Dealing with Anxiety

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Interviews can be very difficult even when you are in a good place mentally. Ask yourself why it went terribly without beating yourself up. Be objective, and look for ways you can better prepare next time.

Sometimes it’s just not your fault and the lack of connection with the interviewer or the vibe they put out can make you needlessly feel badly about yourself. Try to put a bit of a wall up to that, it’s not personal! Some interviewers are power tripping and enjoy making people squirm. See past that. You are qualified and a great potential employee otherwise you wouldn’t be sitting there.

A few things that may help in the future…

* practice answering sample questions, there is a lot of guidance online on how to answer well. Repeat until the answers come easily

* remind yourself that yes you are being interviewed but you’re also there to see if they are a good fit for you. Takes some pressure off as the focus isn’t just on your performance. Have some questions you can ask the interviewer at the end (again, there are examples online of what is appropriate to ask, such as “what’s your favourite thing about working here?” Or “what is the work dynamic here, is it more independent or collaborative?” )

*when you first meet and if you’re feeling visibly nervous, let them know. Don’t dwell, but just say I apologize if I sound nervous. I am excited for this opportunity so thank you for having me.

*it can feel demoralizing to have rejection after an interview, but remember that many people get interviewed and more people get rejected than accepted. It’s not personal and it’s not just you who feels nervous or upset by the process. It’s hard but the more interviews you have, the better you become at them.
Thankyou, these are really helpful pieces of advice.
However, after crying all afternoon thinking it was a terrible interview. I GOT THE JOB😀
I’m more happy about the fact I won’t need to attend any interviews anytime soon rather then the fact I got the job 😂
 
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I have covid at the moment and my anxiety is through the roof. Has anyone else experienced this? I think I'm just frightening myself because I'm a week in now and no better and am afraid of being sick for ages and thinking awful things about long covid etc :cry:
 
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Thankyou, these are really helpful pieces of advice.
However, after crying all afternoon thinking it was a terrible interview. I GOT THE JOB😀
I’m more happy about the fact I won’t need to attend any interviews anytime soon rather then the fact I got the job 😂
Wow!! Fantastic, well done! 👏👏👏🥰
 
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Has anyone ever had something happen months ago but it brews to the surface every single time anything happens and makes you want to cry uncontrollably for about a week? Even tho you’ve already sorted the issue out with the person?

Something happened during an argument with my bf months ago which knocked my self esteem to rock bottom. We’ve since made up and got a lot stronger as a couple, but if something happens now that causes an argument, all the feelings of self hate and anxiety brew to the surface and I feel really low.

How do you get over things?
 
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I have covid at the moment and my anxiety is through the roof. Has anyone else experienced this? I think I'm just frightening myself because I'm a week in now and no better and am afraid of being sick for ages and thinking awful things about long covid etc :cry:
if you have mild covid it can take 2 weeks to go. Keep up the self care and make sure you rest, don’t try and accelerate the process. Anxiety is awful. I have it, it is so debilitating. You need something to take your mind off it….❤💐

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if you have mild covid it can take 2 weeks to go. Keep up the self care and make sure you rest, don’t try and accelerate the process. Anxiety is awful. I have it, it is so debilitating. You need something to take your mind off it….❤💐

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Thank you. Am taking it easy and doing as little as possible, but I'm really tired with it too, so that doesn't help, though I suspect part of the tiredness is anxiety as well. I'm hoping that I'll improve in the next week or so. I keep hoping that I'll wake up every morning and it will be better, but no joy so far :(

In the meantime I'll just think about what to do with Martin's stethescope ;)
 
Thank you. Am taking it easy and doing as little as possible, but I'm really tired with it too, so that doesn't help, though I suspect part of the tiredness is anxiety as well. I'm hoping that I'll improve in the next week or so. I keep hoping that I'll wake up every morning and it will be better, but no joy so far :(

In the meantime I'll just think about what to do with Martin's stethescope ;)
That’s the ticket!
 
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Thank you. Am taking it easy and doing as little as possible, but I'm really tired with it too, so that doesn't help, though I suspect part of the tiredness is anxiety as well. I'm hoping that I'll improve in the next week or so. I keep hoping that I'll wake up every morning and it will be better, but no joy so far :(

In the meantime I'll just think about what to do with Martin's stethescope ;)
I suffer with anxiety (especially health anxiety) but weirdly I've never been worried about covid. I got it for the first time in May and it left me absolutely exhausted. I went back to work on Day 6 and I thought that might be why I was so tired but eventually I started feeling better after about a fortnight. My husband was also really tired when he had it and he took a fortnight off work but still felt tired when he returned. It's a virus and virus' do cause you to feel ill. I had a virus years ago that lasted 8 weeks and I felt much worse with that virus than I did with covid. Try not to panic and just assure yourself that the symptoms are all normal and nothing to worry yourself about and you'll start to improve soon.
 
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Hi everyone! I am very happy to have found this thread. I have been dealing with terrible anxiety for the past year, and it feels very lonely. When it’s really bad, I just want to stay home and do nothing.

For the past couple days, I have felt very dizzy and weak, which is a new symptom for me, does anyone have any good tips to help with that?
 
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The best thing I have found for anxiety is to do movement. I hate doing it, sometimes I don’t manage it, but when I do, it’s a mood lifter/stabiliser. Even if I can’t get out and walk etc, I stick music on and bop. Anything to take me outside of my head. And getting midday daylight in the winter.
 
Does anybody else experience extreme social anxiety?

I don't seem to get anxiety about the real life things that should matter but become hyper focused and anxious on stuff that a part of me knows is to be really ridiculous. It can become so bad that I don't want to go out and be around people, drive anywhere, fill my car up by myself, go into a shop alone....It's like I become so worried I am going to do something embarrassing that I get panic attacks, sweaty hands, rapid heartbeat, etc. I get thoughts then 'What if I am doing something really awkward right now and people are laughing at me' Then more anxiety because I think people can see my anxiety and my body behaviours.

I tried CBT and I couldn't relate to the sessions as everybody was discussing real life valid situations like work, cost of living, their children...

It's like I know my thoughts are ridiculous, nobody actually really cares, and I know if I did something embarrassing people would forget, yet equally I can't fight off the worry and anxiety. It's honestly ruining my life and I can't be as independent as I want to be because of it and it's not fair.
 
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Does anybody else experience extreme social anxiety?

I don't seem to get anxiety about the real life things that should matter but become hyper focused and anxious on stuff that a part of me knows is to be really ridiculous. It can become so bad that I don't want to go out and be around people, drive anywhere, fill my car up by myself, go into a shop alone....It's like I become so worried I am going to do something embarrassing that I get panic attacks, sweaty hands, rapid heartbeat, etc. I get thoughts then 'What if I am doing something really awkward right now and people are laughing at me' Then more anxiety because I think people can see my anxiety and my body behaviours.

I tried CBT and I couldn't relate to the sessions as everybody was discussing real life valid situations like work, cost of living, their children...

It's like I know my thoughts are ridiculous, nobody actually really cares, and I know if I did something embarrassing people would forget, yet equally I can't fight off the worry and anxiety. It's honestly ruining my life and I can't be as independent as I want to be because of it and it's not fair.
I don't get the social anxiety (until after an event when I think oh god they'll think I was an idiot) but I'm like you with the irrational anxiety - never worried at all about covid, government, cost of living etc it's almost like I can easily manage those things.... but the past issues I've gone through trigger anxiety issues which I'm going through now (some rational I.e being bullied as an adult by some absolute fool when I did go out at the weekend...and some not i.e ill lose my job and house - with no backing for either of those). I did an online consultation with my GP earlier for meds again. Feel like ive failed by doing so (anxiety yay). CBT didn't work for me either and I've tried 3 different therapists in the hope that they were just naff? Lol meditation and gratitude worked for a while but now I'm at a heightened state again ...they may aswell not exist.

I just wish for a life free of this irrational BS.
 
Does anybody else experience extreme social anxiety?

I don't seem to get anxiety about the real life things that should matter but become hyper focused and anxious on stuff that a part of me knows is to be really ridiculous. It can become so bad that I don't want to go out and be around people, drive anywhere, fill my car up by myself, go into a shop alone....It's like I become so worried I am going to do something embarrassing that I get panic attacks, sweaty hands, rapid heartbeat, etc. I get thoughts then 'What if I am doing something really awkward right now and people are laughing at me' Then more anxiety because I think people can see my anxiety and my body behaviours.

I tried CBT and I couldn't relate to the sessions as everybody was discussing real life valid situations like work, cost of living, their children...

It's like I know my thoughts are ridiculous, nobody actually really cares, and I know if I did something embarrassing people would forget, yet equally I can't fight off the worry and anxiety. It's honestly ruining my life and I can't be as independent as I want to be because of it and it's not fair.
Same here. I am very anxious about going anywhere because I am afraid I will start panicking, act « weird », etc. And it does feel so unfair to not be able to live your daily life without anxiety.

I don’t have too much advice to give as I am dealing with it myself but I find that breath work really helps when anxiety is taking over. I simply count to 4 on the inhale, pause for 1, then 8 on the exhale. It´s my little rescue remedy when I am in a social situation and I need to calm down fast.
 
Hi everyone! I am very happy to have found this thread. I have been dealing with terrible anxiety for the past year, and it feels very lonely. When it’s really bad, I just want to stay home and do nothing.

For the past couple days, I have felt very dizzy and weak, which is a new symptom for me, does anyone have any good tips to help with that?
This is exactly like I get when I’m struggling. I used to get dizzy and faint all the time when I was at my worst. It’s definitely improved since I’ve gone on medication! My doctor put through betablockers as well as an SSRI and they help with the physical effects very well!
 
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Anyone not sure if you said weird tit and get anxiety over it?

Like I'll think back on a convo and wonder if I told them to jump off a cliff then get anxiety.
 
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Anyone not sure if you said weird tit and get anxiety over it?

Like I'll think back on a convo and wonder if I told them to jump off a cliff then get anxiety.
Not trying to diagnose you haha but intrusive thoughts like this can come from ocd. Sometimes my ocd thoughts can convince me I have done all sorts, like hitting someone with my car, or breaking things in shops like glass jars is another random thing I have. Makes me so anxious like I absolutely have to go back and check for the peace of mind, the compulsion to check can be part of ocd x
 
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I've had an awful day, really out of my comfort zone, it's now impacting on me, I hate feeling like this.
 
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Urgh.. I’ve been doing great with my anxiety but it’s back today. I’ve learnt to just ride it out, kept myself to myself so that I don’t say anything I regret and go to bed early. I still hate feeling like this though.

Has anyone ever had something happen months ago but it brews to the surface every single time anything happens and makes you want to cry uncontrollably for about a week? Even tho you’ve already sorted the issue out with the person?

Something happened during an argument with my bf months ago which knocked my self esteem to rock bottom. We’ve since made up and got a lot stronger as a couple, but if something happens now that causes an argument, all the feelings of self hate and anxiety brew to the surface and I feel really low.

How do you get over things?
I think it depends what happened but you probably have to ask yourself if you really sorted it or if it’s the right relationship for you. It’s almost like PTSD when I’ve felt like this in the past because those feelings from the time come flooding back.
 
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Not trying to diagnose you haha but intrusive thoughts like this can come from ocd. Sometimes my ocd thoughts can convince me I have done all sorts, like hitting someone with my car, or breaking things in shops like glass jars is another random thing I have. Makes me so anxious like I absolutely have to go back and check for the peace of mind, the compulsion to check can be part of ocd x
I go back and forth thinking I have OCD. Had to double check if it is really only anxiety 😂😭