I feel like this too.
my mum died 4 weeks after I had my first baby when I was 30. This was 5 years ago and I am just always so envious of my friends and their partners who have still have both sets of parents to spoil their little ones with attention. I always feel like my 2 are missing out on having a grandma in their life who dotes on them. My mum would have been over the moon with 2 little granddaughters to obsess over, it’s so cruel the fact that she only got to hold my oldest girl once before she died.
The more the years go by and the older my kids get I realise more and more that not only are we missing my mum, but also all of the stuff that she knew about me and brother when we were little. My dad would never remember things like, when we took our first steps, what we were like on our first day at school etc. All of those memories gone forever, the things I never thought to ask her about until I had kids of my own. I feel like we kind of lost access to our childhood memories when she died, because she’s not here to remind us.
Lots of love to everyone in this thread.