@Fledgling Psycho I feel exactly the same- where are all these men and women finding people?! I’m the only one of my friend group, siblings, family (bar my widowed nanny!!) who’s single?! Any apps are no good within 5 minutes as I’ve gone through everyone in a 10-20 mile radius. Any further out never leads to any dates. I have children and work and don’t get time to drive around the country Why is it so seemingly easy for literally EVERYONE but this tattle thread
I get the feeling and often have similar thoughts.
But then I think of the guys who I believed had more pros than cons and realise I would've been disrespecting myself.
I *could've* broken my single streak with the guy who ghosted me for a month then tried to return with no explanation.
Or the guy who said my body was "hot, but would be hotter" if I worked out once he realised my stomach wasn't as flat as he thought. I now strongly suspect I have fibroids so there's that. Oh, and he also started making less effort to talk to me.
Not saying that's the case for everyone but when I was in my 20s and less content with the peace of being single, I 100% would've overlooked those things and given those guys a chance. Because apart from those issues, we got on really well and they were nice guys overall. I was genuinely upset things didn't work out. Even now, some days I'm like "sigh, what a shame". But more about them having hole qualities which spoiled things.
And both of them seemed surprised when I lost interest which kind of shows what behaviour some people consider acceptable when dating.