Dating after lockdown #15 new year, new dates

[marthaedwards11]

how long has it been since your date? you say that you haven’t spoken much since, but how long are we talking? also don’t feel like he should have “expected more to happen”, you don’t owe anything.

i’m not sure how i would feel about dating a friend’s best friend tbh! i feel like i would worry if something happened, if something went wrong - and you mention that your friend already messaged both of you to see how it had gone and already knew what had happened because he’d told them. i’m a fairly private person so i feel like that would cause me some anxiety.

it’s ultimately up to you! your wording is that you’re already anticipating that it may be awkward and our gut feelings are usually correct - but if you really like him it may be worth just (if it goes further) setting some boundaries with your friend as to how much you’re comfortable sharing. if that makes sense!

Thanks @LaBlonde I too am quite a private person and so the thought of someone discussing me makes me feel a bit uncomfortable

 

[Jmx]

She was a total fantasist and completely bizarre. I always had a feeling that candyland was Laurie!

Candyland has already told us that she is Laurie..

 

[Bagpuss7]

Candyland has already told us that she is Laurie..

Has she ??

 

[Raymond Luxury-Yacht]

The Futurama person was Thunderfook, Professor Farmsworth and Roger Smith. Mad.

Jeez that’s mad! I’ve talked to them on the mental health thread and they seems okay, quite supportive actually? I was not very interested in their persona

@Raymond Luxury-Yacht I'm reading between the lines a bit here but you've been very open on this thread so I'm guessing you've also been quite open with the guy you're chatting to. What I would say... keep some cards close to your chest, it's early days and you don't want to get burned. I've used the apps for hookups with no expectations so no judgement there at all but I knew it was just for a hookup and no emptional investment. When you become invested in someone and you're talking a lot, and it turns out he was just saying all sorts of balls to get his end away... it does hurt.

Thank you! By being very open do you mean oversharing? I’ve never thought about it this way, I am indeed very open (and open-minded), and the line between that and oversharing is quite fine. You are right, I do get attached quite easily and don’t want to get burned…however, he said he really like that I am genuine and am not pretending to be cooler or more glamorous than I am. How do I keep him interested? I’ve already said I want to slow things down a little and that I’m the ONS kind. I’m not looking to marry him (at least yet haha), but I am not exactly looking for casual sex either. He says he respects that but I don’t want to blindly believe everything he says.

 

[TillyMiffin]

I swear I attract them:

 

[strawb]

I swear I attract them:

goodbye ok

 

[Raymond Luxury-Yacht]

I swear I attract them:

He is not honest, he is a wick… I’d block him.

goodbye ok

Haha hey Strawb

 

[TillyMiffin]

goodbye ok

Deffo gone x

 

[Jmx]

Has she ??

Yes.

 

[Bagpuss7]

View attachment 1012025Yes.

Wow ...Candyland is very blunt at times but didn't recognise her as being Laurie..every day is a learning day !.

 

[strawb]

Deffo gone x

just the fact that he ends every sentence with ok

 

[Tender & Tired]

just the fact that he ends every sentence with ok

Ok

 

[ThreeSteaksPam]

OK

 

[TillyMiffin]

Ok

I thought he was a scammer at first

 

[Bagpuss7]

I thought he was a scammer at first

He most likely is, a lot of them have woe is me tales usually involving a wife / my wife died/ I'm in the army based in an oil field near Germany!

 

[NoseyNiamh]

He most likely is, a lot of them have woe is me tales usually involving a wife / my wife died/ I'm in the army based in an oil field near Germany!

I should hope a scammer would be a little more eloquent in his messages...ok

 

[radoxdetox]

He most likely is, a lot of them have woe is me tales usually involving a wife / my wife died/ I'm in the army based in an oil field near Germany!

‘My parents both died in a car crash… I only have Kik….’

 

[Suzesnooze]

Wow ...Candyland is very blunt at times but didn't recognise her as being Laurie..every day is a learning day !.

Well I think her first post back on this thread had to be nice as she had been a bit rude to people but her posts since sound like Laurie. I do remember her coming on and saying she was now Candyland, so no wonder she said earlier she's not pretending to be anyone!

 

[doodlebug]

@marthaedwards11 totally message him and ask if he wants to go on another date. You want to see him again so there’s no harm in asking.

I wouldn’t feel weird about going back to his and then leaving after either. Personally I think meeting someone through friends is nice, and the mutual friend thought you’d be a good match so that must be reassuring. I don’t see that as an issue.

 

[BunnyLebowski]

Grab a large coffee, you'll need it.

@BunnyLebowski I see your roast dinner made it to the best of tattle 2021

Oh my god, I need to go and check this out. . I’ll catch up with you all later

It's definitely all lust on my side. We are
from very different worlds so I'm not sure it would work out for us.
I feel in control though and I know if things fizzled out tomorrow I would be fine and we would probably end up being good friends

So long as you definitely mean that and aren’t gonna get hurt. I always fall in love when the good sex hormones kick in so be careful.

I can’t believe people thought I was a faker?! I’m way too open for that. Maybe that’s my problem. I was having a bit too much fun aka car crash following a break up and spilled my guts on here.