I personally wouldn’t have a childfree wedding but it doesn’t affect me as I’m childfree, it’s up to the couple and lots of parents love them so it’s not my business. The couple need to realise that means some people won’t be able to attend and parents need to realise that people can’t always include children in their weddings for various reasons, so it is sad when it causes issues.
To be fair there were no kids with her (even weirder now I think about it) so maybe she’s raising dogs or something, that I can get behindAnd did you stop to thank them for their service?
Definitely, I will never take my and my friends' childless-ness for grantedThat said, for me personally, the perk already exists
I think it’s a) not all parents have the ability to get someone to look after the children while they’re attending the wedding; b) if you know I have children and we’re close, I simply find it rude; c) as a parent, disregarding my child as if they’re an inconvenience in your perfect wedding landscape is not right.
Do you mean Elaine?
Correct!
This was my thoughts on it, I feel like there's backstory.
Out of interest, are you married?
They’re definitely having sex on their good days.
We aren’t allowed to link to MN
I can't go in a local pub without hearing a bark or growl when I walk in. As it's heaving I've no idea where the dog is. It's probably scared cos there are so many people and it's a bit dark in there. Have often seen dogs being dragged out of pubs cos they didn't want to leave!!! Literally dragged bodily along the carpet.
oh I wasn’t suggesting you or anyone was!Of course, I'm not suggesting I am jealous of parents - I would take no maternity leave over genuine maternity leave and a child ANY day of the week haha!!
I just find it frustrating that there's nothing employers offer people who will never take that perk - vs people who are off for 9 months at a go (multiple times) whilst we do their work for them
if child free people got paid extra or extra days off but it would be more fair.
No problem! It might help you to get help/advice/support from both childfree and partnerfree people who have had family worry about them for either one, or both, of those things.
No my point wasn’t about going home but about which home.
What do you sew?
It’s close friends from primary school who all know her sister as well, but her brother in law doesn’t really know us so I’m not sure what he’d think. She works part time in a low paid job so she’s living with her parents (I know lots of people are still at home in their 30s, but this isn’t through real necessity. Our hometown is an inexpensive area). Next time I see her I’m going to encourage her to take the extra hours. Her own life is sort of on hold to be a part time stay at home aunt. She wants to meet someone and have kids soon - with what money?
Tbf I wouldn’t have my niece and nephew there either (not bio though just my best friends kids) but I could see why someone would be upset. I think my friend (who is like a sister to me; hence why I call her kids my niece and nephew and spoil them as such) would probably be a bit upset if I said I didn’t want them there but she’d get over it and respect the decision. I don’t begrudge her that either.I didn't have my nephews at mine.
It was a weekday so 2 of them were at school anyway and the other was 18 months old and we just didn't want him there
His mum (my SIL) at first said what am I meant to do with him and I said leave him with your mum (who looks after him 3 days a week anyway) she said OK and that was that!
If she had said she wouldn't come because of it I would have said fine. I doubt Mr HoGi's brother would have missed the wedding because his kid couldn't come, he regularly goes on holiday and leaves his wife at home with the kids!
A friend of a friend got married last year and the venue had a policy if there are more than 10 kids there has to be a children's Entertainer during dinner!! I couldn't think of anything worse during a wedding.
