Thanks. She will be feeling this but I'm not sure if she should be posting. This isn't about her.
She's not really posting yet though, she's just reposting words from other people. End of the day he was a big part of her life no matter how long ago, she's allowed to feel upset.
Lots of other ex Towie cast members from that time have posted stuff even if they haven't seen him for years, are they "making it about them"? Why should it be different for Chloe. Of course it depends on wording but I wouldn't think twice if she did do a tribute post to him just like the dozens of other people that have.
As for all the news reports mentioning her, she can't really help that can she, that's how Jake came into the public eye in the first place. It would be different if she was actually choosing to be interviewed about it or going on This Morning or whatever. Then I'd be agreeing with you.