My husband is like this about his dad, not as much now but for a few years he was very closed off and just not his usual self.After two years of feeling like my heart is fractured every morning when I wake up, and suddenly bursting into tears at the drop of a hat, I’ve suddenly found myself feeling incredibly numb.
Is this normal? My mind feels like it keeps shutting down when I start to drift to thoughts of my Dad.
I feel sort of frozen inside.
It’s a stressful time of year anyway and maybe that’s having an effect on me.
And I want to be at a place where I can remember my Dad with love and a smile.
But the way I’m feeling right now is almost worse than the constant grief. It’s like my brain won’t let me remember him
Just wondering if anyone else has felt like this?
Wishing you all a peaceful and calm few days ahead.
Thank you for replying - it is a help to know others have experienced the same feelingMy husband is like this about his dad, not as much now but for a few years he was very closed off and just not his usual self.
I don't want to be nosy or inappropriate but have you done any grief counselling? There's no right or proper way to grieve but you might feel more able to cope if you have someone to talk to.
My mum passed in March of 2015, I cried a lot and went through that numbness as well. Now I can laugh about the silly stuff my mum did but certain days (like today being so close to Christmas) I feel a bit weird and sad that she's gone.
I hope that helps a little bit?
I hope it helps you. I'm feeling a bit sad and weird today as well, this time of year is always a hurdle.Thank you for replying - it is a help to know others have experienced the same feeling
Grief counselling is something I’ve thought about a lot, but haven’t fully looked into.
I may seek out a counsellor in the new year as I think it would help to properly talk about it.
Those first months and years are sad and confusing. My heart goes out to you and your mum. XMy most sincere and genuine love to everyone on this thread
What a jarring time of year to be so freshly bereaved - Dad died 1 month ago after 6 months of pancreatic cancer, the final 2 weeks, for which he was home and me and my family nursed him, are grade A trauma.
I have been largely focussed on the relief for him, on his thoroughly excellent life so thoroughly well lived but today I feel sad and angry for us that he actually was felled and he should be here still having a thoroughly excellent time. My poor, poor Mum - so lost without him, just bewildered really.
May some of the original quiet peace of Christmas provide you, or anyone reading, with a little solace x
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