I think you should be honest and tell him what is going on in your life.Morning all, how's everyone doing?
I'm feeling like it's getting to the point where I need to have a bit of an exclusivity/"where are we at" talk with the guy I'm seeing.
Partly because I'm having a really rough time personally with some family news at the moment and would really like to be able to call this guy up for a hug and a cry (he's aware of the situation), but feel like I can't/shouldn't because we're not at that point yet.
I keep wanting to tell him how I'm feeling but holding back because he's really reserved in that sense, and my personal situation is so sensitive and horrible currently that I couldn't deal with it if his response to the suggestion of exclusivity is anything other than an enthusiastic "yes please".
So for that reason I think I should hold off and keep a distance for a bit? Does that sound sensible and like what you guys would do in this situation? We last saw each other when he left my flat on Monday morning and we've only exchanged a few texts since, so he doesn't know I've been a mess this week.
He is in adult and will be aware of life's ups and downs and that you cannot schedule them - they happen as and when they do.
If you distance yourself he might wonder why and potentially think you are not into him.
I don't understand why you want to talk to him about exclusivity before you can talk to him about your personal situation?