Just had a message from an 80/20 member who’s experiencing some life struggles atm. Depression and anxiety is causing more chaos.
I wanted to share my reply with her. I feel it could help others on their journey…
She asked (and I’m paraphrasing) “how do I fix this Dan?”
“Learn about it all mate. Just self education buddy. Get a pen and paper. Get on Google. Watch a load of YouTube videos. Maybe even do an online course or two about human behaviour/understanding emotions and maybe even join an online community that specialises on teaching their members mindset education…. Now, where could you find something like that?
Mate, 80/20 is all about self reflection and identifying trauma. Everyone’s trauma is self internalised. We mould ourselves around our behaviour. If we suffer from things like depression, anxiety etc then these conditions can change how we behave. These behaviours then get defined to us from other peoples judgment of us.
For example.
If you’ve just identified that you can be a bit moody sometimes, then people will, or could, perceive that as negative. Meaning they drift away from you. Meaning you become more depressed. Meaning you become more “moody”. Meaning people drift further and faster.
The first point of change is identifying that maybe, just maybe, we haven’t been helping ourselves as much as we could have and if we focus on healing ourselves, then life just gets better mate.
You’ve been through hell mate. It’s painful. It hurts. It’s life. And life is cruel.
Which is all the more reason to “tool” up and get some armour. Find a good swordsmith (
) and learn how to fight.
And mate… if it feels like a fight, then it’s a fight!
Let’s win
(Hope this has helped mate)”
If you found this helpful, please let me know in the comments.
On his BFNG page - helpful how??? Basically telling them they're moody and to fight it by googling and watching YouTube videos. No wonder he's still so fucked up!!