Men looooove using us for free therapy. My friend went on this amazing first date with a guy who told her on the night that he was moving to Sweden the following week
Seemed suss to me, I just don't see why you'd splash out on a lavish date days before you leave the country? Unless you wanted to ensure you had someone to visit you that is, and more importantly a guaranteed shag while you were away. He offered to buy her a plane ticket to visit him the next month which she was blown away by... But it all seemed a bit lovebomby to me tbh. Like they barely knew eachother, and he shouldn't really have been dating in the first place. I mean who willingly enters into a LDR unless the distance works to their advantage. She was super excited though so I didn't say anything.
She did visit him but things eventually ended, basically because he starting calling her all the time moaning about work and having meltdowns about really stressful days he had. She told him that he needed to chill tf out with it because it was really overwhelming for her and they were only seeing each other at that point. Obviously he didn't like that and things eventually fizzled, after which she realised he was just using her for emotional labour. He obviously thought he could buy a girlfriend experience for the price of a plane ticket every few months.
For me the decider was him buying her another plane ticket without asking, for a weekend when she already had plans. Clearly if he's not even consulting her then the 'relationship' (of sorts) that they have is all about what works for and what she can do for him, and he likely had another girl to offer it to - if not several - that he had on the go already