I firmly believe that she displays narcissistic behaviour and I know how malicious and vindictive narcissists can be when someone crosses them. In your position I would have wanted to just escape and keep my head down for fear of retribution.
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On Glassdoor you can see reviews of what companies are like to work for. Not sure how they validate the reviews.
She is highly narcissistic and having dealt with someone very like her in a personal capacity, I can only imagine the stress of having to deal with her in a professional capacity, where your job depends upon it.
Same, same. The person I have in mind also worked in the DA sector, strangely enough.
A thread polluted my timeline from J2O. Same vainglorious style 'those of us who work in CJS'.
Really problematic take on the Nottingham case, shoehorning in idea that MH dx is an excuse. Blown away by the inflated sense of right to pontificate.
Leave it to people with better qualifications & experience. It's tragic & horrific and even those of us who lived longer, have more experience and are better educated know we are not qualified to wade in.
Really problematic take on the Nottingham case, shoehorning in idea that MH dx is an excuse. Blown away by the inflated sense of right to pontificate.
Leave it to people with better qualifications & experience. It's tragic & horrific and even those of us who lived longer, have more experience and are better educated know we are not qualified to wade in.
I saw that too. It's hugely problematic and so, so wrong. I've seen far more people (because I actually *did* work in the CJS years ago) go to prison who should have been in for treatment than I have the other way round. If you lock people up without considering treatment, what do you reckon will happen both when they're in prison and then released?
just long exhale...
Jessica’s behaviour was always threatening. Even if she was love bombing you at that moment, her obvious bullying of others felt like a constant threat- it was a not very subtle way of saying- ‘you cross me, this is coming your way’.
After the main flex of resignations and sackings (following staff calling out her behaviour towards SA online & the toxic culture) those staff were treated appallingly. One of the main narratives used to justify her treatment of them was ‘they all got jobs here as part of a feminist plot to bring me down’. Yes, really.
How many remaining members of staff actually believed that? I don’t know. A few of us were speculating- but it felt like the USSR! I have no doubt that our emails were read- although this is tbf just speciation.
Some of the sacked staff from that round of culls were quite new. Some were long term respected and loved members of staff. It makes me tearful to think of them. They were treated as if they were nothing. We couldn’t say goodbye, and the level of smearing to justify this was chilling. From that point only the most foolhardy members of staff would dare challenge her.
We all (well I think all) were subject to hostile and bullying interrogations from Jessica and Jaimi. Demands to know if we were in touch with our ex colleagues (some of which we had known for years). And of course Jessica needed to smear them to a level to justify this. Just like she did with SA (calling the police on false grounds of stalking etc).
And of course we had all been forced to sign this NDA- it transpires it is not worth the paper it is written on- so far fetched are the conditions it would be laughed out of court. Of course none of us are lawyers - so it did the job- well for as long as we are dependent on our jobs anyway.
A few members of staff asked if they could have a QandA with HR to explain the NDA. Sign it or leave was the answer.
I think we chatted about these NDAS many many threads ago - and yes it stated that Jessica could put her name on any of our work- also she could do this post employment! More worryingly- considering how tit, unethical and retraumatising some of her work is, she had the right to put any of our names to it.
I mean imagine.
Jessica mistakes silence and compliance with support and agreement. I certainly think silence and compliance are most important to her.
Re tribunal- A member of staff did take her to a tribunal. I don’t know the details. I hope they pop up here one day and tell the tale. I can only assume it was unsuccessful - except I’m sure Jessica would have been loud about that.
One of the things with Jessica is her lies. She lies all the time. Again I don’t think she minds if you all know it is a lie- just that you don’t challenge it. Compliance testing.It’s a weird experience when someone lies to you and they know that you know it’s a lie. An even stranger thing when that lie is about you.
In that sense it was a very dangerous workplace. Knowing that a person with a large-ish social media platform would willingly lie, lie and lie again meant all of our futures were in her hands. We were all the next Sally Ann.
The NDA’s really show her delusions of grandeur and need to control. I really do hope that she has her power taken away and is unmasked sooner rather than later as she is dangerous and is harming so many. I’ve always had sympathy for Jaimi as I firmly believe that she was groomed and ultimately will be a discarded victim in the future but knowing how she colludes and takes part in this bullying controlling behaviour of others makes it difficult to root for her.
Some of your post feels so familiar to me (similar narcs, similar tactics I suppose), you've articulated it so amazingly
Is it the kind of thing Private Eye would be interested in?
Haven't been on this thread in ages. Anyway...
Imo she's being dramatic about this. If someone asks to be choked, that suggests they're into it and have no related trauma. And as far as I'm aware, if done safely then choking is absolutely fine. Idk, maybe my thinking is a bit black & white
Imo she's being dramatic about this. If someone asks to be choked, that suggests they're into it and have no related trauma. And as far as I'm aware, if done safely then choking is absolutely fine. Idk, maybe my thinking is a bit black & white
I don't know. I think I sit on the side of it's not great as I think it's been hugely normalised through porn, as usual to the detriment of women. I (and most of my female friends who are/have been dating in the last 10/15 years) have experienced men, who on the surface seemed fine with boundaries, just putting their hands on my throat during sex, with no prior chat, as it's just.....normal, apparently. I've seen it with very young girls (through work) as well, with them assuming it's expected of them. It's really concerning.
I think consensually with prior full conversation about the risks and safe words, great. I think the issue is the normalising of it and if it's not your jam then you're the outlier, which isn't great and is open to abuse.
I think consensually with prior full conversation about the risks and safe words, great. I think the issue is the normalising of it and if it's not your jam then you're the outlier, which isn't great and is open to abuse.
This is probably the only time I will ever agree with her.Haven't been on this thread in ages. Anyway...
Imo she's being dramatic about this. If someone asks to be choked, that suggests they're into it and have no related trauma. And as far as I'm aware, if done safely then choking is absolutely fine. Idk, maybe my thinking is a bit black & white
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There's not really a safe way to restrict someone's airways, irreversible, life-changing and potentially fatal damage can occur so quickly. A stopped clock is right twice a day.
Plus non fatal strangulation is now illegal.
www.gov.uk
New non-fatal strangulation offence comes into force
Abusers who strangle their partners in an attempt to control or induce fear will face up to 5 years behind bars when a new offence comes into force today (7 June 2022).
#bait&snitch
Really hope people use caution before sharing any stories on sexual strangling as few would want this area of their lives data mined for publication.
Porn seemed to become more mainstream in 90s: the soft porn of mens' mags (loaded,maxim),the proliferation of Ann Summers shops on the Highstreet, articles in women's magazine all demystifying & to some extent normalising less 'vanilla' techniques. No judgement intended!
A few decades ago this practice of applying pressure on the windpipe began to be more openly discussed in articles about sex as enhancing /replicating orgasm. It was sometimes 'poetically' linked with the idea of Le Petite Mort - a little death at the moment of orgasm.
Would be useful to hear from clinical medical professionals about numbers presenting with physical issues from sexual strangling or from a legal perspective how it is being used as a legal argument.
Other aspects of porn culture ie removal of public hair have been linked with increased herpes transmission and indicated as a fetishism of pre pubescent females.
Amazing that the government has built on our work of time travelling points.
Really hope people use caution before sharing any stories on sexual strangling as few would want this area of their lives data mined for publication.
Porn seemed to become more mainstream in 90s: the soft porn of mens' mags (loaded,maxim),the proliferation of Ann Summers shops on the Highstreet, articles in women's magazine all demystifying & to some extent normalising less 'vanilla' techniques. No judgement intended!
A few decades ago this practice of applying pressure on the windpipe began to be more openly discussed in articles about sex as enhancing /replicating orgasm. It was sometimes 'poetically' linked with the idea of Le Petite Mort - a little death at the moment of orgasm.
Would be useful to hear from clinical medical professionals about numbers presenting with physical issues from sexual strangling or from a legal perspective how it is being used as a legal argument.
Other aspects of porn culture ie removal of public hair have been linked with increased herpes transmission and indicated as a fetishism of pre pubescent females.
Amazing that the government has built on our work of time travelling points.
I've got a friend who was stalked by a guy she first met when he tried to "help" her with her wheelchair on a night out. (Actually stalked - unlike Jess's definition of stalking which is "said something I didn't like.") Despite having no mental health problems the legal system still treated her as unstable because she was physically disabled, I bet this happens to loads of women
I'm surmising she's lucky enough to have never had to deal with how women's physical health in general is treated - women are frequently gaslighted about their own symptoms, so it isn't a stretch to imagine that that's also used to undermine their credibility in other areas.
she hasn’t got a clue. She hasn’t heard because she doesn’t actually know what she’s talking about.
Also, the reason it’s more likely is because of stigmas in mental illness she perpetuates.
Projection polemic???
Wonder if harassment complaints are assessed considering if complainant has {query} MH issues?
Clean hands doctrine
Wonder if harassment complaints are assessed considering if complainant has {query} MH issues?
Clean hands doctrine
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