Boyfriend??? Emily, you can't mean James. Definition of a boyfriend is a person who actually wants to spend time with you. I know we are still in the pandemic but I have a feeling James will be using the pandemic excuse for as long as possible. And I also believe that if he invited you to stay with him in LA you would find a way to get over there. The reality is, he hasn't and that's why you're still living with your family. Next time instead of saying "boyfriend" trying swapping it to "f*ck buddy" that is more believable