I saw a post on Celeb Gossip about emotional affairs and wondered if anyone had an experience they wanted to share? Have you, would you, it is worse or better than a physical one?
I’m not sure which one is worse but they are both as bad as each otherI saw a post on Celeb Gossip about emotional affairs and wondered if anyone had an experience they wanted to share? Have you, would you, it is worse or better than a physical one?
This has just happened to me, my partner & a colleague at work.I used to have a co-worker email me very personal stuff that was flattering but made me really uncomfortable (commenting on how my shirt matched my eyes, how radiant my skin looked, etc.). He seemed very unhappy in his marriage and was looking to have an affair. He moved on to someone else when I didn't bite. I think this sort of carry-on must be prevalent in workplaces.
I had this too. He started of as one of my work best friends. He used to tell me he loved me. Hes now married had has two kids. Hes always sending me funny pictures, texting and snap chatting me. Really awkward because hes also my manager. On work nights out hes always telling me he feels like I'm the one that got away! I wouldnt touch him with a 10ft post. I'm not a flirty person, or even friendly for that matter. So I'm deffinaly not leading him on.I used to have a co-worker email me very personal stuff that was flattering but made me really uncomfortable (commenting on how my shirt matched my eyes, how radiant my skin looked, etc.). He seemed very unhappy in his marriage and was looking to have an affair. He moved on to someone else when I didn't bite. I think this sort of carry-on must be prevalent in workplaces.
I'm in a similar situation. A senior at work is very flirty, tactile and sometimes inappropriate. I think, its their general persona but its awkward af.I had this too. He started of as one of my work best friends. He used to tell me he loved me. Hes now married had has two kids. Hes always sending me funny pictures, texting and snap chatting me. Really awkward because hes also my manager. On work nights out hes always telling me he feels like I'm the one that got away! I wouldnt touch him with a 10ft post. I'm not a flirty person, or even friendly for that matter. So I'm deffinaly not leading him on.
Well I see mine all the time, were in the same friendship group. My partner always says hes got a thing for you, I just laugh it off. It's not like he hides it either. Always buying my coffee, bottles of pop and dinner. To make it more weird he didnt chip in when I had a baby. That raised alot of questions .I'm in a similar situation. A senior at work is very flirty, tactile and sometimes inappropriate. I think, its their general persona but its awkward af.
Luckily I don't have to see him very often.
Awkward!! This guy is a work colleague only. I have had him offer to give me a lift and have politely declined. I don't know anyone else he works with well enough to ask if this is what he is like with everyone.Well I see mine all the time, were in the same friendship group. My partner always says hes got a thing for you, I just laugh it off. It's not like he hides it either. Always buying my coffee, bottles of pop and dinner. To make it more weird he didnt chip in when I had a baby. That raised alot of questions .
It could be your brain telling you to dump him. You'd probably feel instant relief and wouldn't have all this torture any longer.x@Begborrowsteal i am currently going through the same thing. I feel like I’m losing my mind. I decided to try again after his affair but not a day goes by I don’t think about it. And I make it worse for myself, re-reading messages we sent on days I know he was with her at lunch or something (they worked together) it’s like I want to move on but my mind won’t let me and I’m getting really worried now that I just honestly can’t get past it. I have tried being angry, talking things through, crying, being rational...but here I am 6 months later still thinking about it a few times a day.
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Im only 2 weeks in I had to read hundreds of messages to find out the truth, its all stuck in my mind. Its horrid. We have 2 young kids as well. We were due to get married next year, and I was supposed to be trying on wedding dresses yesterday. Its like ive been living with a different man@Begborrowsteal i am currently going through the same thing. I feel like I’m losing my mind. I decided to try again after his affair but not a day goes by I don’t think about it. And I make it worse for myself, re-reading messages we sent on days I know he was with her at lunch or something (they worked together) it’s like I want to move on but my mind won’t let me and I’m getting really worried now that I just honestly can’t get past it. I have tried being angry, talking things through, crying, being rational...but here I am 6 months later still thinking about it a few times a day.
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Has he ever given you reason to doubt him/ mistrust him?This is where I am stuck as I don't know if its friendship or something more.
My husband assures me it's all in my head, how convenient.
I do feel he enables these situations as he can be over friendly, great listener and general all round hero at work it would seem
The 1st time I wasn't happy a girl from his work was texting out of hours and why did she need to they work together all day? Apparently it was just jokes and gossip.
He moved to a better job and I was glad as I felt that would be the end and I wouldn't have to worry. Turns out he called in and gave her his new number even when I'd made it clear that the previous situation upset me. He didn't see the problem as they are friends.
Now I feel history is repeating itself but again I'm told there is nothing to worry about.
There was a lot of hiding or always having his phone on him, it was rarely set down, I only seen one message that said, I was going to send you something sexy for valentines but they told me to get my ass out of the post office. Apparently this was a joke.Has he ever given you reason to doubt him/ mistrust him?
I text and call work friends out of work hours all the time (male and female) - sometimes it’s to chit chat or vent to someone who understands the work stress/situations going on. Most of the time it’s memes and links to TikTok. Sometimes people do develop out of work friendships with people they work with- partly due to the amount of time you spend together.
Has he ever suggested you meet this work friend? maybe that might set your mind at ease? And was it just the talking out of hours upset you? If there’s nothing untoward that you can see, I don’t think getting him to cut contact is necessarily the best route, I get the worry- I really do but once you go down the route of leaning Into that worry it can be a slippery slope.