Shouldn’t you be busy shifting your Herbalife or is Monday your ‘day off?’
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Funny that you want to talk about what you think are nice things which all seem to be wealth and money related but most people think talking about money is somewhat gauche and bragging about wealth is offensive so not at all nice.
Hey I drive an Audi and think OP sounds a right a
Yuck to that I
Good for him I just would not want to go back to driving a Toyota personally , I simply prefer ranges / Porsche 4x4 cars now even though I said to my husband I really don’t want a big car and was scared to drive them first especially around london ! Really don’t see what the big deal is , never claimed to say I can buy a Ferrari / Lamborghini or wan one, my husband does though as he loves cars and his dad has a Ferrari and spends hours looking at cars and going to car shows together ( that’s nope my thing) , one of his goals to own a super car one day… suppose this will anger the snow flakes in here too !"I don’t need a Ferrari / Lamborghini but I don’t want to go back to having a basic car".
A range rover is pretty basic though. Can you actually afford the Ferrari though?
Also where's the family estate dating back to the 16th century ?
Do you also have connections to the royal family?
I've been around super rich folk. My private school was in central London, but not everyone honestly carried on like this. The richest woman I know personally shops at Aldi and so does my father who retired early at 46 and mainly just does one shift a week. My dad drives a 16 year old Toyota and can choose to do what he wants with his time.
I grew up kinda poor, I don't think anybody would imagine it just looking at us but money was a constant cause of stress and many many fights. So many debts, power cut, phone line cut due to unpaid bills etc. That taught me one thing, I don't want to struggle the same way again and I don't want to spend my life with someone who doesn't feel the same way about money.
That doesn't mean I'd pick someone rich that I didn't love over someone broke that I do love. But I found that the approach to money is more important than how much of it you have. What is "necessary", what is non-negotiable, what is a luxury and what is senseless spending? What will be our priorities once we get the bare necessities outnof the way? Does my partner value spending over saving? Is dining out at a nice place once in a while unnecessary for him? Does he prefer spending money on items or experiences? Is it comfort over cheaper prices, or do we decide to slum it in order to spend the money on something better? As long as we're on the same page, I don't think I'd care if he didn't want to become a high executive or didn't earn six figures.
Financial security is very important to me but everyone has a different idea of what it means to be comfortable. I'd want to know that we have our bills, home, health and emergencies covered. I'd want to know we wouldn't be a few bad months away from having our gas or power cut, or being on the streets. I'd want to know that I can trust my partner with priorities and budgeting. Other than that, I don't mind. I have my own income, it's not a High Income™ but I'm content with it, especially since I usually get to leave work on time and my workload doesn't make me want to depend on Adderall or c to cope with 160 hour work weeks. I'm not an engineer or a doctor or a lawyer, I'm not in finance etc so I'll probably never earn big salaries either.
I wouldn't call myself ambitious regarding career or money, I have other needs and wants in life so I don't expect that from a partner either. Actually someone whose entire mental energy is on the next promotion or the next raise would bring me down big time. It'd be amazing never to think about the cost of something I want to buy ever again, but not at the cost of my mental or physical health and I wouldn't want it for my spouse either.
That doesn't mean I'd pick someone rich that I didn't love over someone broke that I do love. But I found that the approach to money is more important than how much of it you have. What is "necessary", what is non-negotiable, what is a luxury and what is senseless spending? What will be our priorities once we get the bare necessities outnof the way? Does my partner value spending over saving? Is dining out at a nice place once in a while unnecessary for him? Does he prefer spending money on items or experiences? Is it comfort over cheaper prices, or do we decide to slum it in order to spend the money on something better? As long as we're on the same page, I don't think I'd care if he didn't want to become a high executive or didn't earn six figures.
Financial security is very important to me but everyone has a different idea of what it means to be comfortable. I'd want to know that we have our bills, home, health and emergencies covered. I'd want to know we wouldn't be a few bad months away from having our gas or power cut, or being on the streets. I'd want to know that I can trust my partner with priorities and budgeting. Other than that, I don't mind. I have my own income, it's not a High Income™ but I'm content with it, especially since I usually get to leave work on time and my workload doesn't make me want to depend on Adderall or c to cope with 160 hour work weeks. I'm not an engineer or a doctor or a lawyer, I'm not in finance etc so I'll probably never earn big salaries either.
I wouldn't call myself ambitious regarding career or money, I have other needs and wants in life so I don't expect that from a partner either. Actually someone whose entire mental energy is on the next promotion or the next raise would bring me down big time. It'd be amazing never to think about the cost of something I want to buy ever again, but not at the cost of my mental or physical health and I wouldn't want it for my spouse either.
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totally off topic here but are new look leggings any good? Mine are from primark and they are okay but I want some that are better quality as mine are starting to wear now and I find they start to look cheap really quickly (I wear them every day so understandable and I've got good use out of them for about £2.50). I thought about matalan but wanted to explore other options a well?Lifestyle business
I’m not saying anymore. I really am not. That says it all!
And much as you think you’re not looking down on people- you very much are. My outfit today would probably horrify you (Primark sweatshirt and top, New Look jeggings) but you know what I’m comfortable and happy with what I’m wearing. I have a hoodie in the wardrobe that cost me £350 from Harrods, and another hoodie that cost me £250 (not from Harrods though) they’re all that’s left from when I was doing better. If it weren’t for the fact that the £350 hoodie has a hole in it and the £250 hoodie is so heavy and warm it saves a fortune on heating I would have sold them too. There are things that are more important than money.
Also you keep banging on that you have a child (we get it hun. More or less every single response you mention that) is it really the best lesson to be giving your child that all you should aspire to is marrying a rich partner?!
Sorry, I have no idea! I’m wearing NL jeggings today. I buy my everyday leggings from Primark too (I like the £5 high waisted ones) I’m told that Sainsbury’s luxury leggings are excellent but they’re a bit more than £2.50!
People thinking you're a snob and judgemental ect doesn't make them snowflakes
Oooh I'm going to get a pair of these jeggings. I haven't worn jeggings in years but I had a pair from topshop which I absolutely lived in, i loved them that much
I love popping into this thread and feeling like I’m on mumsnet
Take a shot every time @latranla mentions Toyota... be prepared to be on the floor though.
The only snowflake here seems to be the person who has an issue with folk who drove a focus and shop in primark.
Who knew Scrabble made that list too?
Sounds like someone is too busy living off hubby an father in law's bank accounts, maybe use some of that money to buy a dictionary to understand what "snowflake" actually means
Makes me wonder what the in-laws think of someone who's probably too un-wealthy for their son to be with
Makes me wonder what the in-laws think of someone who's probably too un-wealthy for their son to be with
I think the really weird thing about this is I’m not really sure why the question is being asked? In the OP I was assuming that it was a new relationship and perhaps OP was a high earner and was unsure whether a relationship with someone earning less than her would work. Now it’s turned out that she’s in a relationship with a high earner so what’s the point of asking really??? Is it just so someone can come along and say “we’re broke and life’s miserable” to make her feel better?? I just don’t get it
It was started after a post on the Childless by choice thread.
Women making choices that are right for them. How dare they!
Her husband isn't a high earner though?
She said her household income is 80k... But she earns 50k. So her husband is only on 30k?
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