I can’t believe I’m messaging someone who has a selfie of himself wearing sunglasses inside. 
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is it the lockdown boredom getting to you?I can’t believe I’m messaging someone who has a selfie of himself wearing sunglasses inside.
Desperate timesI can’t believe I’m messaging someone who has a selfie of himself wearing sunglasses inside.
I thought it would get better and he'd be 'less anxious' if we dated long enough. Didn't happen. And men are surprisingly (!) reluctant to seek further help in these matters. Or want to talk about it or address it in any way...
Still messaging him.I can’t believe I’m messaging someone who has a selfie of himself wearing sunglasses inside.
but can’t bare to look at his profile pics lolOh dear this is what i assumed too.. I guess after so long waiting and now a lockdown, i dont imagine its something im going to have to worry about anytime soon anyway
How old is he? Could be a lot of different factors, anxiety and depression can be a cause, could be some kind of underlying health problem, so he should go to a doctor to get checked out. He shouldn't be embarrassed about it, it's a reasonably common problem and no doctor is going to judge or care, they'll just want to make sure he is healthy. Unfortunately excessive porn use is also now recognised as a factor in why more men, particularly younger men are suffering from erectile dysfunction, so that could be a factor that he may need to address. But if it's still happening and not getting better then he should definitely try to find out the cause as it's probably going to strain your relationship and cause stress to both of you.
Mid twenties so pretty young still... we had a chat about it today actually and he said that he will speak to a gp about it (unfortunately its a difficult time so not sure how high up on priorities this will be due to covid?). He thinks its an anxiety/confidence thing so potentially just something he needs to talk about but i suppose you cant rule anything out. Its all new to me so i guess we will just have to see how it goes but hes so lovely that im not too worried about it yet and im happy to work through things together... Sometimes you forget that guys can worry about this kind of thing too..
To be honest, my current partner suffered this to start with. Time was the only thing that helped, the more comfortable he was around me and the less pressure he put on himself the better. We are completely fine now, zero issues.
Okay folks. 11 days into 2021 and I caved, re-downloaded a few dating apps including hinge.
so many of these guys are making me cringe. One guy I matched with, his profile - all selfies and pics with mates. Profile gives the idea he’s single, his Instagram - full of pictures with a girl.
Does she know he is on Hinge?
What is the deal with all these sex prompts on hinge too? This guy really put “I’ll know it’s time to delete hinge when I grab her by the pussy”
then wrote it again!!
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I’ve now deleted them all this morning so I lasted less than 24 hours.
I hate it here
so many of these guys are making me cringe. One guy I matched with, his profile - all selfies and pics with mates. Profile gives the idea he’s single, his Instagram - full of pictures with a girl.
Does she know he is on Hinge?What is the deal with all these sex prompts on hinge too? This guy really put “I’ll know it’s time to delete hinge when I grab her by the pussy”
then wrote it again!! View attachment 384980
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I’ve now deleted them all this morning so I lasted less than 24 hours.
I hate it here
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It’s not the right time for dating apps. I’ve used them and they all lost their mind over not seeing me... Err lockdown? Nope.. None of them cared about that. I hate being bombarded and it’s even worse when we’re in lockdown.
One lad added my Snapchat and started to send me three other girls nudes when I wasn’t interested enough in him, claimed he wasn’t like other lads and I’d never find anyone like him. Once he calmed down the begging to see me started again. I took some satisfaction in not responding to any of it then blocked him.
One lad added my Snapchat and started to send me three other girls nudes when I wasn’t interested enough in him, claimed he wasn’t like other lads and I’d never find anyone like him. Once he calmed down the begging to see me started again. I took some satisfaction in not responding to any of it then blocked him.
Wait what?! He sent nudes of other women to you?
Exactly my thoughts! He should have been reported!Wait what?! He sent nudes of other women to you?
It is not the right time NOW but one could also say it was not the right time for dating apps pre pandemic either as as the profiles were still awful. 🤷🏻
You really have to wade through crap to get someone decent to talk to. Then wade through crap to meet someone decent. Then wade through crap to date a few times. It's so so hard. I used to give everyone the benefit of the doubt but I'm really brutal now and will unmatch and delete if anyone says anything mildly inappropriate.
Apps must work right? I here success stories all the time but perhaps it's a myth and these stories are made up to keep you on the apps!
Apps must work right? I here success stories all the time but perhaps it's a myth and these stories are made up to keep you on the apps!
Ok, I’ve read this thread since it started and stayed quiet but I’m here to bring hope.
I met someone on an app in September and it’s going strong.
So my advice; it’s quite simply a numbers game. I matched with and messaged loads of people, I went on a few dates with other people before I met this one.
Now on paper he really isn’t what I would have written I was looking for, we laugh about how if he had written more detail I would have swiped past him. He laughs because I didn’t write much in my profile and he swipes past people who don’t have a written profile!
But it turns out we have so much in common, our outlook on life is the same and he really makes me laugh.
Basically there are good people out there, match with them, chat to them, take a chance on them...but do delete if they don’t want to meet....too many people spend months dragging things out and if their messages are dull..delete!
Good luck all, take chances, know your value and don’t give up!
I know this isn’t that different from me matching with someone and not messaging them and then the match expires after 24 hours, but I’ve had a couple of matches now who have unmatched me as soon as we matched!! Trying not to take it personally or it let it bother me, but I’m a bit like, 
I know this isn’t that different from me matching with someone and not messaging them and then the match expires after 24 hours, but I’ve had a couple of matches now who have unmatched me as soon as we matched!! Trying not to take it personally or it let it bother me, but I’m a bit like,
I've had this in the last few days. Sometimes im not sure what to put in the first message so i try and get something from their profile. I do prefer bumble to the others because you know they are serious about dating thats what im saying to myself anyway lol
I refuse to go on tinder as I’ve been told it’s the dregs on there
deffo feel like they’re a bit more genuine on bumble. It makes me feel like they looked at my first photo, swiped me, then when we matched, they’ve looked through my other photos and thought, eww, and then unmatch me
Don't take it personally! I've had people un-match me mid convo hahaha. There could be a million reasons why.I refuse to go on tinder as I’ve been told it’s the dregs on there
It makes me feel like they looked at my first photo, swiped me, then when we matched, they’ve looked through my other photos and thought, eww, and then unmatch me
My app of choice currently is Hinge. I find the men on Bumble much better looking but I prefer Hinge in that I don't have to make the first move. I'm just seeing who comes to me at the moment.
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