Dating after lockdown #12 It’s all got a bit dark

[NoseyNiamh]

The worst thing you can do is take anything personally that is said on a forum!

 

[misscl4]

I’d rather not get past the first date than be contacting someone with a partner but annnyyywaaayyyy that’s messy!

 

[Bloody orange Hell]

maybe screenshot and repost or copy the text and repost so we can give you advice xx

Can I just say well done!!!!

I hope that doesn’t sound too patronising but you organised that date and also the other bloke really well.
And also….fire fighters
Yes. Predictable I know.

Hope the date goes really well.

He is just the most considerate amazing human on the planet. But he wants to go to Tenerife with me in December and I am just what the actual hell this is not real life and he insists on paying for everything but I don't know, this feels like such a huge thing for me. We would go with his brother and his brother's wife. And and and and I mean I wanna go but should I??????

ETA: he is my good friend's close relative, not a random stranger tbh

I went on holiday with my ex husband 6 weeks after meeting him. To thailand. Never had been there before. Holiday was fab.
I was a confident traveller and had researched what to do and where to go if it went to tit tho. I paid for my flight. He paid for everything else. I was ok with that arrangement. He was on a higher income than me.

I’d be tempted. Do you have to decide now?

And @BunnyLebowski
Did you actually get fingered by Tony Blair?
This is not something I ever thought I’d write by the way

 

[katyazamo]

Oh hells bells I logged off last night and came back to a new thread and missed the drama!

Yes @Bettyboo2021 I used to escort in a former life.. just seeing your message on the last thread. It was a bit of a crazy time, no chance would I go back and it did put me off men... A lot of them just want a bit of company but also many of them were married or with partners sadly. It wasn't my place to get involved with the drama but I'm very wary of men now.

Anyway, here to read the dating stories! I'm still off the apps and feeling comfortable by myself so no plans to change that just now. I can't bring myself to swipe through the dregs that are left on the apps

 

[BunnyLebowski]

I can confirm that I have never been fingered by Tony Blair. I was fingered by a married man on Saturday night, hence my flounce when I was called out on my bad behaviour. It was on the Secret Celebrity Gossip thread, that I referred to when I had a flirtatious encounter with Tony Blair, when I was a young policy official working in the Cabinet Office….this was 20 years ago when I was quite frankly in my prime!

it was naughty Niamh who amalgamated the 2 stories.

 

[Wowitsme]

I can confirm that I have never been fingered by Tony Blair. I was fingered by a married man on Saturday night, hence my flounce when I was called out on my bad behaviour. It was on the Secret Celebrity Gossip thread, that I referred to when I had a flirtatious encounter with Tony Blair, when I was a young policy official working in the Cabinet Office….this was 20 years ago when I was quite frankly in my prime!

it was naughty Niamh who amalgamated the 2 stories.

Well that was a let down lol

 

[whathastheworldcometo]

I got cystitis and I haven't even had sex

 

[boomska]

bloody hell girls the one time I was 100% concentrating on work, it all kicked off.

lets Have good vibes for these forums. Please remember that everyone has different values/attitudes and we’re reading these messages in your own tone, voice etc. So someone might go “I’m so happy for you, can’t believe it worked after the way you behaved.” And read that sarcastically, rude etc but they could be happy or in shock?

it might feel like everyone is ganging up on you but we’re not trolls. And those who respond negatively without communicating their point…well, the trash showed itself out.
Anyway.
I’m really happy, content at the moment and feeling confident…so I’m thinking about rejoining tinder because hey, this peaceful feeling can only last so long

 

[Bagpuss7]

Blimey it's all been going on !!

Unpopular opinion most likely but I enjoyed reading Laurie's advice/ comments so I'm hoping she does come back..we all have our demons and the dating stuff is soo hard at times, it's been good having here to come to and just not feel so alone.

 

[lokiofasgard]

Can I just say well done!!!!

I hope that doesn’t sound too patronising but you organised that date and also the other bloke really well.
And also….fire fighters
Yes. Predictable I know.

Hope the date goes really well.


I went on holiday with my ex husband 6 weeks after meeting him. To thailand. Never had been there before. Holiday was fab.
I was a confident traveller and had researched what to do and where to go if it went to tit tho. I paid for my flight. He paid for everything else. I was ok with that arrangement. He was on a higher income than me.

I’d be tempted. Do you have to decide now?

And @BunnyLebowski
Did you actually get fingered by Tony Blair?
This is not something I ever thought I’d write by the way

He asked if he can get the tickets said that if something happens we can cancel the booking. Asked my boss if I could get Christmas off, she said she will tell me on Monday. I'm so torn hahaha . I live in a full on movie!

 

[BunnyLebowski]

I missed all of the drama….what happened?

Well that was a let down lol

Sorry. I was once fingered by the bloke out of the Sneaker Pimps if that helps?

 

[Clementine]

Six Underground?

 

[Captainmouse]

I missed all of the drama….what happened?

It got a little unpleasant very much like the mackie thread shhhiiiiit grenade!

 

[Ohheyyyyy]

Basically she told people to f**k off and said we're all a lost cause because we can't get past the first date and happy ghosting all said because someone pointed out that her screenshot cut off what her reply was to the guy.



And rightly so because I imagine if it was other people on this thread doing the same then she would have done the same.

Also did roll my eyes a little when she posted that she was a little bored and needed fun and missed the times when her and her boyfriend just sent dick pics etc then randomly got send that message

 

[Bettyboo2021]

Basically she told people to f**k off and said we're all a lost cause because we can't get past the first date and happy ghosting all said because someone pointed out that her screenshot cut off what her reply was to the guy.



And rightly so because I imagine if it was other people on this thread doing the same then she would have done the same.

Also did roll my eyes a little when she posted that she was a little bored and needed fun and missed the times when her and her boyfriend just sent dick pics etc then randomly got send that message

She was unpleasant to me, I don’t know her, this in an Anonymous forum and you don’t know what people have been through/ are going through...I’ve mentioned I’ve got traits of BPD and have attempted suicide previously....but this is life in general. When Caroline flack took her own life the “be kind” bandwagon went into overdrive and 5 minutes later people are getting trolled etc.
I might be mixed up but I’m a good person and I like to think I’m respectful here xx

 

[Wowitsme]

Basically she told people to f**k off and said we're all a lost cause because we can't get past the first date and happy ghosting all said because someone pointed out that her screenshot cut off what her reply was to the guy.



And rightly so because I imagine if it was other people on this thread doing the same then she would have done the same.

Also did roll my eyes a little when she posted that she was a little bored and needed fun and missed the times when her and her boyfriend just sent dick pics etc then randomly got send that message

Thank you!

I don’t understand how you can be seeing someone for 2.5 years and still it’s not official. I’m a bit lost.

 

[Ohheyyyyy]

She was unpleasant to me, I don’t know her, this in an Anonymous forum and you don’t know what people have been through/ are going through...I’ve mentioned I’ve got traits of BPD and have attempted suicide previously....but this is life in general. When Caroline flack took her own life the “be kind” bandwagon went into overdrive and 5 minutes later people are getting trolled etc.
I might be mixed up but I’m a good person and I like to think I’m respectful here xx

I totally understand you I think ive said before we are quite similar in some regards.

Truth is yes you might annoy people with the way you think because they're not walking in your shoes and see the world different to you and I.
I know I annoy myself sometimes with the things that go on in my mind when it comes to men and dating. But there's no need for telling people to F off or being horrible. Because I can guarantee the things I say to myself are worse then what she could! I've tried therapy before and I've just sat and cried throughout the whole session and I personally didn't see it beneficial to me everyone is different

 

[Wowitsme]

She was unpleasant to me, I don’t know her, this in an Anonymous forum and you don’t know what people have been through/ are going through...I’ve mentioned I’ve got traits of BPD and have attempted suicide previously....but this is life in general. When Caroline flack took her own life the “be kind” bandwagon went into overdrive and 5 minutes later people are getting trolled etc.
I might be mixed up but I’m a good person and I like to think I’m respectful here xx

I was also one of the ones who you would class as being unpleasant to you. I wasn’t trying to be unpleasant I was just trying to give a different view point but it was not going anywhere and ultimately it is your life to do as please.

 

[Bagpuss7]

I was also one of the ones who you would class as being unpleasant to you. I wasn’t trying to be unpleasant I was just trying to give a different view point but it was not going anywhere and ultimately it is your life to do as please.

I think I fall into this group too ! Again only offering ' advice ' based on what you post here. I agree with the others, it's your life and you must make your own choices..I do however think, until whatever happened this morning..I didn’t read all of it so don't know full facts, Laurie offered you kind advice and tried to help like we all do you and each other. I've no idea what triggered her outburst this morning but I do genuinely hope she is ok.

 

[StrawberryCream]

guys I’m sorry for causing the drama at the end of the last thread I’m usually a lurker but I felt I needed to say what I did. Didn’t mean to totally derail the thread and if people wanna leave then they should just leave (you’re not actually supposed to announce you are leaving, tattle rules)
Iv been following the threads for ages and love reading the positive stories and the funny dating app screenshots. She never announced she was leaving but I wonder where sleep flowers went she used to be a regular poster on these thread and some of her posts had me in tears, hope she found a nice man ?!

Anyway