Unfortunately the tone of all your posts shouts of you looking down on people and thinking you're better than them because you have spent lots of money on showy materialistic stuff.When have I ever mentioned looking down on someone ? I just said I would struggle to marry / date someone who only ever wanted to say earn 25-30k a year until they are 40/50 years old due to the lifestyle I desire and that I would like want them to desire too!
I agree. I know a fair amount of people paid less for something they love doing, and that requires more skill and brain power than I do. I don’t think pay is indicative of how hard people work- I say this as someone who’s paid a lot to move shapes in PowerPoint (and a bit miserable with it until I work out my options). I don’t think I was maybe articulating it very well but I see ambition and finance as two separate things. I want ambition to mirror my outlook on life, but a partner who earns a similar amount so then there’s not a concern of a financial power imbalance. Its maybe one of those things where my experiences in life make me anxious to either put myself in a vulnerable position of being out-earned or a potentially stressful situation of being needed for the heavy lifting on finances.The issue is that ambition doesn't necessarily mean striving for more money it is also just striving to do your best in your job. I am jn a job that is pretty badly paid and has little scope for more but I like it and try and do my best every day. The idea that pay is indicative of how hard your work is/how important it is is ridiculous, as we all know the jobs that keep society working often tend to be vastly underpaid (ine isn't one of these it is just underpaid)
What you said about him going to work every day smiling and loving his job - I think that's absolutely priceless. Obviously nobody wants to be living on the breadline but having a happy partner is so important! You could have a partner who earns £200k a year, hates their job and has a nervous breakdown and goes on long-term sick from the stress of it - then what are you going to do?!I have traditionally always been with partners who had money. It was a requirement of mine. Long story short, all those relationships didn’t work and they treated me terribly.
Fast forward now, I’m about to marry the love of my life, he works a manual job, and earns less than me. He has no desire to change his job. There is no progress there eother
But He is hard working in what he does, loves his job and his work mates and is so so mentally happy and goes to work every day smiling.
I encourage him to be ambitious in his happiness not his career and I help and encourage him to follow his interests and enjoy his hobbies. He in turn is emotional and physically so supportive of me and my mental needs my and everything else.
We have a beautiful house, which is majority paid for by me, but he makes it a home with the love and happiness he’s given to me and my kids.
So yes, I could and will marry someone with less money than me and I’m going to be so happy doing it.
But you do you! But be happy first and foremost
You know Toyota and other ‘peasant brands’ do 4x4s right? The rangey/Porsche logo does not make the car a 4x4!I didn’t even think it was ‘ showy ‘saying I used to drive a Range and now a Porsche as they are quite common anyway, like someone else said and I just happen to like 4x4 cars now and find it hard to go back to something like my first car my Toyota !
He does, he puts his little backpack on and smiles his little head off as he walks down the road to be picked up. I think if you love someone and they make you happy, their happiness should be a priority for you too. And if they love what they do and they’re not being paid a lot of money for it, but they’re mentally well that’s more important IMO.What you said about him going to work every day smiling and loving his job - I think that's absolutely priceless. Obviously nobody wants to be living on the breadline but having a happy partner is so important! You could have a partner who earns £200k a year, hates their job and has a nervous breakdown and goes on long-term sick from the stress of it - then what are you going to do?!
Not really and to be quite frank im loving life andHAHAHA are you being serious?
hun, you didn’t need to say you look down on anyone, we KNOW you look down on people because of the comments you have made.
are you really that stupid that you can’t see how offensive, crass, snobby and frankly embarrassing some of your comments have been?
no problem yes asian and half English but born here , my husband is also Asian heritage and you are right there is alot of emphasis often from that culture on doing well , being successful in well paid career etc if that is what you mean.@latranla may I ask what your cultural heritage is, please? You don’t have to answer that, but thought I’d ask.
I have a few colleagues from Asian background who are almost identical in their outlook to what you describe. I’m not from that background so was interested if it’s a cultural thing. Sorry if that seems offensive, I promise you I don’t mean it that way.
At that point I would want to top myselfPlot twist - OP actually drives a focus, lives in a council flat while her partner works a Minnie wage job, holidays at butlins and buys all her designer gear on Klarna, but has an online alter ego for something to entertain her while this morning adverts are on x
This is what my wife is like now! There's only 3 of them on the team but they seem to have a really good friendship, which I think always helps. I don't care what she earns, as long as I get to see her smile when I pick her up at night!He does, he puts his little backpack on and smiles his little head off as he walks down the road to be picked up. I think if you love someone and they make you happy, their happiness should be a priority for you too. And if they love what they do and they’re not being paid a lot of money for it, but they’re mentally well that’s more important IMO.
It certainly is, and it's suitable for all locations. Hey, did I ever tell you how I got both a lifetime ban from Vue cinemas and a 50k cleaning bill for their vending machine? The story may not be as shocking now...Not to go OT but clearly doing just that, is dunking your junk after sex really a thing?!
Oh do me a favour love.At that point I would want to top myself
Or you're a lazy skiving bastard like me...It's also mid day on a Monday. Anyone earning a 6 figure salary is generally working and not sat on Tattle commenting on Ford focuses. Unless you're on maternity leave
Or you're a lazy skiving bastard like me...
Wait, do pence and the decimal point count as part of the 6 figures?
I have an uncle who’s rich. He has a huge indoor swimming pool. Anyway, we used to get knickers and socks from m&s for ChristmasI always feel that people with genuine wealth never actually talk about wealth or show that they have it, I said before my dad an his side all come from high wealth an until they passed an inheritances were given out then I knew nothing of it, an I don't even think my dad knew to the true extent of what they had saved/been worth
People with wealth don't have the need to show it off because they have absolutely nobody to impress, the ones I find that try to show off they have money (when it's the husband's really) are usually the fake dolled up, fake tits, trophy wives
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