All of this! Is there an HR departement you can report this to?
Unfortunately family run business so hr is his sister. So I wish I could report but I can't.
Give ACAS a call, there could be a constructive dismissal type case here.
HR call back asap !!!!My boss told me over whatsapp yesterday I'm tit lol whilst in the office and sat 3 foot away. Cried on the way home. Feel like I'm trapped in this job because there's nothing out there in my industry and people can't see the transferable skills
but I’m just so conflicted over whether I should work my ass off for the rest of the year in the hopes I get my promotion even though it could be all effort no reward.
Do you think the promotion will make work better and more enjoyable for you? If yes I would say it would be worth working toward and would get you away from your chaotic boss - unless they would remain your manager?Sorry this might be a long post
For the most part, I don’t mind my job but I’m going through a rough patch atm and I’m dreading everday. I even took some sick days last week because I just needed a break from it all. This is mainly because the managers on my team are so disorganised and we always end up scrambling and stressed days before deadlines and they have no regard for the pressure that is put on the employees who are doing the work.
I’m up for a pretty good promotion in January but my company is notorious for making false promises and promoting people based on who they know. If you have a really good manager who can plead your case you will get promoted which I don’t have. My manager has no backbone, if I raise anything I know it will go no further and there will be no resolutions so I feel a bit deflated.
I can WFH 5 days a week which is amazing for me because it takes off the added pressures of travel and the financial burden that comes with it.
I don’t really know the point of this post lol
life is tough sometimes
In my aged experienceI have a little update, and also looking for a little bit of advice from people who don't know me
So I live away from London, but I have always loved London - I worked there for just over 5 years, and made the decision last year to leave due to management issues and move to a company much closer to home thinking I was ready to settle down with my partner and have children too; fast forward a year, I hate my role, the company, the location, we want to hold off on having kids as we want to buy a house ...
So I have had a few interviews and theres one company that seem extremely hopeful and are very very keen on bringing me on board - even offering to pay for travel, allow me to work maximum 2 days in the london office (travel is around 2 hours each way) and I have the opportunity to be in 2 parts of the business.
The issue I'm having - my family don't want me to go back to London, and think I'm being silly not looking for roles closer to home - how do I tell them this is what I feel is right? Whenever I mention it, everyone's like "but you're going backwards in your career not forwards" with the fact I moaned at travelling 5 days a week when I was last up there whereas now it will only be 2 days, if that!
I just feel that I can't express how I really feel, and I don't know whether this is the right thing to do
I would say if your gut feeling is screaming for this opportunity then go!Also I don't really see (a) how this is "going backwards" (b) any of their business. As someone who has a similar commute, you can make it work for you. It certainly does for me and the London salary more than makes up for sitting in local traffic jams, as I used to do on a daily basis. Choose two of the quietest days to commute if you can and it's very doable.I have a little update, and also looking for a little bit of advice from people who don't know me
So I live away from London, but I have always loved London - I worked there for just over 5 years, and made the decision last year to leave due to management issues and move to a company much closer to home thinking I was ready to settle down with my partner and have children too; fast forward a year, I hate my role, the company, the location, we want to hold off on having kids as we want to buy a house ...
So I have had a few interviews and theres one company that seem extremely hopeful and are very very keen on bringing me on board - even offering to pay for travel, allow me to work maximum 2 days in the london office (travel is around 2 hours each way) and I have the opportunity to be in 2 parts of the business.
The issue I'm having - my family don't want me to go back to London, and think I'm being silly not looking for roles closer to home - how do I tell them this is what I feel is right? Whenever I mention it, everyone's like "but you're going backwards in your career not forwards" with the fact I moaned at travelling 5 days a week when I was last up there whereas now it will only be 2 days, if that!
I just feel that I can't express how I really feel, and I don't know whether this is the right thing to do
I have a little update, and also looking for a little bit of advice from people who don't know me
So I live away from London, but I have always loved London - I worked there for just over 5 years, and made the decision last year to leave due to management issues and move to a company much closer to home thinking I was ready to settle down with my partner and have children too; fast forward a year, I hate my role, the company, the location, we want to hold off on having kids as we want to buy a house ...
So I have had a few interviews and theres one company that seem extremely hopeful and are very very keen on bringing me on board - even offering to pay for travel, allow me to work maximum 2 days in the london office (travel is around 2 hours each way) and I have the opportunity to be in 2 parts of the business.
The issue I'm having - my family don't want me to go back to London, and think I'm being silly not looking for roles closer to home - how do I tell them this is what I feel is right? Whenever I mention it, everyone's like "but you're going backwards in your career not forwards" with the fact I moaned at travelling 5 days a week when I was last up there whereas now it will only be 2 days, if that!
I just feel that I can't express how I really feel, and I don't know whether this is the right thing to do
It’s your career, it’s nobody else’s. There is a chance this opportunity won’t work out, but there is exactly the same chance that you’ll find a job a 5 minute walk down the road from you that doesn’t work out, too. Your family are not putting in your work hours for you and should be supporting you to find a job that gives you the work satisfaction you’re looking for!I have a little update, and also looking for a little bit of advice from people who don't know me
So I live away from London, but I have always loved London - I worked there for just over 5 years, and made the decision last year to leave due to management issues and move to a company much closer to home thinking I was ready to settle down with my partner and have children too; fast forward a year, I hate my role, the company, the location, we want to hold off on having kids as we want to buy a house ...
So I have had a few interviews and theres one company that seem extremely hopeful and are very very keen on bringing me on board - even offering to pay for travel, allow me to work maximum 2 days in the london office (travel is around 2 hours each way) and I have the opportunity to be in 2 parts of the business.
The issue I'm having - my family don't want me to go back to London, and think I'm being silly not looking for roles closer to home - how do I tell them this is what I feel is right? Whenever I mention it, everyone's like "but you're going backwards in your career not forwards" with the fact I moaned at travelling 5 days a week when I was last up there whereas now it will only be 2 days, if that!
I just feel that I can't express how I really feel, and I don't know whether this is the right thing to do
I have had a chat with my mum, and she said that she understands its what I want but she just worries a lot It's your life, not your mum's. Just because she's led a small, insular life there's no reason for you to. Independence and change scare the bejesus out of some people. That's on them. This isn't a dress rehearsal, grab every opportunity by the cojones!Thank you so much for all the responses !!
So to reply to them all (sort of) -
It's definitely not a backwards step, as I've got the opportunity to potentially change my career path within 6 months if I decide I'm happier in the other department so they're happy to take the risk and let me do both for that period of time! I think it will all come down to money, and if they'd offer to cover my travel costs so thats another thing I need to consider!
As for moving, we did consider it but my partner now has a role much closer to home so he wouldn't want to move, and plus we both have some poorly family members so want to be close
I think it's because my whole family live down here, they've never really ventured out and they all rely on each other so heavily they don't like how independent I am in a way
My family is the same. I would be a lot worse off now if I'd listened to them and not my raging gut feeling.Thank you so much for all the responses !!
So to reply to them all (sort of) -
It's definitely not a backwards step, as I've got the opportunity to potentially change my career path within 6 months if I decide I'm happier in the other department so they're happy to take the risk and let me do both for that period of time! I think it will all come down to money, and if they'd offer to cover my travel costs so thats another thing I need to consider!
As for moving, we did consider it but my partner now has a role much closer to home so he wouldn't want to move, and plus we both have some poorly family members so want to be close
I think it's because my whole family live down here, they've never really ventured out and they all rely on each other so heavily they don't like how independent I am in a way
Honestly, from what you have written, you seem excited about the opportunity, you are in the market for something new anyway and the commute aspect hasn't put you off, it might open up a good career path for you. Seems like you want to and should go for it!Thank you so much for all the responses !!
So to reply to them all (sort of) -
It's definitely not a backwards step, as I've got the opportunity to potentially change my career path within 6 months if I decide I'm happier in the other department so they're happy to take the risk and let me do both for that period of time! I think it will all come down to money, and if they'd offer to cover my travel costs so thats another thing I need to consider!
As for moving, we did consider it but my partner now has a role much closer to home so he wouldn't want to move, and plus we both have some poorly family members so want to be close
I think it's because my whole family live down here, they've never really ventured out and they all rely on each other so heavily they don't like how independent I am in a way
Fellow CS here. I joined while I was doing my degree, as it was part time and worked well around uni. I also joined the CS as my late dad (who was still alive at the time I joined) was a civil servant, as was my uncle, my brother, sister, brother in law and two of my cousins. I followed my mum’s career path and trained as an MH nurse, but my dad was disappointed in me and kept asking me constantly when I was going to join the CS like the rest of my family. He was so happy when I told him I had a job in the CS (I had to give up nursing when I became disabled)
It’s so easy to take anything in a bid to escape where you are right now, but ultimately if it isn’t a good fit you’re just moving the dread from one employer to another. But yeah, the feeling of being stuck where you are sucks right now. Hopefully it’s a means to an end very soon and you get to a great new job!I've had a job offer and I'm shocking myself by considering turning it down as I don't think it's right for me after speaking to them. I really want out of my current job but want to try and find a better fitting role. I think it's for the best but still feeling very meh at the thought of being in the job I'm not enjoying for longer.
Thank you! Really hope so too
but yeah the Sunday scaries are particularly intense this evening 
