Coronavirus Disease Outbreak COVID-19 #22

[Mabellovestea]

I really need to stay away from Instagram. I’m feeling like the worlds worst mum. Sorry for another negative post but wondering if I’m alone? I’m not usually so negative, I’ve been really positive at points this week despite the figures.

When do you think schools will re open? My daughter had her GCSEs cancelled and she’s devastated as she knows she could have done better than her predicted grades. She also didn’t want go to college as she has had such a tough time in secondary school. She wanted to get an apprenticeship but with how things are I guess it’s unlikely that’ll happen in the autumn, I imagine a lot of businesses will be in difficulty.

My youngest is feeling low and isolated, I’m trying hard to juggle all 3 children, husband working from home and my health conditions, I’ve not had a rest in weeks so my pain and fatigue are bad recently. My youngest is desperate for school and I have to keep saying no one knows when it’ll re open and I’m sorry

I am feeling like the worst mum, I see on Instagram, mainly home accounts (thetaylormadehome being one, she’s lovely of course) mums doing games, family time every day doing so much together and I feel like complete tit that when I can sit down I need that rest because of my health conditions limiting what I can do recently, When they were in school and work I didn’t have this guilt as I could slowly do my chores and rest in between with no one to worry about, but now everyone’s home it’s amplifying my thoughts that’s I’m a crap mum and worrying about their mental health during this time. Having ill health and letting them down because I’m not doing activities all day makes me feel guilty. Theyre all teenagers, eldest is almost 18, youngest is 15. They are happy watching tv, on their pc/Xbox, walks with their dad and the dog, films together, we play iPad games together etc but I feel so guilty I need so much rest because this last 6 weeks my stress levels have been really high which trigger my flare up of symptoms. I was physically doing well until all of this, now my pain and fatigue is horrendous. Having chronic illness you feel a bad mum without this situation making it worse.

I’m not wishing them to school, I’d rather we were all safe together by the way, I’m just worried what is going to happen for them In their near future.

 

[monga]

He's streaming shows every Friday at 7pm. We've been going to the theatre for the last 2 weeks We turn off all the lights and even clap after each song #needsmust. Hoping for Phantom and Les Mis. a little bit of light relief in the gloom x

Aww brilliant ! I'm not cultured enough for Lord Webber but he's a great composer..The Greatest Showman or Greece is as far as I go on musicals..But I thought I'd share as I know plenty enjoy his work and as you say it's a way of "getting away from it all " even if it's in mind only..I've just read a st in Cork had a movie night , all the neighbours sat at their own doorsteps and they set up a projector at the end of st ..a great idea if you get on with your neighbours x

 

[Monkeybum]

He's streaming shows every Friday at 7pm. We've been going to the theatre for the last 2 weeks We turn off all the lights and even clap after each song #needsmust. Hoping for Phantom and Les Mis. a little bit of light relief in the gloom x

Les Mis isn't an Andrew Lloyd Webber show so unfortunately don't think we'll be getting that, at least on his channel

 

[Kermy5]

So do I. Generally my OCD is well controlled with medication (beta-blockers and anti-depressants), but it always flares up when I'm stressed, like now. I have been feeling really claustrophobic for the last few days because all my choices about when to go out, where to go etc have been taken away from me. I feel hemmed in and miserable.

I used to have a real problem with worrying incessantly about contracting HIV, even though I've never been in a high risk category. I had treatment with cognitive behavioural therapy and I've been a lot better but this new virus is making old memories and fears resurface. I bloody hate all this, I wish everything could go back to normal.

At the beginning of this pandemic I was OK, but the longer we are on lockdown the worse it's affecting me.

Mine is around contamination, bleeping ideal right now
Went to the shop with my little one, she was so good kept her hands in her pockets the whole time love her. Only saw 3 cars on the road, hardly anyone in the shop it's a garage type thing. Few people almost got too close to us but oh well. I started wiping my groceries when I got home then actually had to stop myself, if I start that then my OCD will be raging so I just did a quick wipe then left the kitchen trying not to over think it.
I really feel for shop staff right now, I could not do it.

Also... THEY HAD TOILET ROLL.
Thank God cuz my cat was starting to look nervous that I'd use him.

I choked on my coke (coca cola) and the bubbles went up my nose when I read this

If he climbs up there he'll likely find some.

 

[Oohthedrama]

I really need to stay away from Instagram. I’m feeling like the worlds worst mum. Sorry for another negative post but wondering if I’m alone? I’m not usually so negative, I’ve been really positive at points this week despite the figures.

When do you think schools will re open? My daughter had her GCSEs cancelled and she’s devastated as she knows she could have done better than her predicted grades. She also didn’t want go to college as she has had such a tough time in secondary school. She wanted to get an apprenticeship but with how things are I guess it’s unlikely that’ll happen in the autumn, I imagine a lot of businesses will be in difficulty.

My youngest is feeling low and isolated, I’m trying hard to juggle all 3 children, husband working from home and my health conditions, I’ve not had a rest in weeks so my pain and fatigue are bad recently. My youngest is desperate for school and I have to keep saying no one knows when it’ll re open and I’m sorry

I am feeling like the worst mum, I see on Instagram, mainly home accounts (thetaylormadehome being one, she’s lovely of course) mums doing games, family time every day doing so much together and I feel like complete tit that when I can sit down I need that rest because of my health conditions limiting what I can do recently, When they were in school and work I didn’t have this guilt as I could slowly do my chores and rest in between with no one to worry about, but now everyone’s home it’s amplifying my thoughts that’s I’m a crap mum and worrying about their mental health during this time. Having ill health and letting them down because I’m not doing activities all day makes me feel guilty. Theyre all teenagers, eldest is almost 18, youngest is 15. They are happy watching tv, on their pc/Xbox, walks with their dad and the dog, films together, we play iPad games together etc but I feel so guilty I need so much rest because this last 6 weeks my stress levels have been really high which trigger my flare up of symptoms. I was physically doing well until all of this, now my pain and fatigue is horrendous. Having chronic illness you feel a bad mum without this situation making it worse.

I’m not wishing them to school, I’d rather we were all safe together by the way, I’m just worried what is going to happen for them In their near future.

you are NOT a crap mum,
Being a mum doesn’t automatically stop you being a person, with your own struggles and feelings,
You can only do your best, we’re all just trying to do our best, but comparing your parenting to insta parents will always end in you being upset,
Your kids don’t need you to worry yourself sick about them, they’re at an age where they can look after themselves whilst you take time to look after your self,

the pressure online to be the perfect insta mum/cook/cleaner/teacher is unbelievable.

just be there for them, it sounds weird saying this but...
fortunately everyone is in the same position at the moment, all teenagers, all students, all parents, nobody is getting a head start or being left behind. We’re all on standstill so your kids aren’t suffering whilst others are thriving.
Do your best and stop putting pressure on yourself to do more.
It’s gonna be a long road, don’t trip yourself up with doubt and a sense of failure so early on x

 

[Asda]

Not sure if this has been posted as need to catch up but dont think they're reviewing restrictions til Thursday

Tried making a mask from a scarf.
Cannot get it to work or stay on.
Very premenstrual and now got in a right pissy mood about it, threw tit mask at a wall had a cry and ate some easter egg.
duck all this honestly.
This entire situation is bleeping horrendous and I can't deal with it today

I know it's easy to say but... Breath. We have just been to lidl and they have it all in hand, there were no queues and once you're in there's hand sanitiser and wipes to wash the trolley, hardly anyone in there and everyone is adhering to the social distancing. We haven't been since the beginning of lock down and were really scared but it really is fine now every one knows what to do. I promise Xxxxx

 

[Kermy5]

you are NOT a crap mum,
Being a mum doesn’t automatically stop you being a person, with your own struggles and feelings,
You can only do your best, we’re all just trying to do our best, but comparing your parenting to insta parents will always end in you being upset,
Your kids don’t need you to worry yourself sick about them, they’re at an age where they can look after themselves whilst you take time to look after your self,

the pressure online to be the perfect insta mum/cook/cleaner/teacher is unbelievable.

just be there for them, it sounds weird saying this but...
fortunately everyone is in the same position at the moment, all teenagers, all students, all parents, nobody is getting a head start or being left behind. We’re all on standstill so your kids aren’t suffering whilst others are thriving.
Do your best and stop putting pressure on yourself to do more.
It’s gonna be a long road, don’t trip yourself up with doubt and a sense of failure so early on x

This I've fucked the school work off and am just focusing on her happiness to be honest. Which has so far meant lots of walks in the woods, lots of tv, sweets, and quite a bit of "I gotta lie down a minute love I'm knackered go entertain yourself please Mummy's trying not to lose her mind".
We're all just trying to cope, the fact you even feel like a crap Mum just proves you definitely aren't one, because you care. Xx

 

[Mabellovestea]

you are NOT a crap mum,
Being a mum doesn’t automatically stop you being a person, with your own struggles and feelings,
You can only do your best, we’re all just trying to do our best, but comparing your parenting to insta parents will always end in you being upset,
Your kids don’t need you to worry yourself sick about them, they’re at an age where they can look after themselves whilst you take time to look after your self,

the pressure online to be the perfect insta mum/cook/cleaner/teacher is unbelievable.

just be there for them, it sounds weird saying this but...
fortunately everyone is in the same position at the moment, all teenagers, all students, all parents, nobody is getting a head start or being left behind. We’re all on standstill so your kids aren’t suffering whilst others are thriving.
Do your best and stop putting pressure on yourself to do more.
It’s gonna be a long road, don’t trip yourself up with doubt and a sense of failure so early on x

Thank you, I really needed to hear this. I really appreciate your reply, it’s been eating away at me all week.

xx

This I've fucked the school work off and am just focusing on her happiness to be honest. Which has so far meant lots of walks in the woods, lots of tv, sweets, and quite a bit of "I gotta lie down a minute love I'm knackered go entertain yourself please Mummy's trying not to lose her mind".
We're all just trying to cope, the fact you even feel like a crap Mum just proves you definitely aren't one, because you care. Xx

Thank you so much, my children are my world and I worry about them so much, to the point I make myself ill. Worrying if I’m enough, worry have my health condtions affected their mental health and childhood etc.. so this virus is just amplifying my worrit’s. It’s so good to hear I’m not alone with these worries.

Good for you giving up the school work. My youngest is stressed about it and trying to keep up as the teachers send so much but I’ve said just do what you can because your mental health right now is far more important which made him feel so much better as he was worrying so much about keeping up. It’s hard for any of us to juggle work right now while mentally we’re struggling to accept this awful crisis. It’s so unfair and we need to do what’s right for us don’t we xxx

 

[Oohthedrama]

This I've fucked the school work off and am just focusing on her happiness to be honest. Which has so far meant lots of walks in the woods, lots of tv, sweets, and quite a bit of "I gotta lie down a minute love I'm knackered go entertain yourself please Mummy's trying not to lose her mind".
We're all just trying to cope, the fact you even feel like a crap Mum just proves you definitely aren't one, because you care. Xx

Thank you, I really needed to hear this. I really appreciate your reply, it’s been eating away at me all week.

xx

The pressure on parents to not only suppress their own illnesses, insecurities and fears but to also become full time teachers and therapists is unbelievable.

it doesn’t matter how many kids you’ve had, you’re still human!
and I know parents always put their kids first, that’s natural, but at times like this there is no right way of doing things.

do your best, that all any of us can do, but killing yourself in an attempt to keep up with Instagram is only going to make you whole family suffer more in the long run if you make yourself sick trying to get there xx

 

[monga]

I really need to stay away from Instagram. I’m feeling like the worlds worst mum. Sorry for another negative post but wondering if I’m alone? I’m not usually so negative, I’ve been really positive at points this week despite the figures.

When do you think schools will re open? My daughter had her GCSEs cancelled and she’s devastated as she knows she could have done better than her predicted grades. She also didn’t want go to college as she has had such a tough time in secondary school. She wanted to get an apprenticeship but with how things are I guess it’s unlikely that’ll happen in the autumn, I imagine a lot of businesses will be in difficulty.

My youngest is feeling low and isolated, I’m trying hard to juggle all 3 children, husband working from home and my health conditions, I’ve not had a rest in weeks so my pain and fatigue are bad recently. My youngest is desperate for school and I have to keep saying no one knows when it’ll re open and I’m sorry

I am feeling like the worst mum, I see on Instagram, mainly home accounts (thetaylormadehome being one, she’s lovely of course) mums doing games, family time every day doing so much together and I feel like complete tit that when I can sit down I need that rest because of my health conditions limiting what I can do recently, When they were in school and work I didn’t have this guilt as I could slowly do my chores and rest in between with no one to worry about, but now everyone’s home it’s amplifying my thoughts that’s I’m a crap mum and worrying about their mental health during this time. Having ill health and letting them down because I’m not doing activities all day makes me feel guilty. Theyre all teenagers, eldest is almost 18, youngest is 15. They are happy watching tv, on their pc/Xbox, walks with their dad and the dog, films together, we play iPad games together etc but I feel so guilty I need so much rest because this last 6 weeks my stress levels have been really high which trigger my flare up of symptoms. I was physically doing well until all of this, now my pain and fatigue is horrendous. Having chronic illness you feel a bad mum without this situation making it worse.

I’m not wishing them to school, I’d rather we were all safe together by the way, I’m just worried what is going to happen for them In their near future.

Well I do some games ,colouring and craft things with my youngest he's nearly 8 but I 've an 18 yr old too and obviously he amuses himself on his Ps4 ,phone etc( he's not interested in doing that kind of thing) but he be's chatting online to his friends wile gaming so he's living the dream ..his A levels were cancelled to btw..There's only so much you can do wile being stuck inside so I don't beat myself up about it too much ..but I did worry too about the mental side of things for them more the younger boy tbh as I think teens tend to keep themselves more for their friends anyway ,and if their able to chat via mic or facetime they seem ok with that.but I think the younger children might find it harder to socialise the longer this continues ..but I'll cross that bridge when I come to it ..and I'll say again never believe an influencer they'll be exactly the same as the rest of us once they turn that camera off . x

 

[imaginedragon83]

I really need to stay away from Instagram. I’m feeling like the worlds worst mum. Sorry for another negative post but wondering if I’m alone? I’m not usually so negative, I’ve been really positive at points this week despite the figures.

When do you think schools will re open? My daughter had her GCSEs cancelled and she’s devastated as she knows she could have done better than her predicted grades. She also didn’t want go to college as she has had such a tough time in secondary school. She wanted to get an apprenticeship but with how things are I guess it’s unlikely that’ll happen in the autumn, I imagine a lot of businesses will be in difficulty.

My youngest is feeling low and isolated, I’m trying hard to juggle all 3 children, husband working from home and my health conditions, I’ve not had a rest in weeks so my pain and fatigue are bad recently. My youngest is desperate for school and I have to keep saying no one knows when it’ll re open and I’m sorry

I am feeling like the worst mum, I see on Instagram, mainly home accounts (thetaylormadehome being one, she’s lovely of course) mums doing games, family time every day doing so much together and I feel like complete tit that when I can sit down I need that rest because of my health conditions limiting what I can do recently, When they were in school and work I didn’t have this guilt as I could slowly do my chores and rest in between with no one to worry about, but now everyone’s home it’s amplifying my thoughts that’s I’m a crap mum and worrying about their mental health during this time. Having ill health and letting them down because I’m not doing activities all day makes me feel guilty. Theyre all teenagers, eldest is almost 18, youngest is 15. They are happy watching tv, on their pc/Xbox, walks with their dad and the dog, films together, we play iPad games together etc but I feel so guilty I need so much rest because this last 6 weeks my stress levels have been really high which trigger my flare up of symptoms. I was physically doing well until all of this, now my pain and fatigue is horrendous. Having chronic illness you feel a bad mum without this situation making it worse.

I’m not wishing them to school, I’d rather we were all safe together by the way, I’m just worried what is going to happen for them In their near future.

The way I'm feeling today is honeslty f**k them. We're all doing the best we can in an unpredictable and crappy time!
My house is a mess and I'm tired cos I can't sleep and my son is running around outside screaming like a mad man cos he's had loads of chocolate but I just don't care! He's as happy as Larry so that's the main thing.
As for what happens when all this is over... I keep telling myself everyone will be in the same boat. We will all get through it xx

 

[SarahGard83]

Today has been tit. Probably the lowest I've felt since all this started. I'm on week 4 of shielding and because I'm in the highly vulnerable category that also means that my husband and 2 children are shielding with me. That means not one of us can leave the house so no daily exercise or a quick walk. Feeling like a tit mum because chemo is really taking it out on me so I can't even be arsed to sit and play a board game with them. Hubby is amazing and making sure the kids are ok while I rest but I'm finding it so hard. Craving some peace and quiet but then feel guilty for feeling like this. Today sucks!

 

[Lanie]

This I've fucked the school work off and am just focusing on her happiness to be honest. Which has so far meant lots of walks in the woods, lots of tv, sweets, and quite a bit of "I gotta lie down a minute love I'm knackered go entertain yourself please Mummy's trying not to lose her mind".
We're all just trying to cope, the fact you even feel like a crap Mum just proves you definitely aren't one, because you care. Xx

Nobody is dealing with this the wrong way. We all cope differently, even the insensitive people are dealing with the best way they know how,. Which might not be to everyone's tastes. This is a whole new ball game to what we have ever been in the position to deal withm truth is.... Nobody knows tit! Not one person in this current situation has a fecking clue what is going on... What they should or shouldnt be doing, how long it will or won't last, how best to treat/ deal with it. We are basically all as clueless as eachother. I honestly think the best course of action is to work together, do what we can to prevent transmission, try and work out a plan to get some sort of working plan in place so we can get some sort of economy going on too help us survive this. Hopefully soon the government and us all will be able to put some decent plans in motion so we can move on.

 

[Mabellovestea]

The way I'm feeling today is honeslty f**k them. We're all doing the best we can in an unpredictable and crappy time!
My house is a mess and I'm tired cos I can't sleep and my son is running around outside screaming like a mad man cos he's had loads of chocolate but I just don't care! He's as happy as Larry so that's the main thing.
As for what happens when all this is over... I keep telling myself everyone will be in the same boat. We will all get through it xx

It seems many of us are having a tough day today. I hope you’re ok xx

Today has been tit. Probably the lowest I've felt since all this started. I'm on week 4 of shielding and because I'm in the highly vulnerable category that also means that my husband and 2 children are shielding with me. That means not one of us can leave the house so no daily exercise or a quick walk. Feeling like a tit mum because chemo is really taking it out on me so I can't even be arsed to sit and play a board game with them. Hubby is amazing and making sure the kids are ok while I rest but I'm finding it so hard. Craving some peace and quiet but then feel guilty for feeling like this. Today sucks!

Sending you a hug. You take that time out to rest, you need it. We’re lucky to have such supportive husbands. xxx

Well I do some games ,colouring and craft things with my youngest he's nearly 8 but I 've an 18 yr old too and obviously he amuses himself on his Ps4 ,phone etc( he's not interested in doing that kind of thing) but he be's chatting online to his friends wile gaming so he's living the dream ..his A levels were cancelled to btw..There's only so much you can do wile being stuck inside so I don't beat myself up about it too much ..but I did worry too about the mental side of things for them more the younger boy tbh as I think teens tend to keep themselves more for their friends anyway ,and if their able to chat via mic or facetime they seem ok with that.but I think the younger children might find it harder to socialise the longer this continues ..but I'll cross that bridge when I come to it ..and I'll say again never believe an influencer they'll be exactly the same as the rest of us once they turn that camera off . x

Thank you, you’re right, teens do their own thing anyway don’t they. Even before the virus they did what they are doing now so why I’m worried I don’t know Xx

 

[Lldv20]

I really need to stay away from Instagram. I’m feeling like the worlds worst mum. Sorry for another negative post but wondering if I’m alone? I’m not usually so negative, I’ve been really positive at points this week despite the figures.

When do you think schools will re open? My daughter had her GCSEs cancelled and she’s devastated as she knows she could have done better than her predicted grades. She also didn’t want go to college as she has had such a tough time in secondary school. She wanted to get an apprenticeship but with how things are I guess it’s unlikely that’ll happen in the autumn, I imagine a lot of businesses will be in difficulty.

My youngest is feeling low and isolated, I’m trying hard to juggle all 3 children, husband working from home and my health conditions, I’ve not had a rest in weeks so my pain and fatigue are bad recently. My youngest is desperate for school and I have to keep saying no one knows when it’ll re open and I’m sorry

I am feeling like the worst mum, I see on Instagram, mainly home accounts (thetaylormadehome being one, she’s lovely of course) mums doing games, family time every day doing so much together and I feel like complete tit that when I can sit down I need that rest because of my health conditions limiting what I can do recently, When they were in school and work I didn’t have this guilt as I could slowly do my chores and rest in between with no one to worry about, but now everyone’s home it’s amplifying my thoughts that’s I’m a crap mum and worrying about their mental health during this time. Having ill health and letting them down because I’m not doing activities all day makes me feel guilty. Theyre all teenagers, eldest is almost 18, youngest is 15. They are happy watching tv, on their pc/Xbox, walks with their dad and the dog, films together, we play iPad games together etc but I feel so guilty I need so much rest because this last 6 weeks my stress levels have been really high which trigger my flare up of symptoms. I was physically doing well until all of this, now my pain and fatigue is horrendous. Having chronic illness you feel a bad mum without this situation making it worse.

I’m not wishing them to school, I’d rather we were all safe together by the way, I’m just worried what is going to happen for them In their near future.

You are only seeing there 'best bits' trust me dont forget social media is so skewed to only show what the user wants you to see. It's not always the persons fault, I myself dont often post the bad stuff but id hate to think that made another person feel bad.
Dont feel you have to be supermum through out this you are doing an amazing job xxx

 

[Mabellovestea]

The pressure on parents to not only suppress their own illnesses, insecurities and fears but to also become full time teachers and therapists is unbelievable.

it doesn’t matter how many kids you’ve had, you’re still human!
and I know parents always put their kids first, that’s natural, but at times like this there is no right way of doing things.

do your best, that all any of us can do, but killing yourself in an attempt to keep up with Instagram is only going to make you whole family suffer more in the long run if you make yourself sick trying to get there xx

Thank you so much. I’ve had to stop watching people’s stories as it’s all putting pressure on me. You’re right, we can only do our best and we’re humans not just a parent xxx

You are only seeing there 'best bits' trust me dont forget social media is so skewed to only show what the user wants you to see. It's not always the persons fault, I myself dont often post the bad stuff but id hate to think that made another person feel bad.
Dont feel you have to be supermum through out this you are doing an amazing job xxx

Thank you so much, you’re right xx

 

[Oohthedrama]

Today has been tit. Probably the lowest I've felt since all this started. I'm on week 4 of shielding and because I'm in the highly vulnerable category that also means that my husband and 2 children are shielding with me. That means not one of us can leave the house so no daily exercise or a quick walk. Feeling like a tit mum because chemo is really taking it out on me so I can't even be arsed to sit and play a board game with them. Hubby is amazing and making sure the kids are ok while I rest but I'm finding it so hard. Craving some peace and quiet but then feel guilty for feeling like this. Today sucks!

it’s so difficult seeing posts like this,
god your family are probably so glad to have you with them, and I’m sure I can say with certainty that they’re happy to be shielding with you if it’s keeping you safe!
It’s frustrating for everyone, but we know it’s for the best.

pleas stop feeling bad!
You have your own fight, one that you’re dealing with daily, and now this!

to everyone feeling like you’re not enough right now...

you are enough...
but this tit is A LOT!!

so we’re all seeing ourselves as failures when the event we’re taking part in is so big!!

ok now I’m going back to my Irish crap before someone thinks I’m a nice person again #hacked

 

[Lldv20]

Thank you so much. I’ve had to stop watching people’s stories as it’s all putting pressure on me. You’re right, we can only do our best and we’re humans not just a parent xxx


Thank you so much, you’re right xx

100%

 

[carebear123]

Bizarre question but has anyone else got random men dressing up in superhero costumes and running around the streets waving at housebound children in their area?!! We seem to have about 5 here!

Why do I not have this around my area we just have old men walking dogs and letting the dogs tit on our grass front

 

[monga]

it’s so difficult seeing posts like this,
god your family are probably so glad to have you with them, and I’m sure I can say with certainty that they’re happy to be shielding with you if it’s keeping you safe!
It’s frustrating for everyone, but we know it’s for the best.

pleas stop feeling bad!
You have your own fight, one that you’re dealing with daily, and now this!

to everyone feeling like you’re not enough right now...

you are enough...
but this tit is A LOT!!

so we’re all seeing ourselves as failures when the event we’re taking part in is so big!!

ok now I’m going back to my Irish crap before someone thinks I’m a nice person again #hacked

I know your really a sheep in wolfs clothing xx

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