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I’ve seen that a few times. There was a post on Reddit around Christmas by a woman who had ivf to have her child and she said if she knew then what she knew now she wouldn’t have spent years and £££ having the child. She was so focused on having a baby she didn’t consider actually having it would be harder than the process to get pregnant because everyone only talks about the good things.I read in the paper a while back a woman who had tried everything to conceive and did eventually, only to find she hated every minute of being a mother but she couldn't send "it" back . Quite brave to say actually - she's probably been lynched by now.
I was designated by family to look after my sister's child as I was 1) on leave from work and b) a woman. That 3 weeks put me off kids for life. I was knackered when I returned to work ,![]()
omg I love my niece but sometimes i visit when I know she's napping or gone to bed so I can have a conversation with my sister and not be listening to screeching.My friend has taken to posting daily baby and toddler photos in the group chat and is umming and ahhing about taking up her work’s informal offer to eventually up her hours to full time because she’ll see the kids less.
These aren’t her kids.
They’re her niece and nephew.
I have no issue with parents in general, if someone wants to dedicate their life to their child, that's their choice and godspeed. What gets on my nerves is when some act like their way is the only way and anyone who chooses a different path is somehow beneath them.To be fair I think some people are very maternal. That ain’t us though![]()
This is why I do all my Christmas shopping either very early in the year or online! Absolutely no chance of me going to a shop this time of year.Shopping centers during Christmas time are worst. Kids screaming their heads off, running all over the place, crying. Not for me. Headache inducing. I still wonder how in this day and age some parents want multiple kids.
People have some obsession that their kids are loved by other people and an extension of themselves.Thread on reddit you folks will be interested in - someone has posted asking if others have noticed more parents bringing kids along to events.
I can't post a link but here is what she has written:
"Over the past few years I’ve noticed more and more other parents bringing their kids along to events that would normally be adult only.
I’ve been too a few dinner parties over the last few years where a couple will bring their kids along and then spend the whole time fussing over them. Celebratory dinners too for new jobs or whatever. My husbands friend brought along his two year old on a night out in Newcastle and then to watch Forest play the next day back in august. Im not talking about hosts of these events I mean guests just turning up with their kids. Saw a coupe refused entry to a wedding last summer because it was a child free wedding but the guests thought two kids wouldn’t make a difference.
This brings me on to what made me ask this question. On Sunday I’m going on a hen do, an air bnb with spa days, adults indoor play and then night events which includes raunchy games and sexy waiters. Not child friendly activities. Well, two of the party have announced they will be bring their kids along. One woman has a one year old she’s bringing and the other has a 3 and a 4 year old. What a way to ruin the two nights away!
I’m 38 so have been to loads of events over the years and no one brought their kids until the last few years!"
I have a lot of opinions (shock!) but mostly, I cannot possibly fathom why you'd want to bring a child to a hen party. I don't even want to be at a hen party!
It is really absurd how many people think anyone and everyone should have a baby regardless of how young they are, being in poor health, etc. On one of the feminism-related threads here there was a poster who knew someone with a severely disabled teenage daughter who has no chance of ever living on her own or supporting herself - much less a baby. But social services told her parents that when she reached 18 she should no longer have the contraceptive implant (which was to stop her periods because she could not cope with them) as she "had a right" to have a baby!someone told me i'm getting to the age where i should 'really be' thinking about having kids.. i'm fucking 21
i'm really not arsed about kids, 90% sure i don't want them, but things like that do upset me
Because being a parent is their whole world, personally and life. How dare they be excluded!“parents: not everything is about you” needs to be the next thread title
i noticed that too in his insta comments, like he wrote an honest and frank article about why he doesn’t want kids, doesn’t think they would fit into his life, would mean he would have to give up things he enjoys….. and there are parents commenting like “yes know exactly where you’re coming from! people ask me when i’m going to have my seventh child all the time!”
why do parents want so desperately to be included in everything?! it’s like if we all went and joined a mother and baby group.
I might hire a group of paid actors to sit around my deathbed. That actually sounds quite cool, will also ask them to do some ShakespeareAlso you’ll die all alone rather than gathering your kids around your death bed (because everyone dies like rich women in period dramas) and traumatising them by making them witness you die.
This is shocking, I'm sorry you had to deal with this.A little bit off the current conversation, but I went to my works Christmas do last night. I was talking to a male colleague and he asked me if I had children (we were talking about Vagas so nothing related!) I said I didn't and he replied that he just assumed I would. I said I have a dog. He then started asking why I did have children?! I was so shocked I just blurted out "because I fucking hate children" then tried to backtrack to a more polite (god knows why) tactic of explaning that I'd never felt the urge for kids. He still didn't get the message and started asking what my husband and I do with all our free time like he absolutely could not believe that we had so much time on our hands!! It was the way that he said it like I must have a completely empty worthless life without children to occupy my free time!! Like what the actual?! Then he started asking if my husband likes football and could not believe it when I said no, he doesn't like any sport. He was incredulous! I was so upset I made my excuses from the conversation and left the party.
My previous job was at a company where having dogs not kids was the norm so I never encountered this kind of thing before so have been a bit blasé about people challenging me on my lifestyle choices before. I clearly need to think of some better responses to idiots like this!
SAME HERE!!!! It's SO tedious.I’ve had to leave the Elle Darby / Elle Swift threads, as she’s pregnant and EVERYONE is just discussing their own pregnancies/children and being unable to get pregnant etc etc. Like make your own threads for that please![]()
exactlyI am struggling to see what this post adds to this thread exactly? Why would we want to find a post about our own thoughts and feelings that we have already said on here. What is it that you are trying to achieve? I am not trying to be mean but this thread is for us at childfree people to post about in a safe place, not for parents to come and tell us how we should feel.