracted to white men’. I was that racist denier, i held rly fucked up beliefs & would be super pissed if anyone pointed it out to me. Took me years & still taking me ( as anti racism work is ongoing) to unpack my internal racism and doing so i realised all of the damage i had done. God, i really do cringe now when i think back to half the
tit id say & believe in & my defensiveness
I do believe Erin jumped on the “hype” of interracial relationships for clout tbh. All those white “1/8 of irish / 1/4 italian” influencers do. The ones who uber tan, have fake butts, lips and whatever other features they can emulate from black women especially.
They reduce black men to trophies. It’s fucked.
Side note: No one is saying white people can’t date interracially, more so its being self aware of the imbalance of power there is, your own privilege and understanding and unpacking racial preferences. I wholeheartedly understand that there are a lot of women that don’t feel attracted to certain groups of men but we do have to have a proper hard look at the what behind & why we are basing our attraction on skin colour.