I’m in two minds about this. Please no hate here, I’m sharing a lot of personal feelings and this has caused me to have a lot of dependency issues as an adult.
I thought I’d offer my perspective…I grew up very wealthy, my dad worked a lot and always made sure we lived in luxury. Around the time I was born, my dad was in the height of his career with so much property, he was always so busy, I barely saw him. He actually missed my birth because he was in a meeting, when my mum went into labour, and he refused to leave the meeting. We didn’t see him a lot as kids, but my mums a housewife and she took care of us at home. I’m in my mid 20s but I’ve never paid a bill (not that I would even know how to), never paid rent on any flat I’ve lived in, I still get a monthly allowance to my bank account, from my dad, and the first time I did laundry was at uni, because we always had a cleaner. I am basically an adult child, if you can call it that. I have so much anxiety about actually working, and depend on my parents for everything.
I was taken advantage of a bit in my first relationship. Because money was never an issue, I never looked for it in relationships. My first boyfriend worked but would make me pay for everything we did. My second boyfriend (now husband), came from nothing. His family are in masses of debt and live on credit cards. He was the complete opposite of me and moved out when he was 16. Incredibly independent, and I looked up to him. We were at uni when we met and he would always joke to me that one day he’s gonna make it big. I always laughed at him, because I just didn’t care. I didn’t care if he made it big or not because I loved him and how he took care of me, he taught me how to live life, to cook meals, to change my bedsheets (embarrasing at my age not knowing how to do that, I know). How he could have £3 left in his account but he’d use it to buy me a kinder egg. But he found something he was good at, and now he’s 25 and on a £60k salary.
my point is, if I had narrowed my search to men who are wealthy, who can give me the same life my dad has given me, I wouldn’t have found my absolute gem of a husband, and my soulmate
sorry for rambling but you get the picture