Hello!
I'm new to this thread but have had a little browse and it seems like such a kind, supportive group. It's lovely to see.
I am currently moping a bit so I hope no one minds if I just offload a bit here to get it off my chest?
Earlier this year I ended a 9-year relationship because he was military and I realised that I no longer loved him enough to be willing to live that lifestyle with him. It didn't even hurt that much tbh because the relationship was so clearly dead by that point, it just felt like a relief mostly.
I downloaded a couple of dating apps in May just to see what was out there (also I've moved to a new area and didn't really know how else to meet people
). I matched with a guy who I hit it off with instantly. This felt amazing because I'm usually SO awkward and nervous when I first meet someone. We just clicked to an extent that I wasn't even sure was possible. And it wasn't in a love bombing or "he's just telling me what I want to hear" kinda way because it was always 50/50 effort from both of us. We saw each other every week except one when I was on holiday (but even then we messaged loads and even had some phone calls which also felt amazing because there are only about 3 people in the world who I enjoy phone calls with
)
Anyway, fast forward to a couple of weeks ago and he said he can't see me anymore because he's struggling too much with other stuff to get into a relationship right now. I won't go into it all because it's not my stuff to share, but he has genuinely had some real shit to deal with recently so I know this wasn't a lie.
Part of me thinks maybe we'll be able to reconnect when things are a bit better for him. But then there is that niggling doubt that maybe he was using it as an excuse to brush me off. So I feel a bit stuck. Part of me wants to try to move on, but part of me thinks I should wait and see what happens in a few months to give him a chance to sort his headspace out.
I can't believe how much this hurts considering I've only known him three months. I feel like an idiot for being so affected by it.
I'm so sorry for jumping straight into this thread with such a long ramble but I think I just needed to admit to myself how much this has stung. I hate dating
Edit- omg I didn't realise how long this actually was until I saw it posted, I'm sorry