You can’t really rely on people always using protection and being sensible. If you have casual sex with multiple partners, get tested - whether you’re a man or a woman. It’s not my style, but I don’t judge anyone.
I think women do participate willingly, and it’s not fair to lay it all at men’s doors. The problem as I see it is that both men and women are becoming more averse to commitment. Men are a lot more prone to this, however, in my opinion, and
@radoxdetox makes a good point why this is. Why would men commit when they can have all the good bits of a relationship with a woman, just by hopping on a dating app and finding a suitable candidate? They also think they can leave it later than women to settle down and start a family, if that’s what they want. The half in, half out approach suits many of them - regular sex with an exclusive partner, a plus one, someone to hang out with etc, but they get to be single and keep options open etc. Most women I know get repeatedly hurt by these arrangements because, if they’re honest, they want love and a committed relationship, that’s got a long-term future if you’re a good match. I know someone who repeatedly hops into bed quickly with men, then questions why they don’t commit to her the way she wants them to
She doesn’t give herself a chance to suss them and their intentions out. If it’s just a fling you want, fine, but you can’t expect to eventually land upon a committed relationship when you’re speeding through to sex without knowing much about them. Of course, in rare situations, this can work out, but we know it’s not the norm.
It seems to me that a committed relationship is actually getting harder to find. Online dating, in particular, has opened my eyes to some serious issues. Apps are like meat markets. Some men have always had a lack of respect/decorum towards women. Unsolicited dick pics are a good example of this violation of boundaries - they wouldn’t have the same opportunities to do that out in the ‘real world’. Casual sex is the norm and accepted by many. It’s
not for everyone, but I appreciate it is what some people want, including women of course. To each their own. There are lots of grey areas in dating, and I can’t say any particular issue is caused by men only. That’s not fair.
Many people are addicted to the apps. It becomes a way for them to get validation. To feel like there are more ‘options’ than they have in reality. One more roll of the dice before I commit. There might be a better one out there if I look one more time. Some don’t look up and truly appreciate a good prospect right in front of them. I basically think it’s all a big mess and is part of why figuring our way through it all is so difficult. There are our counterparts out there, though. Whatever you are looking for, there’s someone out there who matches you. It may just take a while to find them.