Seems like he has a lot to handle right now. I'd give him some space and wait and see. But keep going with your life, don't wait for him!I do think his reason was genuine. He said he had a terrible day at work and asked to reschedule to next Friday. He text me this morning and it sounds awful, his job is at risk and it all blew up a bit. He’s been quite quiet and not really answering me too much but I think he’s just really not feeling great mentally. He said sorry again today and said sorry we’ve had to rearrange to next week, it does seem like he still wants to do it but my mind is just telling me it’s too good to be true and this is the start of the slow fade xx
...... seriously???So my date for the night has cancelled on bowling and dinner. Instead he wants to come round to my house and cook me dinner but then proceeded to tell me that I need to go to Tesco and buy the foodso basically, he’s a scab and doesn’t want to have to pay for bowling and dinner apparently “it’s only fair you buy if I’m cooking”
I swear to almighty god...... seriously???
Unreal. They never cease to astound me. What you gonna do??I swear to almighty god
He has now told me “if you just wanna get a takeaway I’ll pay for that” after I replied “scabby”
Queenbees that bloke sounds a complete scrote.I know I always say this but I get sick of reading about these losers! Such a waste of time and energy. Sorry things seem so grim for so many right now. Yet in my family all I hear is of so & so and their partner/girlfriend/boyfriend. It's a mystery.
I actually just wrote back to him being like “what is actually wrong with men nowadays, there’s not one gentlemanly bone in their bodies”Unreal. They never cease to astound me. What you gonna do??
Good girl. We shouldn't tolerate this shit. If they can't do the bare minimum they can get in the bin.I actually just wrote back to him being like “what is actually wrong with men nowadays, there’s not one gentlemanly bone in their bodies”
And he said “I think cooking for a lady is very gentleman like”
To which I replied “yes until you told me to go to Tesco and get the food because your cooking I have to buy the food”this is a first date ladies lol
I told him to leave it off
Erm lol. What a fuckwit. Hard pass.So my date for the night has cancelled on bowling and dinner. Instead he wants to come round to my house and cook me dinner but then proceeded to tell me that I need to go to Tesco and buy the foodso basically, he’s a scab and doesn’t want to have to pay for bowling and dinner apparently “it’s only fair you buy if I’m cooking”
You do realise these men use this as a code for sex ? They invite themselves over under the guise of coming to cook you dinner or to have a coffee... it's concerning to me that your first reaction was that he's being tight rather than the fact you don't invite strangers into your safe space that you've met on a dating site. You don't know this man and keeping yourself safe should always be your first thought.So he has now said “What are you on about. I am making an effort. I told you I’d come down to you and cook for you. That’s an effort “
like these men are clueless.
My reply was “yes it would have been an effort and a good first impression if you showed up at my house with a bag of food and a bottle of wine and cooked for me but you then proceeded to tell me to get off my ass and go to Tesco to get the food. And it was only fair that I buy it if you’re cooking it.”
the original plan was bowling and dinner and it’s quite clear now why he didn’t want to do that which is fine. But like seriously.
EDIT: he has now replied “I was only messing about getting the food” - lies. He’s only saying that now because I’ve called him out on this shitty behaviour
He could have easily suggested going back to hers after bowling too. These guys are always going to try it but you’d think they’d try to make more of an effort first!You do realise these men use this as a code for sex ? They invite themselves over under the guise of coming to cook you dinner or to have a coffee... it's concerning to me that your first reaction was that he's being tight rather than the fact you don't invite strangers into your safe space that you've met on a dating site. You don't know this man and keeping yourself safe should always be your first thought.
Well she would have met him in person in that case and made a judgement call about her safety...him arriving at her home as a stranger without having met him prior to that is never ever a good idea with a man you've only spoken to/ off the internet!He could have easily suggested going back to hers after bowling too. These guys are always going to try it but you’d think they’d try to make more of an effort first!
In fairness I don’t think she has any intention of having him over… unless I’m wrong. I mean I’m totally in agreement with you, I would never have a guy over who I’ve never met. In fact when I bought my new flat I refused to have any guy over in case they tainted the memories of my own beautiful home lol.Well she would have met him in person in that case and made a judgement call about her safety...him arriving at her home as a stranger without having met him prior to that is never ever a good idea with a man you've only spoken to/ off the internet!
omg sameIn fairness I don’t think she has any intention of having him over… unless I’m wrong. I mean I’m totally in agreement with you, I would never have a guy over who I’ve never met. In fact when I bought my new flat I refused to have any guy over in case they tainted the memories of my own beautiful home lol.
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