This will be long, as all my posts are, since I haven't posted in a while
Bit of background; I'm 26, lived in pubs for the last 19.5 years and have worked in current pub since I turned 18. I never chose this job.
Right I'll start with a quick question. Do you (personally) feel that men get less flack for being child-free than women? I've never heard a man be told 'oh, you'll change your mind' or anything the like. I mean I know it must happen but to what extend are they villainised like women are.
Why do people say that being childfree isn't a personality trait and get annoyed when someone (like me, for example) say they hate kids and don't want them but if they're always gushing about how they want kids or how their kid managed not to tit itself it's all praise and shining eyes?
So the pub had a Christmas party the other night for the customers, they don't pay and they get entertained and buffeted to their hearts content blah blah. I've been wearing makeup and dresses more lately just because I feel like it. This night I felt like I looked really good (and I did but that's not the point). This lady comes to the bar, regular customer for the last 10 years at least, I see her at least once a week. She's in her 70's I believe. She came to the bar to get a drink and she was saying how nice I looked and how I looked happy and I was 'glowing' (should've seen it coming from here). I honestly thought she was just being nice for the sake of it (it made me feel good since an old man the night before had said I was massive) and then I'm doing her drink and she leans in and goes (straight quote) 'if you don't mind me asking, are you expecting?', and I just stood there and went 'no, I hate kids' and I basically RAN to the other side of the bar where my dad was working and just fell on the floor scream-laughing. Like who tf asks that? Imagine if I was trying and couldn't get pregnant? What would she do if I just started sobbing? (A previous employee/friend did that) Like how rude can people be? Why does everyone assume a happy woman must be pregnant? She could've just said I look nice and leave it there.
Don't even get me started on the vilification of single mums. It's the dad that has walked off, not the mum, think you're battling on the wrong side champ